I think that you miss understood me.
Firstly, she did sleep with her husband's friend before they were together ok but she never told him. This part is just a side note in my orginal post but everything else still stands (ie situations in most movies like this).
Secondly, I didn't put down all feminists. Feminism, like any other group, has changed since its initial start. Feminisim was about equality between men and women but once that was achieved (ie no one disagrees that women should be equal to men, men and women are equal according to the law which is what feminism was about) the movement went in different ways. Just like , say, the Republican Party. Before Reagan Republicans were liberals, like when Abrahm Lincolm was President, but the party changed drastically to the present day, so if I were alive when Lincoln was President I would've said I was a Republican, but these days I'm a Democrat since I agree with their liberal views.
I would've said I was a feminsit intially because who the hell is anyone to tell whoever that they aren't equal to everyone else. These days I wouldn't consider myself a feminist (and I'm sure there are hundreds of men and women who feel the same way) because the main feminists are the ones who are separating, or trying to, the equality line.
Examples:
VAWA (Violence Aganist Women Act) was enacted by pressure from feminsits, and Congress gives them billions of dollars per year to help with this act. Anyway, the reason this is sexist, unconstitutional is because it leaves out half of the population "men". For the men who got abused (physically, psychologically, etc) by women don't get help because there isn't a program that funds places like that for men. And with this Act, groups of women get to have the power to lay rules in regards to domestic violence, etc and almost all the time it's the men's fault (even when it isn't). The way this Act was passed was by so-called proof these feminists provided Congress, and the proof was this: they conducted their own surveys to prove to Congress that there is an epidemic of violence against women by men. The surveys that were given to participants were biased and there was no other conclusions that could come out but the conclusion they wanted.
If you don't believe this read the reports that are now coming out from people who worked on these surveys and one of them that is getting alot of attention is from Murray Straus, and the reason is because he is a psychologist who was hired to do the surveys and in doing them he wrote all types of questions for the participants so that it will be an unbiased study yet the people who paid his checks deleted alot of questions out that they felt didn't really matter.
"On August 15, 2002, Straus was a guest on the radio show "The Exchange" hosted by Laura Knoy on NH Public Radio. During that show, Straus said that the researchers who did the National Violence Against Women Survey for the Dept. of Justice tried to bias it by intentionally omitting questions that could show women in a negative light and neglecting to include men in the study. The researchers did not originally intend to include men in the study at all."
http://www.breakingthescience.org/StrausSaysTjadenThoennesBiased.php
(And un unbiased study was done and found that men were abused in relationships just like women were (both psychologically and physically. Yet the Act didn't change).
Research it on your own and find out if you don't believe it. The orginal study found that women were perfect, that they didn't do anything to the man before he hit them. The orginal study also stated that men abuse women for no toher reason than because they are women. There was nothing stated about women who abuse men or women who hit men and nothing was said about men defending themselves against women throwing stuff at them, hitting them, etc.
Anyway, this is just one example of the biasedness that occurs (if you don't believe that the feminist leaders don't do unbiased studies that don't show unbiased results, then look up Super Bowl Sunday Violence Study, where it was reported all over the news that it's a fact, studies found men abuse women on Super Bowl Snnday more than any other day. After it was shown on the media as a fact without anyone looking into it, an unbiased source found that this study was done in a biased way and found that the study was totally false. ANd everyone now knows that this was a ridiculous study done by women who hated that their husbands didn't pay attention to them on that day (what the unbiased source found apparently)
Besides this, look at the media and at society in general. Men are told by society that they have to do this and that yet if you tell women what they have to do it's called sexism. (A small example: on valentine's day look at any show or in the media, people tell men they better step up and do something for their woman, it even goes so far as to tell women they should not only expect something from men but that if they don't get anything, to dump them, that it's ok for woment o be selfish on this day. What was the last time you heard anyone demand women to buy men stuuf, to take a whole day to do everything for him...you dont't because then it would be sexist).
Anyway, this post is long enough so I will end it by saying that in society everything against men is ok, it's not even discussed but once something happens to women then its a problem (if you want more or better examples they are everywhere).
And to the women are 'sluts' and men are 'studs' argument that has changed too. Look in popular culture as a whole these days. Women go from men to men and the term 'slut' is used not to offend anymore, its more of a 'she's cool' kind of thing (lok at Paris Hilton, Kardashian, etc). For women to sleep with more men, it's in, its cool. For men who cheat and get caught it's plastered all over the news and he is villified (ie look at Tiger Woods, Kobe). When was the last time you heard on the news about the guy a famous woman cheated with then he went and wrote a book about it and got famous? (But the women who slept with famous men become rich and famous, like Monica Lewinsky and now John Edwards' mistress is all over the news and she's famous for sleeping with him and she even has a book coming out). So the 'women have to be virgins' and 'men get to sleep with alot of women and it's ok' argument has completely changed and you can't use that argument this days because it's totally changed.
And one last example: look at the male and female teachers who've slept with their underage students, where are they now? The male teachers are likly serving over 20yrs. to life in prison, the female teachers are out serving probations....DOUBLE STANDARD?! I think yes
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silvermoon132
12 years ago
Yes, there are some feminists who are crazy. There are also Christians who are crazy, Muslims who are crazy, teachers who are crazy, dentists who are crazy, gays who are crazy, whites who are crazy, blacks who are crazy...every group has crazy fundamentalists in it. That does not mean that I have the right to disparage the entire group.
Also, I clearly stated that society is, in some ways, biased against men. I don't need to look anything up, because I already know that.
I could be mistaken, but it seems that your argument is that women don't experience sexism...?? If that is your argument, it is wholly inaccurate. And the term "slut" is still very much a double standard in our society. Women are sexualized everywhere, but that does not mean that they can have sex without being called a derogatory names...like slut, whore, sorostitute (note that the latter term has NO male equivalent).
I am not saying that women experience more sexism than men, I am not saying that men have it harder than women. Such arguments are pointless because the sexism that men and women experience varies from person to person. Even if one group did have it "worse" than another the argument would still be entirely unproductive and pointless.
Both men and women experience sexism. End of discussion.
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