I'm Nicole....


Even though I truly did not like her and I truly loved Stuart in this film, I have realized that I'm Nicole.

I'm broke. Insecure. Whingey. Can't make up my mind. Very Sentimental. I take up for my family in any situation, even if I know they are wrong. I save stupid stuff, because it means something to me. And I would let someone pay off my student loans if they offered.

I live with my boyfriend and he pays for everything except my personal bills. He never complains. He wants to marry me. I won't because I think there is something better out there for me. I'm childish. I keep secrets.

The only difference is, and it's a good thing is that neither of us want kids and we take all the precautions to make sure we never do.

All in all, this movie was me in so many ways. I make myself into a victim all on my own.

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*Human After All*

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Thanks for sharing :)

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Your honesty is commendable, but I have to tell you, there are a million girls that fit that description... it's normal.

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There are plenty of guys that can identify with Stuart.

It is ironic that so many couple stay together where physical abuse or repeated infidelity are present and these guys really have it all and can't go on.

Smart, good looking, not hurting for money, good in bed, etc.,etc. I think Stuart would have signed on with full support for kids in time. So, it wasn't even that.

With all he had to give, it wasn't what she wanted. I think that's the significance of the "Flannel Pajamas" scene. It looked like she was saying that these were gifts from someone who loved her but they weren't what she wanted.

Poor Stuart...

Poor Nicole.

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I think that is important to realize that Nicole really didn't want a baby, or a dog, or a catering business. Once she had her baby, it would just be something else...a house in the country? A nanny?

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Jeez, did you see the Sunday NY Times article about the study of women in the lab, they are all totally clueless, no one knows what women want. Me, I know, it's easy, they want everything, and they want nothing, it's evolution, natural selection, for a million years if you didn't want and have babies then there would be no humans. Now the world is polluted and over populated and the sea change in women's brain chemistry is exactly at the tipping point, they know we don't need any more babies and they still want babies and every security measure that comes with it, and with a man. They want it + they don't want = conflict. Check back in a hundred years, everything will be fine, they'll look back and say, "those poor people at the turn of the century, they didn't know what they wanted."

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It's not rocket science. It's elementary Primatology. Females want to follow their natural instincts (to nest and make babies) and males want to follow theirs (to spread the seed around to as many females as possible, then leave them to the females to take care of). The conflict arises because we alone, are the primates who can imagine a life more gratifying than the one programmed into us by nature. As Hamlet said "To sleep: perchance to dream: aye, there's the rub...".

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Wow! I like that! That scene does sum it up metaphorically.

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I was like Nicole once, around 10 years ago. To be totally honest, I still have a few Nicole-ish traits that show up from time to time. Maybe that's why I was so disgusted with her by the end, when she broke off her marriage to Stuart in the ice-cold way that she did. Coming right after the emotional speech he made, that was horrible to watch. I knew what she was doing all too well, and I wanted to leap through the screen and smack some sense into her the way no one did for me back then, to stop me from making one of the biggest mistakes of my life.

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