gay?

He is feigning affection for the girl to draw her away from the guy he is in love with.

Hi - I watched the movie a couple of days ago and posted a comment in the imdb comments for the film. This was one of the questions I tried to address if you want to check it out. I agree that very few things are clear-cut in this film. In fact, the film ends with another question about the protagonist !!!

he previously had something going on with the guy before

The male leads speak of their "past" in vague terms, but if you watch what is happening thru Simon's "eye", you can see that he is pining, not for the female, but his male friend. He sleeps with the girl and there is obviously no sexual attraction on his part, as he always pulls away when she shows affection, yet he goes to the bed of the other guy and is sexually aroused just by being in his bed. If that isn't gay, then there must be a new definition for it.

This is the question I always wanted to ask..
I always thought he was in love with that girl not with the boy, but this film is so speculative!
That girl was his sister, wasn't she? She knew it, but he didn't. This is what I think.

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Was he gay??? Jeez, Louise - the only clue left out, was:



Simon: 'C'est ma mère qui me fait une tapette'

Louise: 'Une tapette? - c'est vrai? Penses-tu que, si je la donnais de laine, peut-être elle m'en ferait aussi?'


....AND she did = Mathieu!!!


Translation:

Simon: It's my mother that made me a homo.

Louise: A homo - really? Do you think if I gave her the wool, she'd make me one too?

Ignoring the assumption that "gay-ness" can be seen like a big neon sign over someone's head - there are many gay men and women who were not aware of their sexuality until puberty. Some take years after that to understand what and why they feel something. I have a friend who will tell you he knew at the age of 4 and a stepsister who would tell you the same thing. I also know quite a few people who had the same dreams as any kid of a life with a wife or husband and 3 kids only to hit puberty and realize that for them that reality was unavailable. I have also known people who knew what their orientation was but wanted desperately to be different. One extremely catholic male friend was looking for a woman who would marry him and give him children.

There is no one way a person looks when they are gay. It is possible, even, for one with an extremely advanced "gaydar" to get it wrong. In this particular movie it is hard to determine if he really was unaware of the true nature of his feelings for his childhood friend or if he was using the girl as a "beard" so his family wouldn't suspect. It could be either or, doesn't really matter. It has been awhile since I saw this, I will have to screen it. The possibility exists that there wasn't much chemistry between the two young men. Many a "normal" love story is ruined because of a lack of chemistry between the two actors. I only remember that I loved this story and I hurt for him and his friend, even the girl -although she really just annoyed me. A lot.

Bottom line - ones sexuality or gender orientation is no one's business except for them, the people they sleep with or those they have a romantic relationship with.