Raped and Molested?



She has said she was raped and molested in the past. Do any of you know the whole story? How old she was or any details?

Thanks!

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I think she was on Dr. Phil talking about it once.

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She's always claimed she was abducted as a child, and raped in her teens, mentioned something about how when she was abducted her parents didn't notice she was gone, or some boocrap like that. Her story seems a little dramatic and the details are always sketchy, no one has ever confirmed it and as much as her family and friends are around no one ever seems to talk about it AT ALL. Plus I'm sorry, but typical victimology indicates that most rape victims who end up on a stripper pole are usually mentally destroyed and pretend it never happened. Most are unable to go around flaunting their bodies and sexuality, unlike her who seems to enjoy that and seems to instead use the "I was kidnapped/raped" as an xcuse for her shortcomings and refusal to act like an adult on any level whatsoever.

Frankly, I think she's full of crap.

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Nah, I believe her. She fits the sexual abuse victim profile to a T. Leaving home far and early, relentlessly persuing validation and redemption, (fame, recognition) looking for older man/daddy protector figure, promiscuous, using sexuality as a tool to connect with men, lesbian leanings, stunted emotional maturity, drug and alcohol problems, etc. She was also raised by divorced parents which provides more potential for abuse as new spouses/boyfriends are far more likely to act inappropriate to a pubescent step daughter than a biological father is.

Anyway, most girls seem to get sexually abused at some point in their development. They rarely report it to authorities or family but anyone with close girl friends growing up knows they all end up confessing these disturbing secret episodes when the subject comes up. So the odds are more than good that Adrianne is in this number.

I for one applaud her for bringing the issue up publicly. It is a big deal to admit being raped, and it changes a person forever in myriad ways. It happens SO often and yet is always kept secret because of the shame of being a ruined woman, fear of punishment, fear of not being believed, fear of people thinking it was deserved and fear of being forced to confront one's attacker.

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Thanks for the replies. I too believe she was abused sexually but why VH1 hasn't gotten her to tell the whole story on one of the episodes is odd to me. I'm sure it will all come out one day on the show. I do find it terrible strange that even her husband doesn't know about her past.

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She was upset that Chris had never asked to hear what happened. I felt for her. I think maybe Chris was scared to ask because he didn't really want to "make it real" by knowing about it, if that makes sense. Rape is a lot about pretending it never happened, for everyone involved. I admire her courage for trying to deal with it in the open.

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I can relate to her being upset that Chris had not asked about what happened as my husband was the same when he found out that I had been assaulted. I finally came to the conclusion, after talking with him, that it hurt him to think that someone had done that to me, and he didn't know how to approach the subject with me as it made him uncomfortable. I also believe her about the rape because she has done a lot of the same things that not only have I done but others in my past support groups admit to having done. Being rapped makes you feel undesirable to other men and as such many women become hyper sexual. I wish the best to both Chris and Adrianne as dealing with the issues that just pop up as the result of rape can destroy a marriage, but love can overcome anything.

"Ideas are bulletproof" -V for Vendetta

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I think it has been eluded to that Chris's dad was abusive, I'm sure that's an issue he's had to deal with on many levels as well. It is a shame that there's a barrier somewhere and they haven't discussed Adrianne's rape and molestation but it's been a year, maybe they've reconciled it. I think when a man hears something so horrible has been done to a woman he loves it makes him feel helpless because he can't fix it, he wasn't there to protect her, and he can't go mangle whoever did it. Unfortuantely for a woman, she may just want someone to lean on and share with who understands so either way someone is going to fell conflicted and have to deal with heavy emotions. I wish them luck...

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You sound like an experienced rape expert. Or perhaps a rapist? I've heard they always use capslock.

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Very mature for a 32 year old.

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*sigh* Ignorance abounds.... glad I'm 33 now. :P

- Herein lies a sig -
It's a common occurrence, this "willing suspension of disbelief"!

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