i don't have a problem with interracial dating, but I do have a problem

What movie were you watching? IMHO he was trying to help her open up to her true self. He wasn't trying to fix her. He was trying to help her relax & enjoy life.

I found the "I see you brought your night light with you" & he didn't react in a negative way...refreshing
This is a positive interracial dating film. I loved it

almost sounds like you created what you wanted to see to manufacture support for your own prejudice

it was clear to the viewer she was not herself.she was what others told her.
her mother told her colours are for whores.
her bland clothes and painted walls weren't her choice, if it was she would have expressed "i like those colours"

i would have thought a weave was just a quickly removable wig too, asking to see someone without a wig on is not a force to change someone.

and openly not racist guy was confronted with racist frustration and was not in the mood, not really any indication he was forcing her to change long term. key words he gave " not tonight"

she clearly demonstrated her love for gardens after all she asked him to create her a garden.
doesn't seem any way unacceptable to encourage her to experience her love of nature.

He asked her if she likes not having color, and she responds with her mother doesn't like it. With the hair thing, he told her that he wanted to see her completely naked.
He wasn't trying to change her, he was trying to get her to open up aka form her own opinions.

Are you serious? Because that's not what I picked up from this movie at all. I think he just wanted her to be comfortable in her own skin, truly be herself and just happier in general. I think it's so cute that he wanted her to wear her own natural hair. I think he picked up on the fact that she was too stressed and uptight, and a lot of it came from her doing things that were expected of her, i.e. when she says her mother doesn't like the color on walls. This is reinforced again when her mother is upset that she is not wearing extensions in her hair anymore. When you really think about it, he was somewhat right because after she made these changes, she seemed much happier. There's never anything wrong with someone wanting you to just be you. Now, in my opinion, it would have been different if she initially wore her hair in natural styles and he wanted her to get extensions.

And as far as racism, he never said that he didn't want to talk about it at all, he just didn't want to talk about it ALL the time. I mean who wants to discuss that every single day. Yes, there is still a lot of racism in the world and it's really messed up, but sometimes you just gotta enjoy the day and live in the moment. Besides, Kenya also made some stereotypical statements about white people as well. And look at how she treated him when they were around other people ( like the comedy club and the bbq).

Bottom line, he treated her way better than she treated him, and yet in the end he was still in love with her despite that.








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