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Kenya was inexcusably rude to Brian during the blind date

posted 11 years ago by jane_bront
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She didn't have to act so snooty and repulsed just because Brian was white. Sure, her co-worker should have told her but a mature adult who has some consideration for another human being's feelings wouldn't have acted like she did. If she was not at all interested in him then she could have handled the situation in a kind manner instead of sulking like a pre-teen and giving him a lot of attitude. In fact, her behavior towards him throughout the entire film was rather questionable and I don't understand what about Kenya's personality attracted Brian enough for him to marry her.

~"Chris, am I weird?"
~"Yeah, but so what? Everybody's weird."

[–] first-things-first 11 years ago

Some people want to believe we are better. So they give second chances(s). Brian saw a very beautiful, uptight, intelligent woman. He understood her reluctance, and didn't let it stop him from trying to get to know her.

Her beauty intrigued him, along with her confidence in her professional life. He thought she didn't now how to have fun. But once he started to remove the onion layers, he found her to be unsure about her heart. A direct contradiction from her professional life. To some of us, it may be unbelievable that what we want is not what we think we want. We buy the hype about happiness instead of listening to our hearts.

What I did like about Kenya and Brian is that he apologized for not understanding her insecurities for being acknowledged, and she went after him after she rejected him.

"...as long as people can change, the world can change"

[–] DivaJ75 11 years ago

She wasn't repulsed. She was in a predominantly Black area with a White male and wanted to come across as being down, hence her talking to random Black people for no good reason. She was caught off guard.

"Give a hand to my band, Sexual Chocolate!" Coming to America

[–] jane_bront 11 years ago

Some people want to believe we are better. So they give second chances(s).

I guess it turned out okay for Brian after a lot of unnecessary drama, but wanting to believe someone is a better person than their own words and actions indicate is wishful thinking and often a waste of time – unless you want to spend time trying to fix or heal a complete stranger because you see potential. But why take on that emotional headache? Why not move on to someone who is too polite to be rude to another person the first time she meets him? There are other beautiful, professionally confident women who’d fit the bill.

She wasn't repulsed. She was in a predominantly Black area with a White male and wanted to come across as being down, hence her talking to random Black people for no good reason. She was caught off guard.

But how mature or attractive is that? Her behavior made an awful first impression and I’m guessing most blind dates wouldn’t want to come back for more. There are other fish in the sea.

~"Chris, am I weird?"
~"Yeah, but so what? Everybody's weird."

[–] first-things-first 11 years ago

Well in his case, he did move on. He only went back because they met at the wedding and she wanted his opinion on her garden. She liked what she heard and that was the beginning of a possible friendship. She was cordial, not friendly at first. But with time, she liked him. Remember she made coffee for him and used an excuse that she was making it or something. I giggled at that. Her subconscious knew what she was doing in my opinion.

But why take on that emotional headache? Why not move on to someone who is too polite to be rude to another person the first time she meets him? There are other beautiful, professionally confident women who’d fit the bill.

Because the person you state doesn't exist. We are human, we make mistakes. I read in the book Magpie by the author Kim Dare, that some people truly trust those that can make mistakes. I always admired people who didn't make mistakes. I compared them as better than me. Now, I know that it's not bad to make a mistake. It's bad not to own it and take responsibility. Sure we can try and stack the deck, or have a list like you state. But we might miss something wonderful if we don't take a chance. Especially if the behavior doesn't do you bodily harm.

So would I bother, yes if I were interested. If a person is rude, they are usually hiding something, or were never taught that it's okay to be kind. It's a way of keeping you away. At some point you respect their boundary and walk away. But there is a loss to both of us.

she loved poetry and romance, but she hit the glass ceiling at birth

[–] jane_bront 8 years ago

Because the person you state doesn't exist.

This is not true. Many people who are too polite to be rude to another person the first time they meet them do exist. But if a person like snooty rude Kenya can keep a guy interested, then I guess that works out for her and a guy who likes that kind of drama.

[–] first-things-first 8 years ago

I can see your point. I was only thinking of an individual that is afraid to rock the boat. Edit: But even that may be a form of giving in. It's one thing to know that you can't win "an argument". It's another to know that the conversation is lost on them.

And what fresh Hell is this?, Malory from Archer(Dorothy Parker)

[–] antoinettew29 10 years ago

yes Kenya was uptight, rude, snooty, and that was the point! She is this very successful African american professional who is unlucky in love. she said it her self that she felt as if she had to work twice as hard as everyone else because she is black and being a woman she probably felt like she had to work triple. she called it "the black tax" and Brian was a down to earth guy. you want to know why he wanted Kenya? He stated it in the movie "I take hard earth and make things bloom." (best line in the film by the way) He was a gardener in more was than one. and if you watch the movie closely you will actually see her bloom. her hair, her style, even her attitude changes.

[–] Miss-marleyFabulous 10 years ago

Whatever!