Leaves, Branches, and Roots?
That was madddd deep!
I gotta remember that!
Indeed...the leaves-branch-root analogy can be particularly helpful to use when you have children in school and they're worried that they're not popular or in a clique and they're not friends with all the popular cheerleaders and jocks. It's important to teach people things that they need to know, especially when they're still children and are willing to learn it. Even if they don't want to admit it, they need to hear it.
And I think if you have a child coming home crying because they're not popular and don't have a lot of friends, you need to explain that the popular snobs are like leaves, plenty of them but they can't give, only take and they'll only be there for a season. And then you have the semi-popular ones who are like branches, they can break off at any time, but then if you're fortunate, you'll have a FEW trustworthy root friends who will always be there with you.
I found a link to Madea's Leaf-branch-root theory:
Anybody who wants to see it, enjoy.
Thanks for the link!
I agree, that was one of the best lines in the play!
This time, Effie White's gonna win.
Whitney was wrong. Children are no longer the future.
Thanks for the link... but does any one have the text of that portion? I would love to have it so that I can look at it, frequently, and remind myself of those enlightening words.
I wouldlove the text if anyone has it.share
Sonny: I hear you Madea. It’s just… What am I supposed to do now?
Madea: Get up and go on with yo life. It’s alright to sit around and be depressed for a minute. Cry about it. Do whatever you have to, but don’t stay there too long. Get up and go on with yo life. You know what I… This is what I learned in all these years on this earth. If somebody wanna walk out of your life, let them go. Especially if you know you done done everything you can do. You done set around and been the best man or best woman you can be and they still want to go, let 'em go. Whatever they running after, they'll see what they had in a minute but by then it's gone be too late. 'Cause you'll sit there and you'll go... 'Cause half these people you be sittin around cryin about and worryin about, two three years from now you ain't even gone remember they last name. How many times you done seen folks somewhere and you be like "What the hell was I thinkin'?!" I done been there. I be like, "What was wrong with me? What was I going through? I must have been lonely as hell to hook up wit you!" Let folks go, Sonny. Some people come in your life for a lifetime, some come for a season. You got to know which is which. And you gone always mess up when you mix them seasonal people up with lifetime expectations. You can't... They got people that done got married with people they was only 'possed to be with for a season. They done got married to people they was only 'possed to be with for a season and they wonderin why they havin so much hell in they life. That was a person that was supposed to teach you one thing, you didn't know it, so you just fell in love, and now you wonderin why you ain't got no peace no where you go. No, no. Listen, I put everybody that come in my life in the category of a tree. Some people are like leaves on a tree. The wind blow they over here, they unstable. Blow the other way they over here. Ain't nothing... Season change, they wither and die. They gone. That's alright. That's some people. Most people in the world are like that. They just there to take from the tree. They ain't there to do nothin but take and give shade every now and then. That's all they can do. But don't get mad at people like that. That's who they are. They ain't gone never be nothing. That's what they put on this earth to but be what they are, a leaf. Some people are like a branch on that tree. You gotta be careful with them branches too 'cause they'll fool you. They'll get there and make you think they a good friend and they real strong, but the minute you step out, they on 'em. They'll break and leave you high and dry. But if you find you two or three people in your life that's like the roots at the bottom of that tree, you are blessed 'cause them the kind of people that ain't goin nowhere. They ain't worried about being seen. Don't nobody have to know that they know you. They ain't got to know what they doin for you. But if them roots wasn't there, that tree couldn't live. You understand? And they ain’t gotta whole… A tree can have a hundred million branches, but only a few roots down at the bottom to make sure it get everything it need. I’m tellin you Sonny, when you get you some roots, hold on to them, but the rest of them let it go. Just let it go. Let folks go.
Sonny: Aunt Madea, it’s not always that easy.
Madea: Ain’t nobody say it was gone be easy, but it’ll get easy when you learn to love yo self. When you get to a point in your life where you look at people and you go “Okay. Wait a minute. You or me?” you will make a decision. ‘Cause when you tellin folks to do something, and I never throw nobody away. I’ve never in my life just thrown nobody away. Just say “Look. Don’t bother me no more. Don’t talk to me.” I never done that. What I do is I tell you, I say “This thing you doin right here, that’s gone cause a problem. You need to fix that. ‘Cause if we gone be friends, we gone be cool, you got to fix that, and if you don’t, we gone have an issue.” If you see somebody fix it, or even tryin to fix it, that’s somebody that care. Keep them people around. That’s a leaf that’s tryin to grow up and be something else. You understand? But if you tell somebody that “What you doin is hurtin me and I need you to stop it.” and they keep doin it, they don’t care. Move on. Let ‘em go. No matter how much it hurt, let ‘em go. It’ll get easier. I promise you, everyday, it’ll get easier and easier and easier. But you just gotta make it through. You hear me Sonny?
Sonny: I do.
Madea: You see people you gotta learn how to be by yourself, son . People have to learn how to be alone. I don’t understand all these people always “Oh I need somebody. Lord, where is my man? Lord, where is my woman?” That is crazy as hell. If you don’t know how to be by yo self, what you gone do with somebody else? Stop praying about it. Shut up and wait! Go work on you. Hell that’s what that time is for to get yo self together. I’d rather be in a corner by myself with a puppy and a goldfish, and be happy, than to be sitting ‘round with somebody in my house, I’m wonderin what the hell they there for. You would be surprised the things people put up with just to have somebody say they love ‘em. That’s crazy. I don’t understand. I can’t live in dysfunction. I’m sorry. I’m sorry. I done come through too much. Been through hell and high water, to come there and let you come up in my adult life, when I’m supposed to be at peace, and givin me all kinda hell. Only two places on earth you gone have peace: the grave and yo house. Now if you can’t walk up in yo house, and you ain’t go no peace, something wrong. Something wrong. I’m sorry. People be rebuking Satan. I be rebuking Satan and beatin the hell out of everything up in there ‘til they get out. You got to go. This is mine. You hear me Sonny?
Sonny: I do.
Madea: Fo’ sho. You better hear me fo’ sho.