What would you do if????........ - The Dive from Clausen's Pier (2005) Discussion

[–] cmk_babie8789 19 years ago

ugh i'm in a a similar thing as carrie right now and i dont like it at all. Its almost the same as hers but a little different. But me I would listen to my heart and i would pick Mike you could tell she wanted to go back but was scared...I would of to see what would happen and be with mike

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[–] dce2491 19 years ago

I would pick mike...he is the perfect guy. You know that she still loved him, and even though she didn't love him before, I think that it is very tacky that she left.

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[–] Sunflower007 19 years ago

~ I thought that was an aweful thing she did by leaving. I wouldn't be able to leave with myself.

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[–] LilPunkPony 19 years ago

You can't say it was awful of her to leave, because you yourself don't know what it is to be in that situation. Think about it, could you really sit there and deal with that? Are you a strong enough person? Not to mention she was ready to tell him she didn't love him anymore then this happened. I am sure the poor girl was very confused by it all. I know I would have been. Not to mention everyone didn't stop to think how she was doing. They just all expected her to be ok. And when she wasn't they were all mad at her. Well, that isn't cool.

As for what I would do. I wouldn't say Mike was perfect because no one is. But like she said they knew everything about each other and sometimes that can be suffocating. With Kilroy it was different. It was new. She didn't know everything about him. And he was older. I think I would stay in touch with Mike and see how things went with Kilroy and ultimately finish school. Take time for yourself. Maybe be friends with both guys. And just really find who I am. Before committing to someone completely.

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[–] lazykk23 19 years ago

I would have picked Mike. It sounds terrible to just choose someone because it sounds like they are a dog or something....
but Mike seemed like he really truly loved her and he wanted to be together. When Carrie came for Roosters wedding and Mike was getting in bed he said to her
....."there were no more secrets to tell" or something along those lines. He
seemed like he knew she didn't want him anymore even before the accident.
He didn't blame her for leaving him....

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[–] baybmee 19 years ago

Well i'm sure it's really hard but she stopped loving him, so you can't see yourself standing by someone if you don't even love them.
Me- i would have talked..and taken it one day at a time. If i loved him. geez they never really talked- sex is sex not love.
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[–] suchalovelyprincess 19 years ago

*~I would pick whoever looks the best.~*

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[–] Sunflower007 19 years ago

~ I could just never see myself to be that inconsiderate. Especially to a person who has done nothing but love me. I am not a perfect person nor bother trying to be either. I just couldn't live with myself to be that horrible. When Carrie left Mike to go to NY to screw Kilroy. I thought she was so selfish, vicious & a coward.

Thats just my opinion. I'm not asking anyone to agree with me. Thats just how I feel.

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[–] FallenAngel2686 19 years ago

Well I think that mostly but not always when you love someone you never really fall out of love with them. I mean there can be times where it could feel like it's the same old thing and you get bored and sometimes question love. But when something happens, something big that changes things like what happened to Mike that makes you realize how much you love that person and ultimately brings the two in love closer. I think what Carrie did was really cold. She left Mike at a time in his life where he needed her the most. I couldn't picture ever doing that to someone. If this happened to me I would have stayed. I don't even think I would've left the hospital, let alone the state. That's my opinion.

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[–] kati_jean 18 years ago

I Totaly agree...i cant see how she could have left...even if she wasnt IN love with him anymore...i still feal like she cared for him ..especially if she USED 2 love ...

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[–] sherrybear 16 years ago

I even think that she does love him. She is just confused and scared so she doesn't really know what to deal with it. even if she doesn't love him anymore, she should be there for him like a friend is there for you.. They don't even have to get married but just be in his life.

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[–] ednalyn99 16 years ago

I agree.

What she did was very cruel.

You do not leave your friends when they are at their weakest and helpless. Much moreso with a person you're a relationship in. She didn't have to be in love with him to even want to help him out. Any decent human being would try to help.

If the person who did the leaving here was the guy, and the girl was the one who got paralyzed, I'm pretty sure there would be no "oh, but we have to understand he's no longer in love with her...blah blah" explanations.

None of that. He would automatically be labeled a heel.

The whole soul-searching in New York like Felicity all reeks of phony woman-empowerment excuses.

She was a lousy person to do that to Mike. End of Story.

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[–] jessimischa 15 years ago

Once Mike realized she didn't love him he didn't want her to stay. So what did she have to stay for? No guy wants the girl around after she breaks his heart, maybe after time they can be friends and that is exactly what happened, time past he got over his anger towards her and now they can have something, her staying would have been selfish because she would have been smothering him when he wouldn't have wanted to see her, just to clear her on conscience.

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[–] kisses5050 14 years ago

This happened to my sister... she was married less than a year and miserable planning divorce...then one day she was off on a business trip and gets a call from her husband's boss he didn't show up for work so they went over to check on him and he was on the floor a brain virus put him in a coma he had to go through total rehab had partial amnesia was never the same....she sat and cried and cried when I hugged her she whispered in my ear "how can I be the total *beep* who leaves the sick guy? my life is over."

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[–] joyceday 9 years ago

I haven't seen the movie but just finished reading the book and people were putting a lot of pressure on her (Rooster, Jamie, Mike's mother) even before the accident as if it was a crime that she no longer loved Mike or perhaps never totally had. Once the accident happened they were all telling her what she had to do rather than realizing that she too was going through something very difficult albeit not as difficult as what Mike was dealing with. Some on this board want to castigate Carrie for leaving when Mike needed her but he was always going to need her since his condition would never improve. We have to ask ourselves how much we are willing to sacrifice to make someone else happy at the expense of our own life and dreams? She was already miserable before the accident and that was when Mike was physically fit so how much worse would it have been had she been forced to stay there rather than coming back of her own volition? No matter what she did someone was going to get hurt but few seemed to care whether she got hurt. Hard choices had to be made and some who would call her cruel can easily say that since it is not them who would have to live the life that they insisted she live.

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