Why didn't she wait until surgery to get physical with guys?
I don't understand: Why didn't she wait until after sex reassignment surgery before getting physical with guys?
shareSimple. She was YOUNG, naïve, and a TEENAGER. Sometimes teenagers don't think totally rationally about things since their brains have not fully developed. Her heart was full of HOPE and expectation. SADLY the world was a more cruel, ignorant place than she THOUGHT it was. I believe she had this idea like, "I will meet a guy, he will get to know me for ME, he will love my personality, my heart, my soul my SMILE, my face, my hair, etc..." and when he does find out I'm have male genitals, it won't matter to him b/c he will love me for ME, everything about me. and already be in love with me and JUST having male genital won't change that."
Many of us have that idea esp when we are young. Sometimes we think the world is better than it is and perhaps we're a bit TOO optimistic, then it hurts when real life kicks us in the ass, and it's like, "WOW everything IS just all about a dick and a vagina, sadly." I have been there in ways.
Also I THINK she thought the marine already knew, I know for myself that mindset makes perfect sense, we sometimes want to think the one we love knows ALL about us and is OK with it and loves us anyway.
She even told her mom, "He already knows" IMO I don't think she was far off, I do think the marine probably KNEW she was male sexually or at least suspected it, I think he truly DID love her for HER, I think he just freaked out when Gwen's mom brought it to out to the light of day, b/c then he's prolly thinking, "DOES EVERYONE KNOW THIS!?! DOES EVERYONE NOW THINK I'm GAY!!?"
Also at her age WHO KNOWS when she would be able to have the transition, at last she was getting to live the life, somewhat, she always wanted to live and she was getting to be HERSELF, so she was in the moment.
BTW the majority of trans ppl do not get the full surgery, believe it or not it's not always the END GOAL for all trans ppl.
Create a society in which you would like to live, not knowing what you're going to come into it as.
In my experience, it was the opposite. When I was young, I thought sex and relationships were just about a penis and vagina. It was after I had a few relationships and matured that I realized that although genitalia will always be a factor, love can indeed overlook many things, including a partner with the "wrong" genitals.
shareBut think about it, sure you're thinking in terms of "penis and vagina sex" BUT when you were young, and saw a girl you liked, you're turned on by her by the WHOLE package, you LIKELY liked her LOOKS, her figure, her scent, flowy hair, etc....
I know when I was younger I had the mind set like, "If I just casually present myself as a girl, keep a low profile, meet new friends, they will like to for ME, and if they find out I'm a chromosomal male, it won't make any difference. Thanfully there ARE ppl like this, but with most ppl it does make a difference.
Create a society in which you would like to live, not knowing what you're going to come into it as.