Stop refering to him as her

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I have never understood prejudice and the hate that it evokes. I am a 53 yo female and have only recently come out..I am a lesbian. I have a close friend that is transgendered, her life has been a pure hell. I have known that I was lesbian my entire life, but was too weak to come out to those I loved. I felt I was an embarassment to them, so I lived my entire life as a straight female, married, had a child, did all the things a straight woman was supposed to do. What I received in return for this deception was a life of severe depression, total unhappiness, pure agony. I came out a year ago and have not been accepted by my friends, family, and associates. This whole process has been very painful to me, but I would not undo it for anything, I can finally find peace within myself and that liberates my tortured soul. Maybe one day my family will accept me for who I am, not what they perceive me to be. I am very fortunate that my 23 year old son has been very accepting and has totally given me his support. When I told him, his words were so comforting.."Mom, it is about time for you to find happiness. You need to quit living your life for others and start living it for yourself. The only thing I want for you is for you to be happy." If all society could have the outlook on life and treat others with such compassion, the world would be a much nicer place to live. We could have acceptance of all, stop the ridicule and hate toward people that may be "different", be it in religion, race, sexual preference, or sexual identity. Hating someone because they are different than you are, is totally a pity. Some of the posts on here show pure ignorance, but I do have to agree with many that this ignorance began in their homes and what they were taught as they were growing up. Hate begets hate, Intolerance begets Intolerance. Please, people, accept and love your brothers and sisters, friends and neighbors, for who they are, not for what you perceive them to be. Gwen Arujo would still be alive today, if all society would learn this very important life lesson.

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Toking, why are you so sensitive and angry?

Be proud to be whatever you want to be, I'm not stopping you, boo.

You act as if I'm barring you from your behavior. Is this a dictatorship? NO!

But I can speak on my opinions on this board and if you don't like it, go stick it up a dark hole. America is great isn't it?

One thing for sure, whatever you think you are, you are not a woman. You may feel like one, but you are not. Okay?


I hope you trangendered people notify your lovers of your gender, especially you trangendered "females".

Otherwise, you are victims of your own deceit

I don't have a problem with homosexuals, only with transgendered people who choose to deceit the opposite sex.



Interesting how trangendered people don't want their conditions to be labeled a mental illness when clearly it was labeled that at one point.

But due to the politically correctness of the ultra sensitive gay and 'transgendered' activists, the American Psychiatric Association declassified it as a mental illness

Political correctness gone awry.....

Right on 115% !!


I'm so glad things are starting to change!

I know a lot of ppl say "Well HE had male parts so HE is still a BOY, no matter how HE feels on the inside."

But this was of thinking is starting to be questioned and challenged since many ppl are starting to change how they define a man and a woman, and what makes a man a man and a woman a woman, many ppl are starting to feel that what makes a woman a woman and a man a man goes FAR beyond just physical sexual anatomy.

Many are starting to think that your brain is somewhat important in what makes a woman a woman ~or a man a man~, if not JUST as important as what's between one's legs. And that if one has a female brain they are a WOMAN, reguardless of their physcial anatomy.

New definitions are suggesting that "man" and "woman refer to what's between your EARS, where as "male" and "female" refer to what's between your LEGS. A trans woman may not be 100% female but she CAN be 100% WOMAN, by those definitions, and even somewhat female since her brain is female and hell, every male as an X chromosome anyway, some even have a XX.

So by those new, reconsidered definitions, of what makes a woman a woman, Gwen WAS a woman, since she had a female brain.

Ppl for YEARS have said things like, "There are a LOT more differences between a man and a woman than just physical anatomy!" And they have always said "Men and women are just DIFFERENT, they THINK differently!" But when it comes to us trans ppl, they are like "The only damn difference between a man and woman is your penis and vagina, if you have a penis, you're a dude, end of story!" That is soooo contradictory!

Create a society in which you would like to live, not knowing what you're going to come into it as.