I'm becoming more and more convinced that an IMDB rating is by no means a trustworthy grade. I've seen bad movies like Apocalipto (bear with me on this one) getting such good ratings and other works of art getting low grades. It makes me sad! It is unfair! This movie just doesn't deserve a 6.5. That's what it has got now... Just had to express my mind on that...
shareThis is an indication if how little thought goes into the ratings.
shareI gave it a low rating because the woman made no sense about her situation. How would she know or feel her marriage was doomed. If she put the work into it and put the lover behind her I see no reason why she could not learn to love her husband as she needed to. Why love someone from a past night of sex not even knowing anything about him when if she put an effort into her relationship with her husband she could have every day happiness instead of a fantasy, it made no sense to most people watching the film and that is why it gets a low rating.
One of these days we will get a story of a woman saying it was a good romp but i have to go and have a life now. All these two really had was a great sex night and they both mistakenly took it for true love.
I don't know.
I understand your rationale, but I don't agree with it. Love, of course, depends a lot on how you see life. But our heads are not always logical or centered. The movie doesn't portrait a perfectly well behaved person, who has control over her life, but somebody who is in doubt about her actions. She knows she is blowing it. her life has got to follow a certain script but inside she is not convinced of it. In fact, too many people live the same pattern. Just look around: large amounts of people marry for convenience, not love. Or, at least, not with the love of their lives. In this case, it is not entirely clear why she's doing it, but she is, in any case, and though one might not like the prospect of it, one has to consider it quite true to general fact. When you say "learn to love her husband" you're proving my point exactly.
Great post...I had watched this film a second time a week ago and saw something different that I did not pick up on from previous viewing. She did love her fiancee but was conflicted by marriage itself. I actually felt her getting with the guy had little to do with her relationship with her fiancee. In fact he may have actually unintentionally pushed her to the alter.
Just as we all loved someone from the past, it seemed no more than "that" with her except it was just before her wedding. She had no time to digest what had happened and was still in bliss from it. He will fade in time as she moves on and becomes wife and mother with someone else. Just as we never forget true love as we felt it she will never forget him.
Films like to portray love with a stranger as if that love will be the life long thought of the one that got away, but in reality it is very rare. We all think of them later in life or wonder what could have been, in most cases only if we are miserable in our current relationship. And even still in most cases it is not much more than a passing thought.
On the second viewing i was less critical of her and gave the film a higher mark than before because i took it as she at least got a lesson on life, nothing really to do with her future with her husband in fact it may have helped them.
The film is not very compelling or deep - it's a superficial film about two good-looking people using the other to massage their own narcissism- -realistic but, like Boyhood, hardly a compelling enough story for a feature film.. when it's over, you can forget it quickly
My only regret in life is that I'm not someone else - Woody Allen
Speak for yourself. This one will stay with me for a long time.
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