Spanking only works for so long. I mean, are you going to spank the kid when he's 17? Why should he listen to you anymore?
They have to learn to do what they told simply out of respect, not for fear of getting hurt.
Yes, if parents haven't used time outs before it will take /forever/ to get the kids to actually do it at the start, but once they have it down, they're good for life. It's like learning anything new.
Spanking is a VERY short-term solution, IMO, and it doesn't work with everyone (and in quite a few cases can make the kid act out even more).
Them having to sit in the same place for a good few minutes (which is an eternity for kids) will teach them patience, obedience and respect, all of which they will need later in life. And they actually have to make a concious choice to sit there and take the time out, because if they decide to get up every time they're put there, then it takes even longer - which is how it goes with most things in life.
But a boot isn't going to materialise and kick you in the butt every time you do something wrong as an adult. Once that threat is gone, they're free to do what they like.
And I'm not anti-spanking particularly (in fact, I think a lot of people get far too dramatic about it), I just think it's ineffective and lazy in comparison to alternate methods.
And in the end, taking the short-term, easy method simply because it's less work for you is pretty selfish. What's a few hours of effort when it comes to making sure your kids grow up right?
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