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Why Did She Want Him??

posted 15 years ago by slthompson2
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Okay, so maybe as a woman with brains and taste I shouldn't even bother asking...

Why the heck does Jennifer Garner's character even want the low-life? He's trash! He objectifies and demeans women! How is a man like this supposed to be attractive? And what kind of idiotic woman falls for a man like that? Honestly, I spent the entire film trying to figure out how drugged-up the screen-writers must have been to honestly believe that a man like this would be appealing to women. Are there really that many women with that low of self-esteem that they would even cast a glance at a man like this? If so, I guess the world is filled with a lot more truly brain-dead people than I thought. Scary.

[–] nikkolerae 15 years ago

I understand what you're saying. Like really, WTF was she thinking by still wanting him or taking a second chance on him? But I think it had more to do with the fact that she knew the REAL him. She caught a glimpse of what kind of person deep down he really was so she believed and held onto that. Not to mention the fact that she fell in love with him when they were just kids...so there was that too. Sure he was arrogant and all of the above but she was still in love with him and had never really gotten over him.

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[–] ShelbyTMItchell 15 years ago

Maybe she still loved him. Despite being such a jerk and all of that. Deep down, she did love him.

[–] havelovewillltravel 15 years ago

she was in love with that he used to be because even though he was a jerk he showed his REAL side to her

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[–] CromeRose 15 years ago

Oh please! Give me a break. I'm a nice, respectful, good-looking guy and in my experience I find that most women go for the jerks. For some reason they like guys who treat them like *beep* - they like to moan about how bad their boyfriend treats them but they keep on going back to him.

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[–] wisherc13 15 years ago

A lot of us have this wierd complex where we cling to the guys that treat us terrible because we hold on to the idea that either we can change him, he will change for us, or that there's another "good" side of him that only we get to see.

There's also the idea that, if we let go of the guy, we always think maybe there was something we could have done to make it work- don't like the idea of giving up on something/someone.

Anywho- it's not like it's a one way street, tons of guys are with bitches just because they're hot, so let's not make this a double standard.

[–] subzero288 13 years ago

You said it brother.

[–] catoelder 12 years ago

You are absolutely correct CromeRose .
Women always want what they can't have.
As everyone knows they also always go for the "bad boys" .
Look at Sandra Bullock who is not stupid,and who she ended up marrying and the ensuing humiliation she got.And she could have had anybody!!!!

[–] iowastate-1 10 years ago

I've always been a nice guy the type who wants a home with a white picket fence and that bit - the kind a girl is happy to bring home and introduce to her parents but after a year or two even the nice girls seem to want some excitement and take off to for a fling with a bad boy who will treat them badly or crudely.

[–] tatorhead328 15 years ago

Seriously... if a guy came up to me and said "I've slept with all the bridesmaids but you so far, want to make it happen?" ..... Um, NO. That's disgusting. At that part in the movie, I seriously had to ask if girls are REALLY turned on by the fact that he's slept with a million women. He's basically just offering them an STD.

[–] allisonarf 15 years ago

I wanted Jenny to end up with the hot, nice doctor instead, to be honest.

[–] gommetje 15 years ago

Don't forget that he is not just a jerk. He is a very hot jerk, that also happens to be famous and rich. Nice, hot, famous, rich. Three out of four? That will turn most women on, no matter how may other women he has slept with before them. Maybe even more so, because they secretly hope to be the last one.

[–] thenYES 14 years ago

Yeah, that's what I was thinking the whole movie. Are there really women who go for that sort of thing? I mean, I myself can't resist the bad boy types, but not when they are crude and disgusting like that! It seemed a little far-fetched for all these women to be so taken in by those horrible, stupid things he said. Not charming, at all.

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[–] AngieeeBabayy 15 years ago

Well, your forgetting that Connor was her past boyfriend, in that time he was everything she wanted. He actually did love her too, but that ended because he learned his uncles ways. And she never really did get over that, and him.

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[–] jfuman 15 years ago

This movie is painfully boring.

Jennifer Garner is too hot for Matthew, his character, and this film. Also, judging from Juno, too good an actress.

[–] catoelder 12 years ago

Actually, Connor was a nice, well behaved, respectful boy up until the school dance where SHE went to dance with ,and gave her first kiss to, some other teen "bad boy" .
This hurt Connor a lot, and he resolved to never care enough about a girl to be in that situation again.She caused the big change in him, not his uncle.
So, ladies, once more, YOU turn the good men into jerks by your behaviour.

[–] pinkxcouturee 15 years ago

People don't think logically when they fall in love. Intelligent women fall for jerks all the time. But by the end of the movie, he showed that he really did change. She wasn't being stupid; she forgave him because she knew he was being sincere and knew she'd regret it later if she turned him down.

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[–] edorapietrafesa 15 years ago

I KNOW!!!!!!!!!!! it's so funny to me. i used to laugh at girls in high school and college who were pathetic enough to go after scumbag insecure small penis losers like connor. they were obviously pathetic. and they always got used by some mousse haired low self esteem loser who ended up marrying some skanky sorority girl. it was like...why'd you even bother with him? sad sad sad. for some reason, my sophomore year of college was the worst with girls in my dorm letting any loser bed them and then every one of them got dumped and these girls were predominantly from small towns, grew up fundamentalist, and one of them got an STD and had to go to student health. like chlamydia or something. i grew up playing hard core sports and was never ever attracted to these scumbags ever. i always like the goofy guys cause they were 10 times more secure than the smooth talkers.

[–] kanimaki 15 years ago

Jennifer's character had known him her whole life. When he was still a kind loving caring sensitive little boy. He started making out with the ghost-girl because he wanted her to be jealous. Which is what his uncle Wayne taught him. He started his womanizer behaviour because he was scared of commitment (I think?). If she had known him after he became brainwashed by uncle Wayne I don't think she'd fall for him.

[–] mv5 15 years ago

Believe it or not this happens MOSTLY in the movies and not real life. The directors of these kinds of movies are ALWAYS wishful thinking men.

(unattractive man gets pursued by women) its done so REAL women worry about their men, when theres nothing to worry about. These movies make somuch money and are popular because it relies on a fear tactic. (watch this movie so you can learn how to act like a real woman and get a man) girls, you dont have to lower yourselves or sleep with stupid men, real men will date girls regardless of what style she has or if she wears makeup etc.

There are no movies with unattractive women getting a bunch of guys. (im sure there must be a couple floating around because evrythings been made into a movie, but you know what i mean). In my opinion there are way to many misogynistic movies around and it encourages the immature guys to disrespect women and think its funny when they manipulate people.

[–] C.S.Wood 15 years ago

Why the heck does Jennifer Garner's character even want the low-life? He's trash! He objectifies and demeans women! How is a man like this supposed to be attractive?

Yeah, that sounds about right. Ladder Theory kind of explains it (http://www.laddertheory.com/).

Let's not forget that women seemed to want him (competition) and he had a lucrative job (money/power). And most importantly, he looks like Matthew McConaughey, and I've watched enough of these movies to know that no woman can resist a man that looks and sound like Matthew McConaughey. The man is magic.

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