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Could a relationship like this work for the long term?

posted 18 years ago by das417
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Could a relationship like this work for the long term? It would seem no because just keeping a 'two person' relationship together is a miracle itself. Three people would seem lopsided from the start in that it would seem that at least two of the persons involved would form a closer bond that would leave the third one out. Sam and Steven mentioned this one of the first times they tried having a relationship like this. The leaving out, or at least the idea of one of the persons not being quite as connected, would surly end the relationship eventually much as what happened with Sam, Steven, and Samantha.

[–] hanako-4 18 years ago

If you research 'polyamory' you'll find that lots of people have tried relationships involving more than two. And yeah, most of them fall apart in the long term, but most marriages fall apart in the long term too. *shrug*

I don't know, it seems pretty complicated to me, but that doesn't make it impossible.

[–] the_big_fella 17 years ago

Simply put...TWO IS COMPANY, THREE IS A CROWD.

[–] lacqua86-1 17 years ago

Two is company, three's a party.

[–] gut-6 17 years ago

And four is an orgy.

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[–] wolfinspirit 17 years ago

It is difficult to make a relationship like this work in the long term, but not impossible. You're ting the ONE example in the movie and setting it as the "rule" for all of socity. Not everyone is the same.

[–] DataCraft 17 years ago

It'w wierd but a relationship on the long term IMO at least would be possible. As far as the gay men and the woman go I realy don't think that they are realy gay nor straight. I would see the situation as a two bisexual men and a woman who is not bothered of having two men at her side.

A woman who loves two men who love eachother and in turn love the woman.
Simple no ?.

[–] mac_n_cheese_ladie 17 years ago

I have not seen this movie yet, but I intend to. I was starting to feel like I was alone in my belief that a relationship between consenting adults was fine without regard to gender or number of people involved. I mean, really, some people have multiple partners at a time, they just lie about it to each of them. The lying is what bothers me. If three people mutually decide to share their love together, I think that is great. And as for it lasting in the long run, I think that really depends, but I don't think it is any more or less likely than a 2-person relationship.
As for their orientations, as I haven't seen the movie, I can't say, but I think people put far too much emphasis on sexual orientation, when defining it really shouldn't matter. I mean, you can't really determine another person's sexuality without them coming out and telling you, because it is a personal thing. for example, I am pansexual, but you wouldn't know that just by seeing me holding hands with a member of the "same sex" or the "opposite sex" (or anything in between). Sexual orientation is not defined by who you are with but rather who you are, imo. I know lots of people don't agree with me, and that's fine.
I'm going to shut up now. And find that movie.

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