If the TV show is showing a fair representation of them as a couple with Tori avoiding Dean by using everyone else as an excuse to give attention too but Dean. Her "gays" are whom she is close too not Dean. Dean seems so sad about missing Tori and him as a couple. When Dean eventually walks away Tori will be so sad she took his love and attention for granted!
shareI am so annoyed at tonight's show. Is it me? I am thinking that she is sooo insecure and jealous. Every time Dean finds a hobby, he sabotages him. Tonight took the cake ... telling Dean that he is trying to fix something or run from something, just because he wants to race. God forbid the guy have some time to himself. I think she is going to squeeze him back to Canada. They have to have a stressful and busy life, so if he wants to go off and race to blow off some steam, or bond with the guys, so what??!!
I think she is used to her gay friends NOT doing that, so it seems to her that there is something wrong with Dean (NOT!)
Then she lets him entertain the idea of going to therapy??? He needs to walk away, its getting to be too much
My opinion, but watching makes me feel suffocated.
Why doesnt he tell her, If I want to take a day for myself then thats what I will do!
I was watching tonight and Tori has a ton of interests outside her marriage (planning parties, writing books, designing jewelry, hanging out with her gays, designing clothes). Dean deserves to have something that he can do outside the marriage and if riding bikes makes him happy Tori needs to stop her biatching.
Dean is sad because Tori has no time for him. Tori is busy satisfying her own goals. But, If Dean gets interested in something else she treats him like dirt. Tori has no idea how to keep a husband. She is the one with the problem. Dean is not perfect...But Tori is the one with ego problems. She has all her "gays" living and breathing for her and she treats them harshly lately. Tori is spoiled. Tori is the one changing and it doesn't look good on her! Tori never seems available for her husband that's why he got a hobby because he like everyone else needs a life and Dean is too much a man to just sit home and wait for Tori to get off the telephone!
shareI felt so bad for Dean when Tori lit into him like she did. She went on and on about how much she does and pretty much said he did nothing. That was cruel. You have to be careful what you say to your partner when you are angry and fighting. Somethings hurt deep and you can't always recover from that.
Tori is over-worked (by her own choice) and is acting very selfishly. I don't get her sometimes. When they took that RV trip to Patsy's. She was so upset that she didn't get time alone with Dean and actually had the nerve to Blame Dean for that. I watched and just shook my head yelling at my tv (I know that sounds nuts but don't we all do that once in a while!), "your pushing him away. You were the one who didn't want to go camping, you were the one who insisted on all the shopping stops, etc". Poor guy can't seem to catch a break unless he follows her around like a puppy.
Dean is entitled to interests outside of their marriage, friends outside of hers. It seems to be all about her needs, what She wants and that really isn't fair.
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I actually feel bad for Dean, too. I think part of the problem is that Tori & Dean fell in love "at first sight," and spent every single second together for the first year (or more) that they were together. Having a family changes things, and putting career first (which Tori seems to be doing) changes things, too. Tori is a self-admitted workaholic, and she seems to love overextending herself & working herself ragged. She seems like a great mom & a caring person, and I understand that balancing family life with a demanding career isn't easy. But I think Tori isn't used to Dean NOT following her around... She seems to be having trouble adjusting to a real life relationship outside of the lust phase, when you want to spend every second together. Dean has his own hobbies & interests, and that should be okay - but Tori wants him to want to be with her every second.
shareI don't know. Honestly, I was kind of siding with Tori. Especially after watching all the way through last night's episode. It seemed like Dean had lost his confidence so he was avoiding things that made him insecure.
He was devoting too much time to the bike because it gave him a thrill, but that made him avoid looking for auditions and interacting with the family.
I want him to be happy too, but I think he has been dealing with something in his own way and by not opening up about it, it's causing issues.
PRINCESS OF SOUL GLO
Dean is dealing with Tori being way to busy for him. Dean loves her and their family, but Tori just doesn't seem to care or love him anymore. She treats him very badly.
shareMaybe she's busy with all her projects because that's what pays the bills? Has anyone thought of that? He hasn't been working besides Santa Baby 2 and that TV Guide thing. Plus his latest hobby is becoming an obsession. He comes back from his press thing in NY and instead of wanting to do family time he has a meeting for his hobby. Dude really? It takes 2 and if obviously he doesnt' have an issue with her hobbies because they pay the bills.
& so the lion fell in love with the lamb. What a stupid lamb. What a sick, masochistic lion.
Dean, Dean, Dean. What a Dean. lol!
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