Your son is dead, nothing is going to bring him back, let it go. Accidently hitting someone is not the same is slitting their throat. The laywer was hardly a murderer. Ethan's charachter was annoying and I was hoping the laywer would run him over in the end. And if Ruth wasn't such a bitch and pestered her husband every 10 minutes, none of this would have happened.
shareLosing a child like that is devasting, accident or not. No, it wasn't murder, but the fact that a human being would drive away after hitting someone, is as much, a murder, since they didn't care enough to stop and take the blame for the accident. I agree with you 100% on the fact that Ruth is basically responsible for what happened. Ruffalo's character was sort of weak, if not, he should have just told her, that we'll be home when we get home and for her to stop calling them on "his time with his son".
shareOP If someone hit a person you cared about and kept on driving.You would be ok with that and Am not saying Ruffalo's character is a bad person but he screwed up big time and deserved jail time.
shareCharacters like Ethan drive me nuts, it's hard to believe that someone would lack so much common sense. He did almost everything opposite of what a *normal* person would do being put in the same position. Yes, of course you have to grieve for the loss of a child, however if your actions then after make YOU the bad guy (i.e. planning to execute the killer) what makes you any better than the one who committed the bad act in the first place? I don't think most people would throw the rest of the life they have away (with a wife and a young daughter) just to seek some sort of revenge ... especially after everything you read about how it doesn't take the pain away or bring the lost person back. Ethan was someone who was very out of touch, probably was before the accident.
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Actually everything you just said regarding how 'off' he was in his seeking revenge, his irrationality, his rage, is all what makes him human. You would be surprised how you can twist and change and be driven to acts of damn near insanity when something, like the death of your child, happens to you. I remember Joaquin said that he spoke to parents whose children had been killed by drunk drivers and in hit and runs and what shocked him was the unspeakable rage that embroiled these nice, normal people.
You're from the outside looking in, which means you can't possibly know how every person will react to a horror like this.
"Why would a banana grab another banana? Those are the kinds of questions I don't want to answer."
Just like everyone reacts differently to grief, may not go through all the stages in the right order, everyone would react differently to a child's unexpected death. Especially if it was preventable and the person who did it was a coward, and efforts at justice were roadblocked. There is no definition of normal to this situation. Some people could say it was God's will and forgive without any resolution, another would do what Ethan did and try to take the law into his hands. But seeing that Ruffalo's character was suffering enough without being punished legally or by Ethan shooting him brought him back to "normal". I really think until that moment he hadn't fully embraced what he had done.
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I admit Ethan did go over the top, but I think what really pissed him off was when he found out the Dwight had done it all along and was his lawyer, and did not own up to admitting responsibility.
"Fuggedabout Joe the Plumber, what about Don the Jeweler?".
Agree about the ex-wife, disagree about just letting it go. You make it sound like it's as simple as somebody stealing your newspaper.
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Agreed. Everything was a sad mistake, and until there Dwight is most to blame. Marginally, even Dwights wife for calling him again and again.
But once Ethan decides to shoot Dwight, at that point Ethan is the guilty one in the movie - because he has been negligent as a parent, anfd now he's ready to kill somebody else
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I agree he shouldn't have answered his phone, but the ex wife was a stupid bytch, he said the game ran late and he was getting the kid home, she didn't need to call again. It's still his fault and he should have got his kid to answer, but I strongly disliked the ex wife's character, as well as her douche bag partner.
To all the people saying 'get over it', seriously? Just...seriously? Yeah he shouldn't have gone so far but unless you've been in such a situation you don't know how you'd react and to say get over it is really stupid.
Oh, really? Are you saying that if your child (or any one of your loved ones) had been killed in a hit and run accident, you'd be able to just "let it go"? You wouldn't want justice? You wouldn't grieve? You wouldn't be angry? You wouldn't be devastated? What a heartless person you are.
shareI don't think he means one should not be angry or not grieve or that he is heartless.He would want Ethan to have peace of mind, not to be in pain.
One would be all those things. But isn't strange that husband and wife would not get closer to each other with a loss of this kind, would not cling to each other trying to comfort the other person? Is it more difficult to a man? Also they had a daughter to pay attention to, to even show more affection to.
Wanting to kill another person, especially accomplishing the deed would have made Ethan worse than Dwight. It would be deliberate, not accidental as hitting the boy was.Of course, his crime was more the running away than hitting the child.