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On Lifetime as 'The Stranger I Married'


I had a heck of a time finding this movie on here until I looked for the lead actor- it's on Lifetime under a different name. Was pretty good- but I tell ya- I'm a chick, but I had a difficult time towards the end sympathizing with the wife- she was being pretty damn selfish.

I cannot, truly I cannot, sit in a chair all day reflecting how truly admirable I am. H. Poirot

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I just watched this movie and I have to agree about the wife. There were times I wanted him to slap her. I mean, the doctors told her he had amnesia and some brain damage. Did she really think all would be fine after he went home?

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I just saw the movie and thought it was very touching. Are him and his wife still together?

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Yes, They're still together. They live on a farm in Ontario now.

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Let me ask you this. If it was you would you, and the doctors/nurses told you the same thing would you be like okay, or would you behave like she did. You really don't know. It's so easy for people to talk about how selfish she is this or that when they haven't experienced it themselves. Really noone knows what they would do in a situation like this or how they would feel.

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I have to agree with Cool-Splash.

I would hope that I could handle it better but how in the world do you grieve someone's death when you are looking at them in the face every day? Like Terry said in the movie, he died in the car accident and she didn't have a chance to mourn the death of the man she once knew. Right away she had to take care of this grown man reliving his terrible twos. I can't even imagine how I'd feel in her shoes. I think the entire family, including him, did a magnificent job considering the circumstances.

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I didn't think she was selfish but unrealistic. I'm a nurse, and I see this very often - people who won't accept a diagnosis or prognosis. She was lucky (if that is what you could call it) he did wake from his coma but she was totally unprepared for what that meant. Those type of brain injuries rarely return to full recovery.

Even though he has managed to return to a fuctional existence and do quite well - he still is not the man she married. I really sympathised with her.

Ignorance never settles a question
Benjamin Disraeli

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I knew a happy-go-lucky lady whose entire personality changed after she suffered a head injury. The joking, easy-going gal became angry and bitter. Her husband could not deal with the changes, and they eventually divorced. Kudos to Lorraine Evaneshen for being faithful to the man she married, even when he was no longer the man she married.

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I saw this movie for the first time over the weekend and it joggled my mind. I cannot even begin to imagine what it would be like to not only lose one's ENTIRE memory but also have short-term memory to where it is near impossible remembering what happened yesterday, too.

In my opinion, the reason Lorraine was detached and aloof when he came home from rehab is because she was holding on so hard to the man she had always known. I don't think she meant to be bitter and argumentative. It's just that she had to go through this process, too. I mean, this is a situation that no one else (as far as friends, family, etc.) can relate to. There isn't a book that tells you everything you will go through when your husband has an accident, forgets everything that ever happened to him and forgets what happens in the day to day, as well.

So, she had to go through a natural grieving period over her husband who died, who didn't physically die. I cannot begin to wrap my head around it. They made it through which speaks volumes of their love and dedication. I don't know many couples who could survive a situation like this one.

As an aside, it also made me think of their Catholic upbringing. What I would really like to know is, how did this affect their religious life? I mean, what would he have to confess about now? How does everything they were brought up to believe fit into their experience?

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