I'm sorry, my mistake, I shouldn't have come off as so angry. My whole point was not just with this particular case, it is with domestic abuse laws as a whole. Contrary to popular belief, women DO abuse men just as often as men abuse women. Don't you find it strange how the media goes out of the way to portray women to be 'just as strong' as men yet in the cases of domestic violence the woman is always a little weak victim while the man is always a big, strong, aggressive brute - even when the man is the one being abused? Also, domestic abuse isn't anywhere near the epidemic feminists make it out to be. I thought the police would take him away from her, I guess I was wrong, my mistake.
I know I came off as a MCP, and I know I've shown my ignorance on this case, but my point was broader than that. While there are rapists and wife-beaters that unfortunately get off the hook, there are MANY female abusers, female criminals, and female murderers who get off the hook simply because of their gender. For example, a man who can't pay child support goes directly to jail, while a woman who abandons her child gets cared for. Also, despite the increasing trend of female teachers having sex with their students, they are not seen as pedophiles. This is because the male student is seen as 'a lucky bastard.'
Read this link, it provides evidence that violence against men is way more prevalent than violence against women. Granted, much of the violence is done by a man to another man, but there are a significant amount of females responsible as well. The vast majority of the victims of violence (not domestic violence, just violence in general) are MALES, so you can see why I get tired of females whining about oppression and the supposed epidemic of violence against women. They constantly play the victimhood card, even when they are the aggressor. So why don't men play the victimhood card more, even when they are victims more than women are? There are reasons for this:
1. Seeking help would make people think they are 'sissies' or 'wimps.'
2. There isn't much help available for men who are victimized.
3. The media spreads the myth that the man is always the aggressor, while the woman is always the victim.
4. Always acting like a victim makes you look like a pathetic whiner.
http://www.kittennews.com/mag/2006/maxponti_06_01_abs_personal_safety_study.htm
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gilagoldfish86
18 years ago
I guess we could always say that throughout history, women have been opressed for so long that the idea that women are "weak" has stuck. *shrugs*
I'm sure there are many cases where males get abused too but sometimes when it comes to cases, there's no point in looking at a whole. This is an isolated case where the woman was seriously abused, physically and mentally...and she made a mistake. In that moment of insane desperation she set fire to his feet so he wouldn't come after her...she had no intention to kill.
Besides, she did pay for it. I'm not just talking about jail...imagine how her family must be reacting to this. If they were the kind that could send her back to that abusive husband, they won't be supportive of her and would desert her. She's alone with children to care for.
I guess men too should start coming out and not being afraid. There isn't much help because apparently there isn't anyone to help. If this issue is important to you, you could bring it up in public forums or even in the news. There's nothing wrong with voicing one's opinions! :)
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