Where's the compassion?
After seeing this recently on Sundance, I did some Googling. My God, the comments about this man: "One less pervo." "He got what he deserved." On and on and on. I cannot undertstand the hatred, rage and scorn for him.
Personally, I think this man was a victim of his own self-hatred. He was affluent, well-educated, his coworkers valued him as a highly intelligent employee. He had to know his rather unusual proclivities could lead to some horrible consequences.
And that's why I don't put him in the same category as his so-called friends (who unceremoniously dumped him at the hospital). These other men seemed more like societal outsiders. They didn't have families or high-status careers. No real reputations in their communities.
But our guy had so much to live for, it seemed. (I'm sorry, I'd rather not type his name. I know it's all over the internet, but still....) He loved his son, had a great relationship with his ex-wife and birth family. He had love and respect. John Paulsen, the actor who portrayed him in the film, said he believes he was on a path to self-destruction after suffering from injuries sustained from a motorcycle accident and personal failures.
I can't help but wonder if this was some extreme version of self-harm. Pardon me for being gross, but I saw a still from the actual video, and, um, er, his genitals looked so damaged, yet he CONTINUED with his behavior. I find that terribly odd, considering how most men are very protective of their privates.
Oh well. While I don't understand this man, neither do I understand the vitriol I see online. He was obviously in pain.
Call me crazy, but I just feel so sorry for him and his family.