The loneliness of death **spoilers**

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“Death does not concern us, because as long as we exist, death is not here. And when it does come, we no longer exist.”

There is this mystery about people when they leave us.

Life is a dream surely. Our flame, the will-o’-the-wisp that dances in a few eyes, is soon to be blown out and all will fade.

i truly agree with you, beautifully said. as the final moment comes, no matter how many loved ones are around us, we are inextricably alone and we face death on our own.
I think the bottom line this movie tries to make is that death is a personal, intimate and lonely experience in the end and there's nothing we can do about it. As Romain starts to grasp the imminence of his departure, he is enraged and revolted, but he gradually gains acceptance and makes one final attempt at LIFE when he decides to impregnate the waitress, against his nature, against what he would have done were he healthy (he tells mother he will never have kids because hes queer). But this is how it is, death changes everything and makes you look at things in a different perspective. And death is for the dying, not for the young and full of life (like Sascha, like his sister with the kids - they are all symbols of life's triumph and Romain realizes he cannot really reach them anymore). He retreats alone on the beach in a tranquil celebration of life intertwined with joyful childhood memories.

I really enjoyed this film, and i have only ONE COMPLAINT. I don' t get it why in most movies gay bars are presented as very obscure, sleazy establishments where these really dubious looking gays engage in all sorts of fetishistic activities in plain sight and on every bar corner... there seems to be this constant in films with gay characters who decide to go pick up someone at a gay bar. not all gay bars are like that. it creates a negative portrayal of gay people who appear as deviant lechers, which i personally think is wrong.


"No sense makes sense." - Charlie Manson

I've experienced this situation at the surviving end. The anger and regrets one feels (for not being there for him) is overwhelming. You try to imagine how he could have gone thru it all by himself. How is it a better way to end it this way? But, that survival instinct Romain and his grandma talked about, you have to do what feels right for yourself. At the end of the movie, I was sad for him, but I was also glad that he seems to find peace to accept the inevitable. There is no best way to go, but this is good enough. We all have to face it alone in the end, all we can hope for is to be able to find the peace when the time comes.