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My thoughts on Aspies + finding love (relates to M+TW + Adam)

posted 14 years ago by tim_the_slipperman
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I happen to have Asperger's syndrome, and have had absolutely ZERO luck with women. But in both these films we see men with Asperger's who are able to find love (In M&TW it's with an Aspie girl; for Adam, a normal neurotypical girl).

So, is it really possible for an Aspie male like me to truly be loved by a woman like the protagonists of both these films were? Or are these films just pipe dreams made to give us Aspie men false hope?

Just wondering. I thought M&TW was a good movie, and while I have yet to see Adam I do really want to see it...

Tim (aka the Slipperman)
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[–] robert_bond75 13 years ago

Check out my blog. I think some of the stories posted on it might give you a bit of hope. I haven't had the chance to update it in a while because I've been busy with other things but there are some wonderful stories on here that will show you that Aspies like you and me really can find love.

Here is the link:

http://www.thewonderfulworldofautism.blogspot.com/

Read my reviews at:
http://www.battleroyalewithcheese.com/

[–] johnslegers 13 years ago

I find it most easy to relate with women who have Asperger's as well, women who have Borderline Personality Disorder or (in case of my current girlfriend) a woman with a physical disability (she's in a wheelchair due to a genetic condition). "Normal" women are simply too different from myself to remotely relate to.

Anyway, I've have about 6 relationships so far varying from 3 months to 6 years. It definitely isn't impossible to establish a stable relationship with a woman, but it definitely isn't easy either and you are more likely to succeed by finding a woman at least as excentric or "different" as yourself.

[–] sirmalker 13 years ago

http://aspieaffection.com

I'm better than you.

[–] AlexTheGreyWolf 12 years ago

I'm 29 and I have Asperger's with an autism level around Isabelle's and I've only dated women that are normal. I've only learned that I have Asperger's earlier this year. All of my relationships have lasted under a year. I've never dated a woman with Asperger's and I'm interested in trying in hopes that she would understand me better and I her.

I watched Adam and in the end of that movie she doesn't stay with him, I think that's how most relationships between an aspie and a normal person go. I would recommend trying to date women with Asperger's.

[–] some_random_girl9 8 years ago

I have a boyfriend with Asperger's. We're really an odd couple, seemingly impossible combination - I have bipolar, and we really didn't know the characteristics of each others condition when we first met. Now we are trying really hard to understand each other, and we are succeeding at that. It maybe helps because he is a good observer and I have a brother with high functioning autism, but it really is something different. I sometimes get mad because of SOME his observations about my physical appearance (I now see that it is silly), but I know that he is not trying to offend me by that. I am constantly discovering new things about his personality, and I see that he likes me more and more, even though I am sometimes doubtful about that. We show love to each other in unusual ways, to say at least. Understanding and respect is really the key, and I think that, most of the time, that is just natural to us. I am really grateful because we met. In the end it is not just "Asperger's behavior", but also the other things in which he shows me affection, for example this morning when he called me to wake me up, because I had to do something important for myself today. I just hate that he is an "outcast", because he is suffering because of that. Even his parents don't support him. I just hate hate hate how he is mistreated..