Someone should mention that this movie SUCKS (spoilers)
Seriously, what was the point of this story? Do the people who love this film just think that since it has 3 famed actresses it must be good? Come on, let's have higher standards. Even if my top 100 favorite actors were in the same film, if the script was this lame, I wouldn't laud it.
The plot is built around the idea that a woman thinks it is wrong to give her husband's ashes to his daughter, but she agrees to do so...then scatters them anyway. What was her intent? Just refuse or don't. And why would the daughter give her the freedom to carry the ashes cross-country, possibly tricking her, instead of taking them at the beginning of the movie? The daughter had the legal right to do so, because she had the only existing will of the deceased. She did not even need to trade the house for the ashes...but since she made that offer, why didn't she take the ashes immediately to ensure she wasn't tricked?
But since the three women did eventually try to trick the daughter by substituting different ashes, why did they do it so clumsily - letting a beer bottle cap mix in with the ashes?? The characters had fires 3 times in the movie and could have arranged a more convincing swap.
Finally, the daughter breaks the urn. But instead of this accident proving to everyone how silly the whole fight for possession of the ashes, it's just a device to expose the sloppy ash switch. In fact, at the end of the movie, none of the characters learned or grew. Nothing was resolved and we were left with no clear idea what would happen.
Jessica Lange acted like she was stoned the whole movie.
Joan Allen's character was totally confusing. Why include all those hints about her repressed background and do nothing with it? Why emphasize her uptight morality but make her be the character who tried to cheat the daughter? Oh, and since she happened into winning $176,000 but didn't want to keep the money, why didn't she give it to her best friend who was being forced to give up her husband's ashes in exchange for a place to live?
Kathy Bates and Tom Skerritt tried to save the movie, but even their relationship felt contrived.