I'm kind of a socially anxious shut in, the turn out for my wedding is going to suck
shareJust be happy that you've found the love of your life to marry and enjoy the day. Don't worry about small things like lack of friends making you anxious. Once the day is over, you have your whole life ahead of you with your partner and you'll grow in confidence and stature.
shareYou don't have to have a huge wedding. There are no rules. You can have just a simple wedding/party, but still a lot of fun with those few close to you. A lot of these movies make it look like weddings are these big, extravagant party with so many people. The truth is, MANY people invited to weddings that big are not actually close to the bride and groom. I have heard from friends where they have been randomly invited to someone's wedding, and they hardly even know the people who invited them or aren't close to them at all.
shareActually hiring wedding guests actually happens here in Japan for these type of men. They get paid handsomely too. I'd love to be hired as a wedding guest here and pretend to be the groom's English teacher. He'd probably make me do a speech though...
shareI have zero friends.
If my boyfriend and I ever get married(we've been together 13 years, so if feels like we're already married) we're gonna get married in a courthouse.
I honestly would have no one to invite.
I'm in the same boat. However, I'm not too worried about a wedding. We can always hire escorts. Some of them are extremely ugly and exceptionally cheap. We'll be fine. Keep your head up and remember that having no friends beats having really crappy friends.
shareWeddings are totally out of control these days. People are choosing to pay for a freaking three-ring circus wedding extravaganza INSTEAD OF BUYING A HOUSE.
I think the best thing is for the two people to go down to Mexico or Jamaica and spend a few days in an "all-inclusive" resort. The prices are extremely reasonable because all your food and alcohol, lots of fun activities and sometimes even your airfare are included in the price. You can get married on the beach there with flowers in your hair and it will be very romantic. Just tell anyone back home that you decided to have a "destination wedding," which is very trendy. No friends? No problem!
About 20 years ago, I was actually in a groomsman in a wedding for a guy I barely knew. I thought it was so sad and pathetic that I would be called by this guy. He was not likeable at all either, but I also felt very sorry for him, so I agreed. When I met the other groomsmen they all were in about the same situation as me. It was so weird.
sharewho cares your marring the love of your life, get married in vegas :)
shareYour wedding day should be about you and your partner, not how many friends you can have there and who to impress. Most wedding now a days are about showing off *beep* you dont really have and cant afford. Ridiculous. Have a small wedding or celebration, get married somewhere else, just you and your partner, if you want yours and your so's family, just invite them, problem solved. You'll make friends one day if not you're certainly not alone. Try, but sometimes things just dont work out.
Everyone sees what you appear to be, few experience what you really are.
I for one dread marriage more than anything else. Marriage is only a downside for men. If you want to give away half of what you earn and possibly more with child support, then get married. The whole thing is a scam and I am glad I was smart enough not to have ever gotten married as many men are nowadays.
shareI hate going to wedding because I'm sick of seeing everyone else finding their marital happiness but myself. As for groomsmen? I might be able to scrounge up a few. It would be a close shave though.
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