Beckman-Heckett/Child s

Agree w/ you100%.

I just watched that episode, and that father is so creepy. Like any cult leader, he claims to be open-minded, but silences and punishes anyone who disagrees with him in the slightest. He's proud that he brainwashes his children, but then manipulates his actions by telling his children, "Oh, I meant that your brain is washed in God's love." What an abusive manipulator! And the way his eyes went all crazy when he was describing his definition of speed dating--just wow...

He is breeding his daughters to find abusive, controlling men. The girls are going to become nothing but slaves who will be "punished" for stepping out of line, and they will think that it's completely normal and healthy. After all, who knows what the father said (or did) to Columbia when she showed a hint of "rebellion." It was scary how immediately she changed her mind and felt guilty for having her own desires and thoughts. It broke my heart at the end of the episode when she said that she no longer desires to be a working mom.

That poor family was so disturbing to watch. The father basically just wants his family to jerk him off and praise him for being "the gate keeper." What a lunatic!

That father is a disgusting freak. I hope all his daughters turn on him and run free and do what they want when they figure out what a horrible human being he is.

I am so freaking appalled with the mother and father in that family. The father is definitely more like a cult leader than a gate keeper or wall watcher.. whatever the Heck he thinks he is has been beaten into that family. There is just no way they could be so subservient without it. With the mother of the other family coming in they had a glimpse of the real world but the fear inside those children was so bad even when he admitted to saying he brainwashed them there was no belief he even said that. And when it was confronted he lied through his teeth. How sad for those children. Especially the only one with a miniscule of rebellion Colombia. That poor girl had to be hurt when he took her away in the van. She came back broken. The mother from the other house has a good head on her shoulders, I wish she could do something to help that family. CPS should be looking into the gate keeper. You don't have to beat your children to be abusive. He is 100% brainwashing those children and that needs to be stopped. If the other mother went to child welfare I'm sure they would be investigating. He needs to be thrown in jail and lets see how well he wall wathes there. Those kids will never be able to think. How sad.

I just watched this episode and could not believe what I was seeing, those girls need to be removed from that house sooner rather than later, I half expected him to start shouting he was a prophet of the lord, his completely lost it as far as I can see, it makes me wonder what his upbringing was like because something created "the gatekeeper" as he repeatedly referred to himself.

Columbia got married a month ago, here's her wedding page https://www.theknot.com/us/columbia-childs-and-aaron-wajsgras-aug-2015

Hopefully she married a better guy than her dad.

"I'd rather lose for what I am than win for what I ain't"

Kacey Musgraves "Pageant Material"

Truly amazing the amount of effort that's gone into talking about what people think our family is like. To set the record straight: our entire family hates this episode, because it is about 99% fabricated and has caused quite a bit of heartache to us over the years. The true thing anyone would need therapy for is what the production put both our family and the Beckman-Heskett family through. My dad included. Without getting too in-depth (honestly, who knows what the hell I'm allowed to say because of that contract that was signed years ago) they made EVERYONE involved in the production (Kim, Columbia, Kim's daughters, my mom, everyone) extremely distressed beyond belief. And because there was almost no drama at the start between us (Kim was lovely, and she and my dad actually got along swimmingly), they conjured up a "religious view point" (yes, both our families believe in Jesus, but that's pretty much the main thing they took and ran with as crazy far as they could).

They ignored the fact that my older sisters were actually called home from college at the time for filming, practically dressed everyone up like puppets to meet their agendas, and wrote nearly 100% of the rules for both our families.... and then if I recall correctly threatened with the contract. Somehow they pieced together the most shockingly far-fetched story they could with what footage they had. Take another watch of the episode. What you're actually "seeing" is mostly narrated by a fiction-telling storyteller. The infamous "brainwashing" line was somehow said, and to this day my dad has no idea how they manipulated the question into actually getting him to say those words, but it is what it is, guys. He's still distressed about it.

My family is extremely well adjusted - three of my five sisters are happily married to great guys, the other two live amazing lives. I live in LA pursuing creative dreams and loving life (talk to my awesome fam on a weekly basis), my parents both as hilarious and social as ever (my mom has worked, not only stayed home, for a ton of her life, and she still does work actually), and my sisters all pursuing dreams / working. Well, except the littlest one who is just a pre-teen but is running with her creativity and talents and involvements.

For the record, Columbia has been a gymnast her whole life and wanted to do physical therapy after that, and the producers decided to switch it so that it would be "doctor" - she followed her path coaching for awhile and developed a love for kids, and she's now finishing her degree and has held a few teaching/counseling jobs with kids. She and her husband love their life together, and they live a short plane ride away.

Also worth noting, and please take my word for it: we were never brainwashed. Not even close. My parents are literally two of the most loving people I know, my dad has always been a hard worker who has pushed every single one of us to follow our dreams, no matter where it takes us. My other little sister has already lived all a few places around the world throughout college (and she's now becoming extremely successful in her career)... and I've visited over 20 countries myself and become extremely tight friends with countless people of all different races, religions, sexual orientations, backgrounds, etc. My parents have been along for the ride as supportive and amazing parents do... they're involved in our church, but they're also just mostly loving being grandparents and falling more in love with each other every day. They've taken to vacationing more together and meeting friends all over the world, too! Breathe easy, people.

ALL THIS TO SAY..... c'mon. PLEASE STOP trusting reality TV. And please know that your comments can actually cause a lot more pain than what the actual situation is. Because almost NONE of what you saw was even close to being true.