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Should have ended up with Emily/Sarah


Call me old school but I think he should have stayed with her Mom just because they had a child together.

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Nah, that's a poor excuse (or a good one) to stay with someone and pretend you love each other.

Its very important for a child to have both parents don't get me wrong, but it'll never last in the end if love is not there. Both the male and female will be locked up in a cage cause of it.

As seen the kid still has a good relationship with both her parents which doesn't always happen.

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Word.

Nah, that's a poor excuse (or a good one) to stay with someone and pretend you love each other.


On the bold: I have a friend whose parents almost separated (not divorced) but it took several years for them to reconcile and work out their problems. I would guess the dad had/has some sever insecurities and mental problems which contributed to the horrible communication and aloof relationship he had with his wife and kids. Problems still occur, as it does in all relationships - married or not, but the parents are friends and it's clear they care for one another. Since the kids never had a close relationship with the father it never really bothered that the parents stayed together. One thing my friend told me was that his older brother, who was still in elementary school at that time, said "Why don't you just divorce him?" to which his mom replied "No. I don't quit." It worked out in the end.

One thing I learned about my friend's parents' scenario was that working through rough patches is a must for any couple. If you can't do that then getting married should be off limits.

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Ah I see.

I do agree that couples must have a tough skin and it seems lately people loose patience a lot quicker.

Every couple will a def go through some rough days/moments, its just how you handle and recover from them. I guess Emily & Ryan could have tried harder for the sake of their kid + them as well since they clearly did have feelings for each other.

But if the relationship really felt like such a chore idk if staying together like that would be the best, at least try to stay friends with the parents though/seeing the kids every now and then which also doesn't always happen. But what do I know lol

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In that regard I like Will smiths approach, saying Divorce is not even an option


Don't know what Smith's approach was.

I guess Emily & Ryan could have tried harder for the sake of their kid + them as well since they clearly did have feelings for each other.


Don't know, from what I took from their relationship was that their union was out of convenience for the most part. I never sensed true feelings of want/need for each other. That's just the way I interpreted it.

But if the relationship really felt like such a chore


This what I got from Emily and Ryan. They were friends out of familiarity, and I felt that both, it looked like, acted rather nonchalant about the divorce. It just a "meh" type of attitude.


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Yea I didn't agree that they should have stayed together. Oh well, good movie though liked it.

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The better ending would be him ending up wih no one. I didn't feel much for them when they got together at the end. And that thing about the book? Hah! He kept the book because there was no point in giving it to her when she was seeing someone and he would gain nothing on it!

And YOU have meddled with the primal forces of nature, and YOU...WILL...ATONE!

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i think what is great about that he doesn't is thinking in perspective of what can happen, you fall in love, and at times it doesn't work out. i liked he ended up wiht april because i remember first watching the trailer and thinking in first hand judgement that he wouldn't likely end up with her. when i gradually got into the film the more likely i thought 'maybe' and when it got to the last scene of maya and will talking about the, jayne eyre book that is when you think 'definitely, maybe' up to the point it becomes 'definitely'. you may not at first seen it comming whihc intrigues you to watch and that is one of the things i like about this movie. i did not expect April to be the one.

i would always wish when i don't to have popcorn. it kept me guessing whilst enjoying the film and find in the film some thought of reality, first love and the mother with father isn't always going to be how you planned in the head. fine if he did end up with Emily/Sarah but i don't think in my opinion that the ending wouldn't have been as good as the one we get with April.

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I can't remember the name of the film, or anything else about it (can anyone help me out?), but maybe 20 years ago there was one with the gorgeous line: "It's better to come from a broken home than to live in one". Sounds like something that might have come from Pay It Forward, but I don't think that's the one.

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the point of the movie isn't divorce and children. it's about how precious, elusive and meaningful love is. love is hard to find and even then it's hard to keep or reach out to. yet with all and all of the hardships it should never be given up. don't let go if it's that important to you. even if it hurts.
Will's sucky start at his job, his actual job with the phone, takes a turn right when he admits what he believes in - hope.

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no. Stay together for the kids never lasts all that much longer and if it does they live life being miserable

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I will not call you old school. I will call you stupid, stay with someone because they have a kid together??? For all we know she might have cheated on him a second time, we know she did it once and that would be a deal breaker for me. I would never forgive someone that cheated on me so if this movie had been about me there wouldn't have been a kid to begin with!

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I disagree.

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