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Response to Pro-Choice Argument


I just felt the need to re-post this for all to see because I think it's important. In response to the "pro-choice" issue...

It IS the woman's choice whether to keep her child or not - it's called adoption. Not to mention, people act like us women don't already have control over our bodies. We do. Have we forgotten that sex itself is a choice? We don't need to and shouldn't have sex if we can't handle the responsibility that comes with that.

People say that abortion is about defending women's rights but in actuality, if you really want to make it a women's issue I argue it's quite the opposite. I'm made to feel like I need to be "fixed" because I was born a woman and able to bear children. Pregnancy is a gift, not a burden.

Lastly, no one is being "forced" to have a child - if you don't want children, don't have sex. I don't care how much our society glamorizes careless sex as if it's a need as common as putting food in our bodies. Sex is supposed to be a beautiful experience between two people who love and are deeply committed to one another and ready to have children. If it's used any other way, the consequences are always ugly and in the likely event that a child is conceived, it's absolutely despicable that he or she is the one who suffers and has no right to life for the sake of the selfish parent(s) supposed "right" to live without the terrible, horrible burden of *gasp* having a baby inside for 9 months. Hmm, let's see... compromising 9 months of an adult's life for the entire life of another. Murder one for the convenience of the other. Make one person's life a little easier by destroying another's life. Does that really seem like the right thing to do?

Of course, in the rare cases of rape (only 1% of abortions mind you), I entirely sympathize with the mother. Rape is one of the most terrible things a person can experience but it still doesn't make abortion acceptable. We can't be so relative - what if I were to say "well, this person did something bad to me, so I should be able to steal their car". Stealing is still stealing, wrong is still wrong. It doesn't matter what that person did. Don't steal. It's the same thing with abortion. It is much more painful to carry the guilt of killing your child than it is to have one. In fact, children do just the opposite - they bring us joy. That woman's pain could be completely erased the day that her child is born and she understands the true meaning of unconditional love when he stares into her eyes.

Bella is definitely NOT a "pro-choice" movie. As another user said, you can't be pro-choice just for the sake of being able to make a choice. The entire point is WHAT you choose - and whether or not you do the right thing. There are really only two choices: the child lives or dies.

The point was not that Nina could have gotten an abortion and chose not to - it's the fact that she made the RIGHT choice by keeping her child. And as we see later in the movie, because she did, Bella brought her joy.

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I take it you don't teach in the Bronx. I have been for 10 years and I see time after time after time how these "children" who made the "right" choice to have their child/ren and keep him/her/them end up abusing them or worse.

Do you really think Nixzmary Brown's mother did the right thing by keeping her?

The world is too overpopulated as it is and we really don't need any more teens reproducing because "they think it would be fun" or because it is what their parents actually *want* from them. Now, I know that Nina wasn't a teen but still young and unattached. At least she had enough sense to KNOW she wasn't ready for a child or that type of responsibility.







"Oh Thank you God! Thank you so BLOODY much!" Basil Fawlty

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"The world is too overpopulated" - that is typical liberal bulls--t!

Also, if a child is beaten by their parents, you are saying it is better off that they are killed in the womb? I do not think you will find too many abused children who will agree with you.

Also, there are waiting lists for adoptions right now.

I do not want to see teenagers having kids. However, if they get pregnant, I want to see them put their children up for adoption rather than murder them in their wombs.

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Those are your opinions about abortion and adoption. If you don't believe in it then don't practice it. Don't expect others to practice what you believe and not willing to practice other things. In addition you are not in charge of other peoples lives but your own and need to focus on what is important in your life, not others. That is not your job. You can make sure that women make more educated and informed decisions. Also not every adoption had an ideal outcome and not every abortion was a good decision. And society as a whole has a real problem with throwing away kids all because they think that the child is not its responsibility. It amazes me how many people will preach about abortion but are unwilling to bring a child, not a baby but an actual child into their own home that isn't theirs.

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"It amazes me how many people will preach about abortion but are unwilling to bring a child, not a baby but an actual child into their own home that isn't theirs."

- In response to that line of yours, every time someone says I am going to abort my baby who has been diagnosed with Downs Syndrome, thousands of family come forward willing to adopt that child. There are waiting lists to adopt children.

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There are waiting lists to adopt children? I guess then, everyone else who says otherwise but new lying or delusional, including the children who are *waiting* to be adopted. I don't know where thou get your "facts" from, but you are woefully mistaken.

http://www.npr.org/2013/09/22/225148325/foster-care-in-america-too-many-kids-not-enough-homes

http://www.childrensactionnetwork.org/resources.html

https://www.davethomasfoundation.org/5-reasons-you-wont-adopt-from-foster-care-and-why-theyre-wrong/

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There are waiting lists to adopt newborn babies. As I said before, every time and I mean every time a woman says she will abort her baby for whatever reason e.g. the baby has downs syndrome, she cannot afford to raise the child, thousands of people come forward offering to adopt the child.

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You should perpetuate such lies & myth. It's not right. I don't know what far-right lunatic agenda you may have been brainwashed with, but it's not nice to spread it around, especially when there are such things like...erm, FACTS floating around.

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Yep, facts you should check them. There are waiting lists to adopt babies. Which is why many people go overseas to do so.

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