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why didnt she just buy a vibrator?


wouldn't this be a whole lot easier than banging a whole lot of random guys?

-Thoughts?

and whats the psychology behind women who were sexually abused as a child turning into sluts?

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I think it's just because she's a slut.

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true

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If a woman is used to having sex with a man, then a vibrator is useless. The sense of loss is not totally of a sexual nature; however, to compensate for the loss (goes deeper than Justin's character leaving for the military), she needs to have sex with a man. The movie was not that great in showing that the trigger is not a feeling to have sex, it's a need to compensate a bad feeling for a good feeling. Strangely, her promiscuity also reinforces the poor image she has of herself as she doesn't think she is worthy of a healthy relationship (Justin leaving seemingly supports that). The line, 'I asked him to stay...' is her way of saying, 'I wouldn't do this if you were with me.'

The psychology is that the effects from abuse can either manifest themselves as aversion to sex (viewing sex as disgusting and not having sex) or overindulgence of sex as the main form of expressing themselves (think porn stars). Emotionally healthy individuals do not want to express sexual needs all day (healthy to think about sex but not act on it) neither do they refrain from having sex.


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I have seen this kind of behavior before, in a friend who I believed was starved for male attention. Her father had left and she lived with her mom and stepdad, and I gather that he was not quite the replacement dad that my friend needed. I don't blame her parents or stepdad at all; I just mean that I think this is what set up her situation.

For some reason she would engage in what I would call high-risk behavior in sneaking out at night and hitching a ride to night clubs out of town, seeking out older men, even while she was in her early teens.

The good news is, I believe things have changed for her, in that she found a good husband, and that problem is behind her now, as far as I know.

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Sounds like Borderline Personality Disorder. I'm glad to hear your friend is in a much better place in her life. :)

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The sensations from a vibrator and the sensations from actual one-on-one (or more) sex are completely different. One doesn't really work as a "replacement" for the other.



I still believe that peace and plenty and happiness can be worked out some way. I am a fool.

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"Ain't nothing like the real thing, baby...."













"My girlfriend sucked 37 d*cks!"
"In a row?"

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Sure, I could bang a fake rubber pussy. But why bother ?? the real thing is of course much better.

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Easy answer: too broke to afford one.


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Your friendly neighborhood pastor

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My opinion is that a lot of times when a sexual abuse victim exhibits this type of behavior it has nothing to do with sex so to speak. A vibrator has its uses, but what Ricci's character was doing was not about 'getting off'. It was about feeling normal has she had come to know it. Her worth had been tied to her ability to have sex. What else could she possibly do? At least that was her mentality. Nobody, including her own parents, had ever made her feel that she could do anything else and have value. Her own father started her on the of path sexual promiscuity. He set the stage for every man she had gotten involved with since. This is quite common in sexual abuse victims. Unless many of them get counciling and are able to tell their stories they can lead lives that lead to continued abuse and all that comes with that curse.

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she needed meat inside :|

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Well said!

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