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posted 16 years ago by dizzyDivya
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i have been reading what people wrote (as i normally do before i start writing anything) and it makes me wonder how many of the people out there have kids who have seen this movie... does this movie seem to strike those more with kids or those who have been through abuse...

the thing that seems to strike me the most is that every single child in this world has faced some sort of abuse... physical, mental, emotional, spiritual, sexual... and so when they say abuse, they mean more so of the kind that leaves marks on the body...but the thing is every single parent has a moment where they can not control their anger... some may yell at their child, others will hit them, and yet some will just walk away... even the very best parents have their moments... and don't ever say there has never been a parent who has not a moment with a child... and not just parents but even those who watch children...

back in the day it was accepted to spank a child or even beat a child... and it was not just the parents but the people who were taking care of kids, and even their teachers... of course in other countries it was very normal for a teacher to even leave a mark on a child...

and it not just the adults but the children who sometimes are at fault too... they sometimes will push adults to their breaking points... but from what i see, this is never going to stop... every child in this world has pushed their parent to a breaking point and there is no child in this world who hasnt...

i dont know how i want to end this message other than just saying this is just one person's view... so please do not hate me or say bad things to me because i choose to write about what i feel... thank you.

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[–] kanishahamilton 15 years ago

so basically, your saying, that sometimes its okay to abuse your kid? your triipin. for real, there is something wrong with you. it was okay back in the day, sure. but its illegal now for a reason. because kdis who get abused grow up and become addicts, drug dealers, criminals, they have mental illnesses, they cant function on a day to day basis. and soooo many more things. kids push their parents because thats what the *beep* a child does. it does NOT give you the right to beat them, or burn them with cigarettes and spell out bad boy. what the hell is wrong with you?

and you said

even the very best parents have their moments... and don't ever say there has never been a parent who has not a moment with a child... and not just parents but even those who watch children...

yea they have their moments, even the best of parents have probably thought about beating there kids senseless. but they didnt. because its wrong.....no wonder no one replied to this....its completely ignorant and sick.

[–] willowstar1uk 15 years ago

Abuse is certainly not just about leaving marks on your body. More and more of it is emotionall, pychological, mental.....that takes a lot of work to get over as well as that also effect self-esteem, self-worth etc... and a lot of the times adults do not realise what they are doing.....

I see the point you are trying to make, but when you hit your child for no reason, tell them that they are stupid and won't amount to anything, or even sexually abuse them there is no reason for that and that is when it becomes abuse not because the child has 'wound' you up....

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[–] arianatafolla 14 years ago

No that's not what they were saying.
It's never okay.
but it DOES happen ALL THE TIME.
If you EVER so much as yell at your kid. It's considered abuse...
you could never even spank them & can still cause emotional damage to your child by being mentally abusive...

[–] fiatlux-1 14 years ago

I don't agree that yelling per se at your child is considered abuse. Kids need and MUST have discipline, and sometimes yelling is warranted.
Now, emotional abuse is an ENTIRELY different story! Shouting at your kid because they talked back to you or burned the neighbor's cat or skipped school IS NOT ABUSE...that is PARENTING.

Even spanking or an occasional slap in the face is not physical abuse. I've been slapped a few times, and sometimes I did deserve it! I don't really approve of spanking as a rule, only because by itself it doesn't address what the child did wrong! All it does, without an explanation of the wrongdoing, is inflict pain really.

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