Well, if your woman does not want to have sex right now, what other options do you know of? If you have a third option I am more than willing to hear about it.
Well, if talking implies begging, then I guess there are only two options. If she's not in the mood though, chances are even if you convince her to do it, it won't really be that great anyways.
Um, no. "Whipped" is when you pay for more than your fair share and are still at her beck and call. If she's paying more than 50%, then she is paying your way and you should be at her beck and call.
Why? I mean, I'd see it as whipped either way, if you're at her beck and call, regardless if she's paying.
So you are just making up numbers now. I see. It seems to me like you don't want to answer the question because you know it will show that I am right in that you pay the freight and she controls the engine.
I'm afraid I'm picking a random number because I don't calculate how many times I've paid for dinner versus how many times a woman has. Plus, what if we split the bill?
I'm not trying to lie to you, I just don't know. It's close enough to the middle for me not to know though, if that helps? But lets say 60% of me paying, if that helps illustrate your point.
In the history of man, arranged marriages were the norm. Marrying for love was the stuff of fairy tales. That is basically forced sex when you pay for the woman.
And some cultures still do arranged marriages. And you'll probably find it naive, but I still think marriage is about love, regardless if you feel its the stuff of fairytales. Maybe that's why we're at an impasse in this discussion?
It's not me wanting to change that. That has always been the way of the world. Sex for money. Sometimes it is a formal agreement, as in prostitution or an arranged marriage, and other times it is a more informal agreement, like being a trophy wife or staying with a man because he is a good provider.
I think this is a little cynical. Do you believe every woman you've ever been with has only been interested in some form of financial gain?
If you have a relationship where the money brought in is equal and you both have equal say over when and where you have sex, then you have the first perfect relationship in the history of the world. Congratulations!
Maybe I'm too young to approach this aspect where the financial standings of both partners plays such a pivotal role in the bedroom.
And what I mean by the fact you are changing the topic, is that I keep asking how does this relate to a woman allowing herself to be raped? In this film, for example, finances play no role in her predicament, when she is about to be raped in the woods.
Obviously I was referring to a married man. Is his money his to do what he wants with? Is a married woman's body hers to do what she wants with. In both examples the people are married. And if you need to know, they are in a community property state. Do both parties have equal say in both matters?
If your whole argument is based on a simple marriage scenario, then unfortunately I can't shed much light on it, having never been married. But yes, in a marriage money would be shared. And body's would in that physical interaction would (hopefully) occur.
But a body isn't property, and can't be seen as such, which makes the comparison problematic. That's like saying "if the man need money, he can cut off one of her limbs and sell it. Why shouldn't he, aren't they supposed to share everything?" Still comparing her body to money, but as you can see, it makes no sense.
You know, you are the only one talking about rape here. I haven't mentioned it in the last ten or so messages. I have been talking about the equality of relationships and you keep hearing "rape" instead. You don't seem to grasp that.
[/quote]You do realize that many things in life can't be changed just because you have second thoughts. And in those cases where you can change your mind, you often have to pay a severe penalty.
If you sign a contract and change your mind, too bad. If you jump out of a window and then suddenly decide that suicide is a bad idea, tough noogies. If you buy a car and then change your mind, you pay a big price.
Jessie essentially asked for it when she told Carlos that he's a guy that she would have liked to have sex with. How can anyone not take that as an offer?
Then, she went to an out-of-the-way church with the guy. It should have been obvious that she would have no options if he tried to have his way with her. She was ready to go all the way with him.[/quote]
The reason I keep talking about rape, is that was what the whole topic started on? And you said she deserved to be raped by Carlos. That was what I addressed at the beginning, and I'm trying to go back to that, not let the argument derail into talks of marriage, money, and other things that don't relate to the film.
Most men would.
I notice you didn't answer the question.
I used to be married. But she spent all of our money and drove us $20,000 further into debt every year and she rarely wanted sex. It got to the point where it was cheaper to divorce her.
No sarcasm, I am sorry. That sounds horrible, and I can see why you're more skeptical because of it.
Now I play the field with my eyes open. It is very obvious that all relationships really boil down to two things; money and sex. Oh, money is sometimes disguised as dinner and a movie or a gift. And sex is sometimes just the promise of sex. Once enough money is spent, she will allow the sex to happen.
As I said before, after your previous situation, I can see why you'd see it like that. It's just a shame, for you as well, to sell yourself short and assume you're only worth how much you spend. You should have more faith in yourself, amigo.
Yes. I believe in equality. Unfortunately, not enough other people also believe that and still stick to the old ways where the woman always calls the shots. You are one of those old-timers, as you have admitted.
I don't recall saying a woman always calls the shots, but I do recall saying she has the right to do what she wants with her body.
If the equality doesn't quickly balance in a potential relationship, I am ready to move on. In other words, holding back sex for money won't keep me interested for long since I can get that down on the corner.
Well, if someone is holding out sex to get money, you're making a smart move moving on quickly.
Yes, I have fallen for that system several times. I try not to fall for it, but almost all relationships get to that point sooner or later. If a man wants sex he has no choice but to cough up the dough.
I respect your honesty in the matter. I respectfully disagree, but appreciate your candor in it.
Thanks for the replies!
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