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When the basic premise of a film defies credibility...

posted 16 years ago by t__cruise
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I find it difficult to enjoy a film, when its basic premise defies credibility. I cannot get past the fact, that an intelligent man, past the age of thirty five can be clueless to the fact that he is, or is not, sexually attracted to other males. I understand that the comedy genre of films allows for some suspension of belief. But, the MAIN plot premise of the film should be believable. The male lead character in "Coffee Date" truthfully keeps saying that he is straight. There is no credible reason why he should have stayed in that gay coffee shop. There is no earthly reason why he should have sex with another male to prove to himself that he is not gay, when he already knows that he is not attracted to males. But, without the above, there would not have been a movie.

T.

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[–] artguylarry 16 years ago

...and then sometimes that's all it can take to ruin what is a perfectly light-hearted movie. Why does everyone have to dissect every movie they see, looking for its flaws? Defying credibility? Maybe so. Over the top? Possibly, but it's a parody on life. If you want to find a movie that doesn't defy credibility in some way, save yourself the agony and just quit watching movies. Look, I came out late in life, so I can tell you first hand, the questions are there, the doubt, the conflict, the "what if's," they are all there. But regardless, this is just a lighthearted comedy and nothing more. Over the top, but entertaining just the same. I enjoy this movie and all its flaws.

[–] Frumious_Bandersnatch_46 15 years ago

I agree with you.

I think this is also the same basic premise behind the episode of "Two and a Half Men" (Titled "Taped, Tucked and Gorgeous") where brother Alan has become friends with a gay dad at his Single Parents' Support Group. Everyone around Alan assumes he's gay — to the point where he thinks he has to "test" himself by kissing the gay man.

However, the shorter answer to the initial poster would have to be:
It's a comedy, not a documentary.

The human mind ordinarily operates at ten percent of its capacity — the rest is overhead for the operating system.

[–] skiop 15 years ago

Some people don't know (or that is, are in denial) until later in life. Also, some people are do like to experiment just to make sure. I think it's stupid, but I got chewed out on the Brokeback Mountain message board for saying so a few years ago (someone said that he had a sexual relationship with a man just to "be sure"; it should be obvious, but maybe not for some people).

[–] MaleManX 10 years ago

I think people are ignorant to say that everyone knows what their sexuality is at that age. Sexuality is not a simple thing, it isn't black or white.

For example, on many forums I visit, I keep reading posts about people who say they've developed bisexual tendencies with age, whereas when they were younger (teens, twenties), they were more mostly just straight or just gay.

Posts about either going gay from guys who previously identified as straight or going straight from sometimes out and proud "gay" men are not rare on gay forums. These men tend to be older- thirties, forties.

I haven't done a study on it nor do I pretend to be an expert, but based on my experiences, sexuality is fluid, complex. Why are so many "gay" men able to have straight sex? Why do so many "gay" men admit to watching straight porn? I've stopped asking these questions and accept that sexuality is something complex. I've stopped trying to categorize myself.

It's not unreasonable to have a 35 year old man question his sexuality. It is just as ignorant to believe so as it is to believe homosexuality is a choice.