I have been to a couple hookers, so at least Im not a virgin. But I have never kissed a girl or even gone on a date. And at my age, Im afraid to even get in a relationship because Im pretty sure that most girls wouldnt want to go out with a freak in his late 20s who has never even kissed a girl. Anyone else in a similar boat or know anyone who is?
shareI've got a couple of miserably drunken one-night stands under my belt, but that's pretty much it. I'm pretty sure everyone in my family think I'm gay. Every time there's some kind of big family dinner or whatever, all my cousins or other relatives around the same age as me are always bringing their girlfriends or boyfriends, whereas I on the other hand... At this point, I feel like a piece of fish that's been sitting on the shelf for way too long, gathering flies, emitting a foul odor, nothing but a pile of biological waste that belongs nowhere else but in the trash.
shareI'm pretty sure everyone in my family think I'm gay.
I feel like a piece of fish that's been sitting on the shelf for way too long, gathering flies, emitting a foul odor, nothing but a pile of biological waste that belongs nowhere else but in the trashYeah, you're pretty much right. You're a pitiful loser. I haven't been to this board in years and you're still here pissing and moaning, wasting your life.
you're still here pissing and moaning, wasting your life.Nowhere else for me to be, brah. Believe it or not, we can't all be socially functional and sexually active specimens that set the example for human success. share
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hey SALTER how ya doing. Firstly Hansen actually doesn't come here that much, this board is so fxcking dead that you can litterally check it once a week post, and the next week your post will still be near the top. You just happened to catch him posting.
Secondly, the few posts he does post are generally pretty much positive, jokey and upbeat. Sure, to the glancing eye it may seem like a guy down on his luck but having read all of them (yes I still come here also, I am a creature of habit and loyalty also) the Hansen-man is getting by and has an positive glow that only some happiness IRL will give off.
You sound like a bully.
sharePerhaps you just like being alone and running your own life?
If you want a girlfriend and want a relationship, then get off your ass and do something about it. If you're content with being alone and don't want to deal with all the crap a relationship brings, then do so and don't be self conscious about it.
The pressure of society and family used to get to me. I'd make up I was seeing a girl just to shut family up about it and not pester me, "SO.. are you dating!? SO, any girl in your life?! SO, when do we get to meet your girlfriend?"
Now I just say, "Nope. No girlfriend. Happy with being by myself at the moment." Most people in my family drop it, some (namely my lame brother in laws family) give me the weird look and I just ignore it. I've already told my parents/family I'm not having kids and don't see myself getting married.
Have had sex, have kissed women... was fun but wasn't like, "OH MY F'ING GOD I NEED THIS EVERY DAY!!!" and don't really like having someone else in my space. Only had a roommate once in college and couldn't stand it. I like to come home, do what I want to do and when I want to do it.. not having to answer to anyone.
The common response I get from haters is:
"You're selfish." Right... I'm selfish. For NOT wanting to start another family, dump out another useless spawn taking up more space on the freeway in an already over populated world... I am paying extra tax/insurance for the benefit of your crotch trophies and can invest my time in activities, friendships, and being there for my niece/nephew.
"You'll die alone with that thinking." We all die alone. Every single one of my grandparents died alone. Everyone treated them like an annoying thing to 'deal with' except my Mom and her Dad (Mom is VERY affectionate/caring). It's not the ****ing Notebook.
"You're gay." K... I'm not. I've had sex with women, never with men, never think about men that way... and watch p0rn while focusing on the woman. Nice trolling though.
TLDR: Ignore your family. Do what you want to do. If anyone else has a problem with it, tell them to go **** themselves. If you are depressed or unhappy you aren't in a relationship, then get your ass on match.com or something and solve it.
Im pretty sure that most girls wouldnt want to go out with a freak in his late 20s who has never even kissed a girl.
What does your age have to do with it? If they're shallow and obsessed with that sort of thing I guess but they're rare, and not the kind of person you want anyway. Really, your self-hating attitude is quite honestly more likely to put them off.
It's just kissing. Nobody who's legally an adult should care.
Is he gonna borrow a cup o' sugar from Satan?
Here is some advice. Fake it.
shareAs bad as this sounds, I was 33 the first time I took a girl out on a date, and kissed a girl. Dates, love, sex happen sooner for some people than it does for others. If you date a girl, kiss her, have sex with her, who cares when it happens as long as it does happen. Hold your head up, and keep your eyes and ears open. You never know when or where you'll meet someone.
shareI am a (male) kissless dateless virgin at 33. I just kinda get on with day to day life and try not to obsess and worry about it. My chances are slim at best. If it never happens then so be it.
Exactly. Life doesn't just stop or leave no room for growth or experience just because one area is lacking. Sure, it can be weird and even tough, but so can a lot of stuff. People don't just have fantastic lives because they aren't virgins or have sex regularly. Of course I don't mean to downplay how important it is to some people, but I wish more tortured souls could get to a place where they see it's not the only pleasure in life.
That said, I also do try to stress that for most in life, don't expect that the things you want are just going to happen. If you care about something, I think your best results will usually come from making it a priority.
Take a hint from this movie and don't give a *beep* about it. If you notice in this, Andy is the mature one. His co-workers are the dumbasses obsessing over it. They're the ones that ruin their lives with it. Andy was perfectly happy being how he was and eventually meets a girl that didn't care.
If you want a girlfriend - stop going to hookers, work on improving yourself in every way possible and stop caring about chasing women. If you be the best you can be it will come naturally and if it doesn't, who cares? There's so much more to life.
I didn't kiss my first girl or go on a date until I was 19, then I went 9 years without a date. I was 28 when I started dating again and it was basically like I hadn't ever dated before. I didn't lose my virginity until I was 29. I have no girlfriend now, but its not too late for you.
shareJust post pictures of yourself on Facebook lying in bed with all your extra money that wasn't wasted on a girlfriend.
It's cheaper to keep dating whores than to get a girlfriend.
Plus... They go away once you're done.