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Not a classic case of abuse

posted 17 years ago by zarina333
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I live in rural Vermont and so won't be able to see this film until it either comes to my university library or video store, but from what I read in the New York Times about this case, it doesn't fall within the category of wife beating/spousal abuse. It will probably distrub a lot of people to think about this Act of disfigurement as an Act of love, one that became indistinguishable from hate (a Lacanian psychoanalytic observation). This Act it seems to me was not configured within rational thought, but was an excessive expression of jouissance (excess and painful enjoyment); the "love story," as I expect occurs in the aftermath, and i'm especially interested to find out what their relationship is like in these later years, when passion must come from a different (non-sexual) source.

[–] NFNovia 15 years ago

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[–] ARoggen 10 years ago

I think he is borderline pd, among other things. I think he couldn't exist with the separation so was violent about keeping her. I think this is one way in which men express BPD. BPD is always thought of a woman's disease but I think that just as many men have it, but Psych. are not able to recognize it due to gender bias. I have seen other men have it, and to prevent independence, they will make sure your credit is destroyed, you lose your house, or licensing so you cannot work. There, dependency recreated.

Maybe a woman bpd may (figuratively) grab your ankles so you can't leave. A man bpd will just shoot your knee caps or bomb the bank where your money and documents are stored.

[–] CheruthCutestory 9 years ago

Well this is many years old but I think it was absolutely a very classic example of abuse.

Spousal abuse is all about having power and control over someone. The violence is really a secondary thing to the power and control aspect. I don't think he acted with passion (how could going out and hiring guys be passion really? it was a deliberate act). He did it because she was marrying someone else and he wanted to show he had complete control over her. If he couldn't have her no one could (he said this). And he did it. That is a pretty common thought process in classic abuse.

I don't think there was ever much love. She was a beautiful little thing he wanted to possess. He flipped out when he couldn't. After so many years he couldn't resist achieving his goal. And she didn't have any other options thanks to him.

And, due to her blindness, he has a lot of control over her just due to the fact that she depends on him for everything. But she is such a strong ol' broad that she never stopped also being a challenge. How could he ever get bored? She was always pushing back enough to keep him engaged but dependent enough to feel in control enough to not lash out.

Guess who has two thumbs, speaks limited French, and hasn't cried once today? This moi.