Anybody ever have a GOOD experience when dating on the internet??? - Fatal Desire (2006) Discussion

[–] WVfilmfem 18 years ago

Oh, my, divorced 8 years now, I've stopped trying to meet men online! The ones I met were pretty awful! I could write a book, since I actually hung in there with three of them way too long! Just as the movie illustrates, people can present themselves to be anything they want to be, or think YOU are looking for!

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[–] loredia 18 years ago

Actually, I met my fiance on Yahoo Personals. We have been together for 4 years and plan on getting married at the end of this year. We would have been married years ago, but I wanted to be sure before taking the big leap. Online dating works for some, but not for all. You definitely have to keep your radar up and watch for any clues. Also, always follow you intuition, your gut feeling, or the little voice in your head.

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[–] whimsical5 18 years ago

My sister married her internet boyfriend. THey have been married 5 years and he is a great guy! Turned out he only lived in the next town.There is hope for those who are looking

nice socks, man.....

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[–] lmlombardo 18 years ago

I did quite a bit of internet dating, and I have since given it up. It never worked for me, although I did meet a few good guys. Distance was the deal breaker every time though. Anyway, I am done with it. This movie gives the Internet a bad name! You can meet anyone at any time that is no good, so it's not just the net.

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[–] MissMargoChanning 18 years ago

It`s nice to hear some good storys, and of course it`s true that you can find creeps no matter where or how you meet.

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[–] MissMargoChanning 18 years ago

TRUE!

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[–] texasturkey 13 years ago

IMHO, Online dating is seriously flawed. Too many people lie about their age, occupation, etc., It is high volume meaning someone can be talking to several people at one time. Some men I dated never read my profile. They had their friend do it for them and didn't know anything about me. If you don't go out with someone in a few days, they move on to someone else. Of the industry sets up guidelines to tell people who not to date. If they don't own a home, don't use a cell phone, don't get along with their family, those are red flags, don't go out with them. Who is anyone to say that? Everyone is an individual and people shouldn't make assumptions. Like the 2 people in this movie, a lot of them are lonely losers. It's pathetic.

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[–] whaddever 18 years ago

My husband's best friend met his wife on the internet (ski chat room) and they've been happily married for over 6 years now and have 2 sons. :)

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[–] WVfilmfem 18 years ago

Gosh!!! I hate to hear these happy Internet meeting stories...I'm cynical, since all I've met are jerks, and I've stopped trying! We're talking 8 years.

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[–] whaddever 18 years ago

Don't give up! Your special guy's probably still waiting for ya... :)

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[–] WVfilmfem 18 years ago

LOL, I don't think so...with my luck I'm more likely to meet the male version of the Anne Hesche character!

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[–] KaleshaB 18 years ago

Well, I've actually met this one guy on Myspace but it wasnt intentional. I didnt plan on us having a sexual relationship, it just randomly happened. We started off really slow, as friends....I would tell him bits and pieces of information about me as months progessed, nothing too personal (such as exactly where I lived, or where I worked, things like that)...even as I began to know and trust him I still kept some things to myself, but thats just me in general, I'm a very secretive person. Then I began to know him and fully trust him and thats when the sexual aspect of our relationship started. Also, he has a girlfriend which I knew from the start, and I totally respected that, still do. I actually helped him with problems him & his girlfriend are having and try to help out with any difficulties he's having with her, sort of like his theapist lol. I know, I know you're probably thinking how can I respect the relationship if I'm sleeping with him. True, but I'm not trying to tear them apart (like my old self would have probably done, haha)...but I mean, things just happen...and I have no excuse for what him and I do behind closed doors because it is what it is, and in my sick twisted mind, I think its okay lol.

But anyways to make a long story short, him and I are like the best of friends, we had sex once...and I believe we may continue a casual sexual relationship but I'm not planning on having anything more serious and/or beyond that. Just friends.

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[–] MilaPerry 17 years ago

Met the love of my life on the net...A lot of jerks too, but you just have to have that luck. I had it, and I'm happy until this very day =)
~~ Free Cable is the ultimate aphrodesiac.. ~~

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[–] andromache3 11 years ago

Sounds like he's using you for sex musiQraft. I don't know're how you actually believe you're helping him with his relationship when you're sleeping with him!!

"When we make mistakes, it's evil. When God makes mistakes, it's nature."

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[–] jm31828 17 years ago

Yes, I had a good experience- I met my wife online, we have now been married for 3 years.

I know it can be really up and down, there are good and bad people out there. It also depends on what people are looking for- obviously if someone is getting to know someone whose screen name is "sexkitten4u" or something like that, then it's pretty obvious there's a lot of flirting going on and the desire to meet someone for physical encounters, but trying to make something like that into a real relationship is doomed right off the bat.

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[–] AlwaysACritic 17 years ago

I met my best friend and fiance online in a mmorph over a year ago. I've never been so in love before or met a better person. I really think meeting online, getting to know each other without the pressure of the physical helped us. Then when we saw each other we were physically attracted as well which was a huge plus. Today is just as exciting as the first day we met.

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[–] lora-24 16 years ago

I met my husband online, 8 years ago.

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[–] MissMargoChanning 16 years ago

That's fantastic, although I am starting to hear a whole lot of sucsess stories lately. How's it going? After 8 yaers, I guess everything is going good.
I'm sort old fashoined, but I guess that no mater how you meet really is'nt a huge deal. My sister in law had a few bad experiences because the guys lied about certain traits, and it had nothing to do with looks.
I met my husband the old fashioned way. A friend of mine took me on a picnic and introduced me to the brother of the guy that she was dating. We became friends.... 28 years later and a wonderful son? We are still married and great!
What's your story?

Fasten your seatbelts.... It's going to be a bumpy night!

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[–] lora-24 16 years ago

We met through ICQ and chatted for a couple of months before he came 1250 miles to visit me for 5 days. Two weeks later he was back for good. We are perfect together, despite some major differences, like our ages. He is 18 years older than I am. It works though, because mentally we are very much the same. We are alike in many many many ways, and enjoy our time together. We are best friends. We also both work from home together, in the same room, day after day after day, always within reaching distance even, and we still are very much in love. We rarely argue or even disagree. We truly are a perfect match.

I think it is great that you have been married for 28 years! Fantastic! Congrats on that too!

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[–] MissMargoChanning 16 years ago

Congrats to you too! I really believe that one of the key elements to a good marriage is working together as a team. People are surprised that My husband and I worked together at two different companys during the course of our marriage. At one point, a few years ago, he was even one of my supervisors. Other people would ask us if it was weird. They seemed to think it strange in some way to spend so much time together. What's strange about it? We had a lot in common during those times. We even had many of the same co-workers and have made many of the same friends, so I think it's great to be able to work together.

When the whole computer dating thing came about in the 60's I thought it was a bad idea. I always felt that you never knew what kind of a nut that you were getting , but the same can certainly be said about anyone you meet, no matter under what the circumstances.

Fasten your seatbelts.... It's going to be a bumpy night!

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[–] namaGemo 13 years ago

Just ended a 5 year relationship with someone online. She's still a good person, and we still talk and hang out. Just decided we aren't for one another. Trying it again, but it was not a bad experience at all.

The people who claim it's a bad experience aren't being very selective. When reading the emails, red flags should pop up and you don't dismiss them. Same as the first time you meet the person. Things like hight and weight and things they might have embellished are all red flags. If you get more than 1 questionable red flag, it's time to put this person on the back burner and wait for someone else.

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[–] ab__16 13 years ago

i actually met my husband in a chat room it was called "VP chat" i wasnt into the dating online thing so we just became online friends and started to develope feeling, he lived 7hrs from here, 6 months later came to my house, with my family around and been together since... it will be 10years this June... i got lucky, he was exactly the way he was online and is not in any way abusive, we adore eachother and after all this time its still like when we first met....

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[–] lazygafiltafish 13 years ago

Great topic so I am bumping it because I just watched the movie.

I am almost 27 and started doing online dating at around 18 or 19. Most of my experiences weren't great, but I never met anyone that was a psychopath, a drunk, drug addict, or abusive. By bad I mean that they were really odd, cheap, not serious about dating, or seeing a ton of girls at one time.

That being said I did meet nice guys out there, but I had no chemistry with them. With my ex boyfriend I didn't meet him for online dating, but I did meet him online. We didn't meet for the purpose of dating and didn't even know what each other looked like. We were traveling to the same place at the same time and he read a message board post I said so we met up for dinner and a drink. Hanging out ended up becoming a date and we were together for a few months (I know not long, but long for me lol).

Actually the dates that I had with people from the internet vs. those that I didn't meet online weren't much different.

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[–] emma57 12 years ago

nope....don't do it!!!!

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[–] MissMillie420 9 years ago

I don't have any personal experiences, (Too paranoid from watching too much ID TV), but I have 2 stories...one good, one bad...

My Son went on a few dates with a few Women who were all either looking for quick nuptials, fathers for their children or were money hungry. After a couple years, he met a Wonderful Woman and they are planning a summer wedding! 💏

On the other hand...

A friend met someone <supposedly 5 states away> who she felt an instant repoire with <she assured me that she wasn't giving him any personal information until she got to know more about him> and was very excited. Well, long story short, they were chatting online one night making arrangements to meet in person <therefore, exchanging addresses> but he showed up at her house in the middle of that night, first demanding that she cook breakfast for him then beating her unconscience with a beer bottle. She spend nearly 2 weeks in the hospital.😱

Here's to those who wish me well...

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