I think that they were both equally guilty in the cycle at a certain point. As a child, you cannot control the way your parents treat you, the way you are raised. The mother was also raised poorly and it was mentioned many times in the film. (Not sure about the book) But at some point, as an adult you have to stop blaming your parents and living your life in reflection of how you were raised, grow up and start to live a life for yourself. I understand that she would have always suffered some emotional damage and carry baggage that her mother bestowed apon her, but it's up to her to make a change and stop blaming her mother for her adult life.
As far as the mother's comments regarding her husband, herself and her son living under her roof.... Her home, her *beep* up and distorted rules. He was a worthless husband and I truly believe she was living the life she knew her mother could control out of her own conscious choices. It's sick and sad, but it's very true . Unfortunately she was never ambitious enough to TRY to better herself, only until her mother was dead and her husband was in jail. Which personally I feel made the decision for her, and she was not only able but forced to make a change in herself.
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