I could see their relationship from the second he walked through the door near the start. The reason I could was incase anyone noticed as soon as her father was around she became a child. Her mindset completely changed. I knew there had to be something up. Anybody else notice this fantastically portrayed subtlety?
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As soon as Sherry started jumping up and down on the couch (the same way her daughter Lexie did when Sherry was doling out presents), I knew that something was up, too. "Daddy, Daddy ... I want to show you my GED!" And then when Sherry began singing "Eternal Flame" at the dinner table, I was like UH-OH.
"FRA-GEE-LAY. That's Italian!"
"I think that says 'fragile', honey."
Yeah, I actually think they built up to the whole incest idea very well. At first you think, "Well, maybe she's just really excited to see her father." or "Maybe he just treats her like a baby because of all she's been through." But still, something seems a little off and inappropriate about their relationship. And then when he gropes her, your like, "I knew it!"
It explains a lot about why Sherry feels that the only power she has is sexual power. She is willing to give the gross job interviewer a blow job just to get the job she wants. While many women may work their "feminine wiles" to get their way with men (as Sherry tries to do but fails with her parole officer), few would resort to actual sex. She's obviously a damaged person because of the incest.
It also explains why her brother has such a soft spot for her. You figure, he's always kind of known what was going on between his sister and father but didn't know what to do about it. When they're having lunch together, he says to Sherry, "I know what you've been through" and she seems a little taken aback but you get the impression that she knows he knows about it as well. At least that means he will hopefully watch out for Alexis and not leave her alone with her grandfather. If he'd do it to his daughter, the granddaughter isn't safe, either.
Yeah, I actually think they built up to the whole incest idea very well. At first you think, "Well, maybe she's just really excited to see her father." or "Maybe he just treats her like a baby because of all she's been through." But still, something seems a little off and inappropriate about their relationship. And then when he gropes her, your like, "I knew it!"
It explains a lot about why Sherry feels that the only power she has is sexual power. She is willing to give the gross job interviewer a blow job just to get the job she wants. While many women may work their "feminine wiles" to get their way with men (as Sherry tries to do but fails with her parole officer), few would resort to actual sex. She's obviously a damaged person because of the incest.
It also explains why her brother has such a soft spot for her. You figure, he's always kind of known what was going on between his sister and father but didn't know what to do about it. When they're having lunch together, he says to Sherry, "I know what you've been through" and she seems a little taken aback but you get the impression that she knows he knows about it as well. At least that means he will hopefully watch out for Alexis and not leave her alone with her grandfather. If he'd do it to his daughter, the granddaughter isn't safe, either.
If you watch it again, notice the way the father, albeit subtly, pushes Sherry's hands away from his body after he hugs her the first time. I knew something was odd about their relationship.
shareI knew something was wrong when she was so excited seeing her father and kissed him on the mouth. I can't see that kind of thing happening on a normal relationship between a parent and a grown-up child.
"Losers always whine about their best. Winners go home and fuck the prom queen."
-John Mason
Anyone notice the jealous reaction of Daddy's new girlfriend, too? She seemed to get the idea that there was something going on.
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Did anyone feel that the film didn't adequately address who knew about the incestuous relationship, and if anyone DID know, why they didn't do anything about it? He squeezes her tit, and it's not address the rest of the film
shareYes, it was - when the brother said he knew what was really going on.
But then we never found out why the brother never did anything about, when seemed to be a fairly caring person.
shareI just assumed he didn't know what to do. From what I've seen on television about these things, most family members simply don't know what to do and are afraid to say anything lest they make things worse.
shareI can't believe nobody got this...
He didn't know! Not until he saw the father squeeze her tit!
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I can't believe nobody got this...
He didn't know! Not until he saw the father squeeze her tit!
definately agree, the kisses were a little much, and with the groping I was like WTF, what a dirty a-hole the father was. She's trying to get clean and hes keeping her locked into hooker mode. They should have made a scene in which Sherry reveals the sexual abuse to Danny Trejo's character and then he goes and kicks the crap outta the dad infront of the whole family...That would have been a great ending.
sharethe man is pond-scum, and even through I did not agree with her life-style and thought she was a little slutty and drugged out, I do understand what brought her to that point, her own Dad molested her and it destroyed her life and mind.
I would be REALLY worried if I were Bobby and Lynette and Sherry that "dear old grampa" is gonna start molesting little Lexi, if he did it to his daughter he will damned sure do it to her, cant believe Bobby left Lexi with that dirty old man while he went to Florida with Lynette, he must of known, and if he did not he knows now and should keep that piece of crap away from Lexi before that creepo starts incest with that sweet little precious girl, if he has not already, that Lexi looked troubled and its not only from her Moms coming home, I bet grampa has pulled some crap, surprised this was NOT elaborated on more and that creep called out by Bobby or Sherry! he should of paid for his crimes!
You can hear the father saying "Stop it" when Sherry first greets him at the door. She obviously knows no boundaries around him, and he knows that there are people just around the corner. Very disturbing. What chance did she stand? Sherry broke my heart.
"It's not like I'm some modern punk, dickhead. It's an obvious, 1977 original punk rock look."
Yes! There are many reasons why I love this film. Sherrybaby has to be *one* of the most "real" films that I have seen. As the viewer, I don't like everything to be spelled out for me. I appreciate the subtleties in this film. I am of the "MTV Generation" and I am always shocked by the low-attention span of most of my peers. Because of this, 90% of media has been dumbed down to accomodate.
From the moment that he walked in, it was painfully obvious that Sherry had been molested by her sick father. In an instant, Sherry transformed into a childish, insecure little girl. It is also important to note the awkward, inappropriate physical interaction between Sherry and her father. So realistic! Typically, when a child is sexually abused, a "switch" is turned on, even though the child feels ashamed, frightened and damaged. If the abuse is ongoing, the child begins to associate sexual acts, (though he/she probably doesn't even comprehend why) as acceptance, approval or a means of getting attention. Sadly, that unhealthy association will carry on into adulthood, often leading to self-destructive behavior, (to say the least). This is shown in the first scene between Sherry and her father. Sherry reaches for the familiar way in which she relates to her father. Later, when the sick bastard fondles her, Sherry turns to the only other familiar relationship that she knows- heroin/drugs.
I "get" Sherry's struggles, sadness, disgust, regret and self loathing. Thankfully, it seems that by the end of the film, Sherry could very well be on the road to loving herself and recovery.
Oh yes, I saw this one coming. The hug thing and millions of kisses on the lips...I mean I know some people still do that, families, "granny kisses" but these were completely different. They were like romantic kisses. And then when he actually put his hand down her top I was shocked. I mean I guessed it, and I was right, but still it was just so...I can't even put it into words it was just creepy.
shareAbsolutely, she was trying too hard, wanted her daddy to notice her and her alone, but this is typical behaviour of most alcoholics and those people with unfinished issues with their parents.
I also think Sherry was jealous of the attention her father paid to her daughter. Was there an issue between grandpa and granddaughter, I don't know, but the little girl didn't shy away from him, which you would think she would do if something unusual going on that the little girl didn't like.
I also believe that Lexi was confused about the situation, on one hand, she has a stable family with her aunt and uncle, then her mother shows up out of the blue to change the dynamic. How else was Lexi going to behave but confused and misbehaving.
I think too, Sherry expected too much from the relationship with her daughter.....and her place in her life.