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Why would Einar and Lili have different personalities though?


That's the main thing I didn't get. Isn't it the same person regardless of the gender/sex?

As Einar he was fun, outgoing, easygoing, always laughing, liked art, loved Gerda and was attracted to her.

As Lili he was far more introverted, didn't smile/laugh as much, no longer cared about art, no longer loved Gerda and wasn't attracted to her, plus a lot more emotional.

Of course it's a difficult experience and one would be expected to be a little uneasy and emotional and so on, but I don't see why the personality would change so much to the point that he/she is basically a completely different person.

Like if Star Trek is your favorite show, and you get a sex change, will it no longer be your favorite show? Will you no longer love your family? Will you have different hobbies? Why? The way it's portrayed makes it seem more like a multiple personalities type of thing.

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Maybe it’s because Einar, the man, embodied everything that Lili was not. For so long Einar had had to swallow down the feelings he had, ignore what was different about himself and pretend that he was Einar, the man. It was obviously a struggle for him to fully realise what he wanted and as a caring individual he wanted to do it without causing too much distress to those he loved.
In becoming Lili he could be everything that he couldn’t be as Einar. Lili was his release. She was a different person both physically and mentally, emotionally and in personality. Perhaps she had to be for his own sake, or that of his wife’s?
I read that when he transitioned to Lili full time, the art was abandoned because that had been something Einar had done.
Perhaps the art was a way to escape for Einar and so when he had transitioned to Lili and got what he wanted, he didn’t have to escape through art anymore?
Besides, the film was a fictionalised portrayal of the real people from a fictional book, so it potentially didn’t show the realities of the whole thing. I also read that Gerda identified as lesbian especially when they moved to Paris and Einar lived as Lili there, so although it may have been a challenge to see the man she had loved turn in to a woman, if she still loved him as a her in lesbian form, there wouldn’t be so much angst. I also read that Gerda and Einar were both homosexuals and that’s why they married; they understood each other and so could both ‘hide’ from the world that perhaps would not accept them yet. However, perhaps with modern labels, Gerda would now be known as pansexual? She loved the person.
It is interesting also to read that some think Einar was a hermaphrodite; in the film it was not explained and focused on about the nosebleeds and the intense cramping Einar experienced every month. Immediately to me it sounded like psychosomatic period pains but then, if indeed he did have one ovary within him, then it wouldn’t have been psychosomatic.

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