when Ray starts to actually love Livy and vice versa

On the DVD the actors say they have trouble pinpointing the moment when love actually begins for each character. When do you think it happens?

For Ray: I think I see it in the scene at the family dinner. Livy has been complaining that all they talk about is farming, so Ray makes an effort to talk about something she's interested in. Livy reciprocates by inquiring about the planting for the coming year. Ray answers and smiles the sweetest smile almost all to himself. The fact that she made the effort to even meet him halfway I think is the point where he starts to genuinely love her.

For Livy: I think I see it in the scene where Ray takes her to his brother's grave. She finally sees what an open hearted man Ray is and it is the first time she voluntary touches him. He looks almost startled because up until then every move he made that even looked like he was going to touch her she recoiled.