Laurie's monologue (Spoilers)


Rosario Dawson's last scene. I don't know what to make of it.


On the one hand, she's telling him to face his father and come to terms with the past. To stop running from the past and look after his parents. Yes, Dito abandoned everyone, and he should show his maturity and adulthood by being able to return.

On the other hand, she's right in his face, insulting his manhood and calling him a coward. Excuse me, Laurie, but Dito didn't just run away for no reason. He was caught in a downward spiral that you yourself wanted him to get out of, and his father clearly does not understand that or understand his son. You wanted to go to California, get out of the city, so why are you suddenly going on about how he killed his father by running? Why would you go on about that when fifteen years before you're urging Dito to leave?

That's the one thing I don't like about the film. That inconsistency that was born out of her last scene. I don't hate the scene, and I really liked the acting and whatnot, but this point has left me very conflicted.

Any help, guys?

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I think after all those years she was still hurt that he left without her. She even said she waited for him to come get her. She called him a coward because he left her behind when he had promised he was coming back for her and they would leave together. That was the hurt talking; she was in love with him

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@BobStage -it wasn't inconsistent at all. Yes, Laurie would have left with Dito but she would never have abandoned her family completely by never calling/starting in stone type of contact. And her lecture about his abandoning his parents is true but it was full of her own anger at being abandoned, (without even a "goodbye"), mixed in.

She is especially right about his mother. I understand how Dito felt he couldn't deal with his father. Both he and his father had deaf ears. His father totally LOOKED (mostly to himself) like he was being supportive and willing to listen but in fact he NEVER listened. But how Dito could not realize his father's desperate love for him is strange. I guess in your own family is impossible to be objective and really see where people are.

But Dito abandoned his mother just because she was there with his father.

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I got the impression that a) Monti only told his side of the story, leaving out his own abuse and b) Laurie is sort of hiding behind that reason when she's really annoyed that Dito left *her*. Essentially neither party was totally in the right - Dito still leaving his family without contact for fifteen years and Monti still driving his son away because of his own narcissism.

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The reason this scene feels weird is because it's made up and not real. Laurie died of AIDS before any of this could have been said. The director and producer and writers wanted Ditto to get closure, in the movie he didn't get in real life.

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what do you mean by '' Laurie died of AIDS before any of this could have been said '' , in the movie? in the movie she didn't die of aids, or did i miss something??

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It wasn't him leaving. It was the way he left and the fact that he abandoned them all after that. She supported him leaving (and would have gone with him), but she did not support him basically abandoning his family and friends completely.

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Glad he returned, but are you saying he owes it to people/his parents, to move back? I disagree. His parents got to choose their lives, you shouldn't get to choose how your children live their lives. (my parents would disagree with that)

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I think she meant some of that but much of her anger was also due to resentment for his flat leaving her without a word for twenty years and never even calling.

I think most people would be upset by his behavior.

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