Well if you put it that way, I guess you could say that I am minimizing it in a literal sense, but at least logically. I moreso meant that I'm not minimizing it in an inflammatory sense by flat out saying that rape is no big deal, because it is. And I am nowhere near denying that there is no traumatizing impact victims go through and they have my sympathy. However, attributing it as far worse than a painful death is a bit of a stretch, my friend. I think we just distort the horrifying uncertainty that comes with death so much to the point where it becomes easier to attribute some things as being worse than it. The same could definitely be said about rape, yes, but not when the big D is in the picture. However, this all just my opinion at the end of the day, so maybe I'm just projecting here. And I am not disagreeing with all those factors about rape impact that you pointed out. My point here isn't that rape isn't horrible, my point is that it's utterly retarded how people will walk out of theater during a rape scene yet have no problem seeing people get fatally hacked, slashed, decapitated, impaled, shot, etc. I just hope those common reactions aren't a foreshadow of how they interpret these things in real life.
"I have no words..."
Yes it is weak because by doing so, they are forfeiting any chance for recovery and sacrificing their life over something that wasn't their fault. Suicide isn't the easy way out, it's the elimination of any possible hope. Recovery is always possible, no matter how hopeless you may feel it is at first, just as long as you're alive and keep moving. A victim may think that's easier said than done, but it's still possible and that's all that matters.
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Sugarminx
10 years ago
"However, attributing it as far worse than a painful death is a bit of a stretch, my friend. I think we just distort the horrifying uncertainty that comes with death so much to the point where it becomes easier to attribute some things as being worse than it."
I'm not 100% sure I understand what you're saying. I think you're saying that to say: 'rape is far worse than a painful death' is a stretch.
I don't know that I actually said (or even implied) that 'rape was far worse than a painful death'. I was simply talking about the traumatising effects of rape on its victims.
"...my point is that it's utterly retarded how people will walk out of theater during a rape scene yet have no problem seeing people get fatally hacked, slashed, decapitated, impaled, shot, etc."
Agree completely with you. We have become desensitised to murder scenes in movies. People will happily sit through the most gruesome and vicious killings. I think it's because we have a problem identifying with murder (especially the sensationalised versions we see on the movie screen), it's like we think it could never happen to us. But with rape, that's a little closer to home. Maybe we know someone who was raped or perhaps it's just easier to imagine being the victim of rape. Therefore, rightly or wrongly, we have a stronger reaction to it. Just my theory of course...
"Suicide isn't the easy way out, it's the elimination of any possible hope."
You're saying that from an outsider's point of view. The point of view of someone who was not the victim of the crime and who therefore, has no emotional attachment to it. Suicide may not be the easy way out *for you*, but it may well be for someone who cannot live with what was done to them. For some people hope *has* been eliminated.
"Recovery is always possible..."
Absolutely. Yes recovery *is* possible, but when you're at rock bottom and just cannot see the light at the end of the tunnel, you are incapable of recognising that. I've said it before and I'll say it again: we are dealing with people's emotions and they're not always rational - especially when someone is in deep, deep pain.
You fill me with inertia - George Spiggott
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