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anyone else have a sister like maggie?

posted 16 years ago by lovemunkey
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hey everyone, im sorry if this has already been discussed before, but I was just wondering if anyone else has a sister like maggie? Im 19, and my sis is 18, and every time I watch this movie I always think how alike my sister and maggie are and how im just like rose- always bailing my sister out of trouble, picking her up from some out of control party at 4am in the morning, lending her money and she always steals my clothes and shoes! I let her move in with me and my boyfriend too, though we are building a house soon so we will be moving in 3 weeks and she will move back in with my parents. Its not that I mind helping her, she is my sister after all, but its always one-sided and im getting a bit fed up. I know she is only 18 and I shoud let her be, but its annoying when she cant even be bothered getting her licence and I have to drive her everywhere, even to work! She just doesnt get that I have responsibilities- a car and house to pay off, a job to turn up to every day, and housework does need to be done, no matter how mundane, though I do still love to have fun. So, does anyone else have any stories to share?

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[–] chamona13 16 years ago

every guy i like goes for my sister and it's freaking retarded.....it's not her fault though, she doesn't usually do anything. but she did start hanging out with one of them all the time and now he barely talks to me :(

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[–] lovemunkey 16 years ago

It is really reassuring to read about other people in my situation... I can really empathise with you jonieblon. You must be a really caring person, to do that for your sister; look after her daughter like she is your own. I love my sis too, but i honestly can say sometimes i dont like who she is. I mean, she called me a lesbian when I was 14 years old, up until I was 17, all because I didnt have a trillion million boyfriends like she did... 14 for gods sake! You shouldnt even be thinking about that when you are 14! She really eroded my self esteem, and its only now that I have everything she doesnt- a steady, long-term relationship (whereas she changes boyfriends like underwear), my own house, a car etc that she has any respect for me (and probably only because she can get something out of it) maybe one day she will change

[–] NaturalStar 16 years ago

My sister is like maggie too...at least the stealing/mooching/fashion obsession part, she's actually pretty smart though.

[–] Ohsnap472 16 years ago

My brother is exactly like maggie actually.

[–] pony-express 16 years ago

I don't have any sibilings like Maggie, but I do have a friend like her. She's the skinny pretty one, and I am the (not fat, but a little) bigger one. She focuses on boys, I focus on school. Every guy that ever comes in contact with her thinks she so hot. One of the guys I used to like just met her two days ago and he likes her. Its partly her fault and partly not. She's a really chill person, she's very into boyish things, but still carries the sex appeal, but at the same time she flirts with anything that moves. Its like sometimes I don't want to bring her around a guy I like because I'm a afraid he'll just like her better. I am definitely the Rose. I actually just caught myself saying the lines "This sort of thing never happens to me." This really really attractive guy asked for my number and wantes to go out with me and that NEVER happens to me. I really want to make this new guy watch this movie; hopefully he will get some pointers (i.e the book scene and the orgasmic food scene...anyone who describes food like that has my heart).

[–] goodnightandgoodluckyou 14 years ago

How did it go with this guy? I can relate to that not only with my what used to be my best friend but with my sister. They're effortlessly hot and I'm me. Whatever, man I'm not going to take guys' prejudices and conformity as my burden. I promised to be more carefree like Maggie when I watched the movie and it's half working so I can take control of my life in some way.

I COMPLETELY agree with your description of the food scene. I felt like he really loved her when he basically described how he was going to take care of her forever, yup I read into it big time but just that expression in his eyes and the really thinking about it that he did, made it so romantic.

"Always do what you are afraid to do."

[–] rabbyt1 14 years ago

They only act this way because they are allowed to. My brother was this way- I finally had enough of him and when he left my home one day after an argument I told him he was gone for good. I packed all his stuff and he went to live with his dad. After time he asked to move back in. I said no and he was mad but I think it made him grow. He's now looking for work and acting more responsibly because he really had no other choice.

[–] damamirlo 10 years ago

Kudos to you. It's better for those kind of people to crash against reality (reality being "you cannot leech other people constantly, they'll end up shutting you out") as soon as possible. That way, they will change sooner and it'll be less traumatic.

[–] cpoet 8 years ago

They only act this way because they are allowed to.

I think rabbyt1 has nailed it. I was in a lopsided relationship like this and one day I heard that old expression, "You teach people how to treat you." It was like a lightbulb popped on. OH! Right.

Yeah, you can't really control anyone, other than yourself, and it's stupid to just cross your fingers and hope people will wake up one day and change on their own. Why would someone who takes advantage of you have any interest in "fixing" a situation that's so easy and comfortable (for them) just the way it is?

So you change what you can, which is your own behavior, and THEN everything starts to shift.

It would have been really, really helpful if I could have figured this all out MANY years earlier.

[–] mully1121 16 years ago

My older brother is a lot like Maggie, always keeps life interesting, unfortunately.

Well that's absurd. People are bastard-coated bastards with bastard filling. Dr. Kelso, Scrubs

[–] double_noodles 16 years ago

my sister is a lot like maggie (although shes only 13!). im ten years older, and so i suppose i will always feel protective and motherly towards her, but thats just what happens with the younger ones. she borrows my stuff all the time (and my shoes!!! and she has bigger feet than me and so stretches them and it drives me insane!) and wants me to do things for her, without ever reciprocating but for some reason i dont mind. i just always want to know shes ok. i cant even imagine what shes going to be like at 18, if shes worse at 13 than i was, but i only care about her being safe and happy. but it does get annoying!!

[–] scatterheart 16 years ago

I feel you. I don't have a sister like her, but I have a college friend like her, so this movie really resonated with me. My friend isn't wild and crazy like Maggie, but she's, in her words, "oblivious." She's also highly cynical and vocal about how much her life sucks, so I find myself often playing the big sister role, like comforting her, letting her vent, and staying up with her when she needs to finish an essay. Several times, I've stayed home from parties because she absolutely hates parties, and I didn't want to make her feel lonely.

The thing that got to me, though, was when one day, out of the blue, she brought a guy home to our dorm (we were roomates), and let him stay over the entire weekend. It was the weekend before finals, too! I always thought we were very close friends, but she had never told me about him. Suddenly, she was in her own world with the guy, taking up my dorm-space, and leaving my other roomate with no comfortable place to study for her upcoming finals. (Oh, and he already had a girlfriend, and she knew this, and she was okay with cheating!) I finally realized why she always couldn't get her work done in time, and I always had to be there with her the night before it was due, encouraging her: she was always procrastinating by having fun! It wasn't because she had too much to do!

The thing that hurt the most is that I have lots of trouble with guys (can't seem to get 'em, lol), and I always thought my friend was in the same position. So I tried so much to comfort her -- even sacrificing my own party time to make her feel like she wasn't alone. While in fact, she was apparently getting lots! So I felt betrayed, inconvenienced, and yes, jealous.

The next event was just a couple of months ago. She got a boyfriend again, but it was long distance. Since we were all graduating, me, her, and two of our mutual friends went to an island house for a week for some fun in the sun. The house belonged to our mutual friend's aunt and uncle, who graciously let us live there for free. But every evening my friend would be on the phone for 2 hours with her boyfriend instead of hanging out with us. The night before we were supposed to leave, she drank an entire bottle of wine and then barfed in her room. The rest of us didn't even drink -- we were watching a movie and had no idea she drank that much. Then we 3 had to clean it all up -- we cleaned until 4 AM, and then woke up at 8 AM to catch a ferry and drive back to school. This was a 6 hour drive, and my 2 friends who were driving had to do it on 4 hours of sleep. My friend had conveniently blacked out, and couldn't really remember what she did, so never sincerely apologized to us.

I was fed up and confronted her about her irresponsibility. I stopped caring whether or not she was falling behind on her schoolwork -- I couldn't take on the responsibility of getting my work done on time and then helping her on getting her work done, especially because she was irresponsible towards herself.

We're still friends, and she has many good sides. But she's not my sister, so I don't have as much obligation as Rose has for her sis. She's quite dependent, so the only thing I regret about our friendship is that I totally fed into that dependence. Right now, college is over, so we're back living on opposite coasts. I'm not talking to her so much anymore.

[–] Dingataca 16 years ago

My sister's a bit reckless. She's the older one, but I'm the one who would be Rose if you saw us together. She's the one with all the boyfriends and the starry social life. I'm the slightly introverted one who has more important things to deal with .

Is that when there's conkers?

[–] Charlotte_720 16 years ago

I don't have any sibilings like Maggie, but I do have a friend like her. She's the skinny pretty one, and I am the (not fat, but a little) bigger one. She focuses on boys, I focus on school. Every guy that ever comes in contact with her thinks she so hot. One of the guys I used to like just met her two days ago and he likes her. Its partly her fault and partly not. She's a really chill person, she's very into boyish things, but still carries the sex appeal, but at the same time she flirts with anything that moves. Its like sometimes I don't want to bring her around a guy I like because I'm a afraid he'll just like her better. I am definitely the Rose. I actually just caught myself saying the lines "This sort of thing never happens to me." This really really attractive guy asked for my number and wantes to go out with me and that NEVER happens to me. I really want to make this new guy watch this movie; hopefully he will get some pointers (i.e the book scene and the orgasmic food scene...anyone who describes food like that has my heart).

People like your friend like to have someone hanging around with them who they consider beneath them. It makes them forget what a loser they really are (noo offence to your friend she doesnt sound v nice and you sound lovely good luck with the guy)! I've had a friend like that who drove me crazy, when i was single if a guy liked me she swooped in with her confidence and kinda stole him away! I managed to detach myself from her, we dont really speak and I have much better friends now!

Thing is when you leave school or college, the guys who are worth a damn really do care about whats in your head - sure there are the ones who are after one thing who will go to your friend, and you will think shes lucky, but they are just idiots who have no respect for her. You will end up a lot happier than her, that kind of girl will always be looking for something more!