It is very, very hard to wrap your head around the fact that the person you love cannot do or be what they used to, or that the change in them may be permanent. This is very true of head injuries but of other injuries as well. Any chronic condition cannot help but change relationship dynamics.
And while we can understand with our intellect why this has happened, our hearts and souls don't want to understand it - you just want the loved one to be as they were before. What's more, the loved one wants to be back to "normal" too, even if they can't understand how or why life has changed.
Such life changes force one to go through a grief process much like death does. It takes time to get to acceptance, and there will always be days when you still can't accept, when you still resent it. But you keep going as best you can - as this man and his family were getting to by the end.
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