I don't see a huge gap. 19 is a college student, and 26 is graduated but still has the mentality of a college student. (Partying on weekends, dating, hanging with friends, lacking adult experience.) I see more commonalities than differences.
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1. School
2. Working world
3. Children
Scarlett would be at stage 1, Topher would be stage 2
And some 26 year olds are already at stage 3...
(Levels of responsibility, by the way)
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Perhaps this says more about MY level of maturity...but i have just turned 18..
i would feel a bit odd about going out with a 25 year old...So,19 and 26 could be the same. Not very eloquently put ..but that's my point.
In the scene where they are playing foosball they both say they are worried that they have hit there peaks in life or something similar IIRC Topher says he's 26, Scarlet says she's 21. She's not starting college, she's transferrring
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Wasn't she 18. Dennis Quaid's character asked Topher's if he ever called his parents when he was 18, so I assumed he referred to his daughter's age as well.
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With that logic though, that's like saying there's nothing wrong with a 20 year old going out with a 12 year old. Naturally, there are MANY things wrong with that.
It's just the older you get, the wider the range of people you can date gets.
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You people don't get it.
The main issue was a middle-aged man being demoted by a yuppy who not only became his boss, but was also being lied to by sneaking behind his back and sleeping with his daughter.
It wasn't so much their ages, but I was impressed that ***spoiler*** they didn't end up together because Topher Grace's character was ready for marriage and a family, and Scarlet Johansen's character was just starting school. They were at very different places in their lives.
Anyway, I didn't see Quaid's character reaction as being about the age difference (even though he did see her as his little girl), but about Grace being his boss, and the two of them lying to him about their relationship.
Yeah, 18 and 26, no big deal really. Note that nobody seemed disturbed of their relations while it was very public.
Only Dan reacted abruptly cause :
1. he was still seeing Alex as his baby;
2. Dans didn't accept that his daughter was gradually turning her back to him for Carter;
3. Carter was his boss;
"With that logic though, that's like saying there's nothing wrong with a 20 year old going out with a 12 year old."
No, its absolutely Nothing like that. Are you serious??
It's not a big gap for the 2 of them but for a father that's a pretty big gap, especially when the man is your boss. Carter saw her as an adult but her father still saw her as a little girl. I doubt any father would be pleased to see his college sophomore daughter dating a man who is his boss and was recently divorced.
And not all 26 year olds are like that. Carter definitely didn't seem like that. He was all about work. We never saw him doing any "young" things. They were in very different places in life.
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I dated a 26-year-old when I was 18-years-old, and we both liked the same things. I have always liked dating older men, and when I was 22-years-old, I lived with a 36-year-old man for 2 years. I was also in a relationship with a 32-year-old when I was 19 way back when. I was never into teenage stuff and partying.
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I am actually 19 dating a 26 year old, none of my friends are ok with it, they think he's taking advantage of me although they've never even met him. My mom knows him very well and she's iffy because of the age difference but she's knows I'm not planning on marrying the guy or anything so she doesn't care too much. My dad doesn't know because he'd kill me. But basically it's just where you are in life that freaks people out. I'm trying to get through college, living with my mom and he's already on his own and has a son.
It's important to just establish with each other what you want out of the relationship ahead of time and we both know we're just dating for the experience.
When I was 26 I dated a 19 year old college freshman. We had a great relationship for about 8 months but it ultimately ended due to us being in such different stages in our lives. Pretty much how the movie went. FWIW her dad was a Colonel in the Army and was actually very cool with me after we met and talked.
shareThere is nothing horrible about it at all. They are both adults and the age gap had nothing to do with the reason why they broke up.
Once two people become adults, what really matters is that they are at the same point in their lives. Age really does not indicate this, but rather life experience. Some people learn and gain experience more quickly than others.
What was really sad about this movie is that these two really liked each other and had great chemistry. It is really unfortunate when potential pairings like theirs don't work out. Life truly is all about timing.
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I thought they were in the same maturity range as people, so the slight age difference didn't matter much in their case.
shareAbsolutely nothing is "horrible" about it. I was much older than 26 when I married a 19 year old 11 years ago and we're still going strong. The extent to which people overthink these things is incredible. If you're single (or in a non-monogamous relationship) and you hit it off with someone who's not a minor, then what's the problem?
shareNothing at all and the movie resolves the relationship really well any way, so I don't see any problem.🐭
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