a_crow_quilled_threnody:
Actually, I did find Jorge quite likeable and very much rooted for him to “win” (I always feel like a douche when I type that, as if a girl is some trophy to be won lol) the girl. So please don’t presume to speak for everyone. Based on what you say, you sound like a formerly shy person who, in an effort to become a more confident person (to avoid being a continual victim of those who used to bully you, I’d venture a guess?), unfortunately became a dick yourself. So congrats – you’ve become like your tormentors.
Sorry if I’m way off. It just baffles my mind how you could have so little empathy for the protagonist as a formerly shy person yourself. And that you don’t understand his rage and are so quick to write him off as “crazy” like the rest of “normal” society. When you were shy and being tormented because of it, you mean to tell me you never felt rage at your persecutors? Sorry, but I find that a stretch. Unless you never had to suffer for your shyness…which would make you the luckiest shy/formerly shy person ever. Have a cookie :-)
Seriously though, congrats on overcoming your shyness, and I mean that, but it isn’t so easy for all of us. So try to work a little on your empathy skills would be my advice for you, if you’re still interested in bettering yourself. After all, despite what society brainwashes us to believe, there is more to life and being a “quality person”/”your best self” than just confidence. How being a dick = being our best self I’ll never understand.
Maybe the protagonist seemed crazy and violent, but here’s something I’ve thought a lot about recently: Are people dicks/bullies to “crazy” people because the person is crazy, or is the person “crazy” from people being bullies/dicks to them for so long? Is it just a never ending cycle of human cruelty and pain? Will we ever break the chain? Can we even if we wanted to? Makes you wonder…
But at least you did love the movie, so that’s cool :-) Just recognize that change isn’t that easy for all of us and there’s more to life than being a dick and you should definitely be on your way to being a better you. And I’m sorry if that comes off as smug, self righteous, or pretentious or whatever because I don’t mean it to. I mean every word I’m saying. Call me lots of things, but I always wear my heart on my sleeve, so please don’t call me pretentious.
Oh, and about Jorge having piercings…I have no tats or piercings, but I did start dying my hair (at 38 years of age at the time lol) a year ago. Yet I’m still morbidly (as you say) shy. Not sure what one has to do with the other, as sometimes shy people who aren’t always the best at being articulate will find other ways to try to express themselves and put their personalities out there. I know that’s true for me, so I have to believe I’m not alone in that. Shy people have personalities, too, you know (you should know, since you used to be shy). Shy Lives Matter :-)
And I have a hard time fielding questions when I’m put on the spot by people, too. It comes off as a very aggressive, confrontational gesture to me, whether they mean it that way or not, and usually throws me for a loop, where I won’t think of what I truly wanted to say until well after the moment has passed. I’m not proud of it, but it’s a very human thing to do and I’m pretty sure I’m not the only one to do it, shy or not. Not everyone responds to confrontation well and not everyone is the quickest at thinking on their feet.
So again, for the sake of the other people in your life, please work on your empathy skills. My God, man! You’re honestly coming off a bit monstrous. The hardass, “normal” person act wears thin quite quickly with me, I’m afraid. Me thinks he doth protest at shy and flawed people too much :-) Which, to me, is quite creepy (since you used the word “creep” yourself).
All in all, you just come off as a little overly defensive about defending the sanity of shy people (maybe your former tormenters called you crazy because of your shyness? I know the feeling). Thing is: We’re all a little flawed and messed up (to say the least), just accept it and embrace it as I have. Unclench those bowels. You’ll be much less uptight. Its ok to have flaws and quirks. Its what makes us human and gives us our unique personalities. Otherwise you’d just be a boring, uptight robot and no one wants that, right? But yes, at least you ended up liking the movie, so I apologize if this came off harsh.
"I like you 'cuz you're real. You don't pretend you've got it all figured out like everyone else."
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