This gives me heartache =(

Hey, don't give up . I was in your shoes once, and accidently watched another movie that opened my eyes about how I was negotiating my sexuality. It took me only a few weeks after watching that movie (i.e. "Beautiful Thing") before I went to some gay clubs / parties by myself and got me my first boyfriend ;). My life got better and better, step by step from that point on. Now I'm living with my partner of 9 years and have found the love of my life. So nothing has to "go downhill" when you are 25 and are deciding to finally live the way you really want to live. It's not at all too late for anything at your age.

So, come on, "make your own kind of mucic".

Cheers, Jan

Hi, Arkhon

I admit our kind would never get along totally well with majority since we don't talk about sex the way they do provided the fact that sex is really a convenient topic to get people along. But besides that, we're totally equal and normal in any apsect of life. (You're lucky to love soccer and car. I love volleyball and drama. Believe me, my friends make great fun out of it.)

I don't know which country you come from. I'm a Chinese, and the place I worked at is really official and gay-unrelated. But I try to be nice to others and be fully myself at the same time. I never frequent gay bars or constantly flirt with others. But I have my own really good friends, straight or gay, whom I came out to and can turn to whatever happened.

To me love is like meteorite, it always fell on and crushed you in the least possible way. I'm 24, and as I was on the edge of being desperate, a new friend revealed his feelings toward me, and I stayed with him for months even though I didn't love him actually. And immediately after that, I went into a really sweet but tiring relationship with a colleague. Now I'm really tired and only want to enjoy being myself and living my own life.

I mean, we're always dissatisfied with the current situation. Just remember, never give up, cause luck will strike you anytime, anywhere, and that won't be something you can plan or wait for.

Just be brave, be yourself, and be sincere. After all, we're only in mid-20s. So many things await!

What made the universe made me.

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Really?
When I was 28 years old, I met this great guy I feel in love with. We moved in together, I put him thru grad school and then we adopted three HIV kids together, own our own home, he is an openly gay politician and my husband for THIRTY years this November. He is the love of my life, literally. Everything after 25 was all uphill for me. And it's still going uphill! Have a little faith.
Kevin

Harriet Jones, Former Prime Minister.

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I do feel like how you feel sometimes. I started coming out to my close friends when I was 19, 20 to the world, and just last year to my family and relatives. I'm 24 now. But when I think how other people decades older than us are still in the closet, suffocating, I am reminded that we still have time, lots and lots of it. To be out even just a year, month, week, or days before dying than not to be out at all is a joy-bestowing thought.

Hey, I was reading about Jean Claude Van Damme, he moved from Belgium to California (a very expensive place to live) in his mid-twenties because he knew he wanted to be in the movies. I can't imagine just packing up and moving to a completely new country. But if he did, smaller changes are possible for the rest of us, right?

Now if you were 50, I could see perhaps being a bit depressed. But one of my favorite teachers in high school, he and his wife decided around that age they would BOTH go back to college and get their teaching certificates.

So I won't say it is easy, in my case major health issues limit my choices, but better make major changes now at 25 than wait.