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I don't get it

posted 16 years ago by fairyjen85
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So many people seem so upset about the open displays of sexual activity. They say, right off the bat how they came to be. How they were best friends since elementary school and the sex came later. How they were going against the grain and wanting to be in a relationship. Yeah, it’s not ‘the normal’ thing to do. They loved each other. They had problems like normal teenagers. They were SMART. It almost seems like if they were dumb kids, if they were druggies or witches or some other form of ‘oddity’ it would be okay for them to be sexually active in a small group.

There is a whole community of people out there who are happy in polygamist relationships. They’re smart and they hold stable well paying jobs. They have kids and houses and mini-vans. Step outside your normal realm that you’ve put yourself and be open minded; then watch it again.

“Smart kids to have sex; it happens.”

[–] freddymaya 16 years ago

I love you. :)

[–] Violet_Loves_Iliona 16 years ago

Thank you, fairyjen85 - you have said it so well that all I will add is that I agree wholeheartedly, and thank you for expressing it so eloquently and concisely! :)

Violet

[–] heffay111 16 years ago

This movie managed to make teenage group sex boring. I wouldn't think it was possible.

[–] rallygolucky 16 years ago

Sorry, but that wasn't love. When you love someone you don't peer pressure them to being only one certain way, you don't demand they not have relationships with other people, you don't make them feel like they have to hide part of their true personality, you don't try to keep them dependent on you, you don't do something as dramatic as getting plastic surgery so you can remain friends, etc. That was a bunch of dumb kids thinking they were doing something "different" and making themselves miserable in the process.

[–] eyelash_wishes 12 years ago

"Sorry, but that wasn't love. When you love someone you don't peer pressure them to being only one certain way, you don't demand they not have relationships with other people, you don't make them feel like they have to hide part of their true personality, you don't try to keep them dependent on you, you don't do something as dramatic as getting plastic surgery so you can remain friends, etc. That was a bunch of dumb kids thinking they were doing something "different" and making themselves miserable in the process. "

Thank you! It was a very unhealthy relationship. Maybe some people really can have such relationships (I don't know so I won't agree or disagree) but what this group of friends had would fall under TRV (teen relationship violence). I feel there needs to be more education on this, what some think as the "norm" in their relationships when they are teenagers are in fact not normal nor healthy and may sometimes lead to domestic violence in future adult relationships.

http://www.teenrelationships.org/respect/

[–] Verdoux-1 16 years ago

I think that polygamy doesn't really work. The jealousy always gets in the way.

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"Time you enjoy wasting is not wasted time"

[–] CeilingofStars 15 years ago

Not all people feel jealousy (I don't), and for those that do, they realize it represents a problem in the existing relationship and is usually not related to the other people at all.

Polyamory can definitely work!

[–] davidbrookwell 11 years ago

Telekinesis can also definitely work. Plenty of things can work in theory. Reality, however, usually says different and is much uglier.

Word that this bunch was just a group of self-absorbed, self-righteous kids trying to do something *beep* that they thought put them above everyone else.