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Don't want an abortion? Pretty easy to avoid getting one.


If you really don't want to worry about getting an abortion, DON'T HAVE SEX!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Sex=pregnancy=abortion. Pretty simple. Don't have sex. And don't give me that "Sex is a human need" BS either. I haven't had sex in over 5 years, and that is by my own choice. The reason I didn't have sex? I didn't want an unwanted pregnancy. Bottom line, if you don't want to have an abortion, don't have sex. It couldn't be any more simple than that.

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Genius! And yet so simple! I bet they all wish they'd thought of it first... but seriously, that's not going to happen, it may be easy for you and I but evidently it isn't so easy for others.

Pregnancy doesn't equal abortion or it shouldn't, it should equal child.

Don't you find we're given mixed and incompatible signals all the time though? which makes it oh so confusing. ie a sexual free for all where pregnancy and parenthood can ruin your life.

(Forgive me if that barely makes sense, it is 8 o'clock in the morning and I've not been to bed yet, yes i'm a dirty stop out, lol)

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I prefer to take a less crude approach but, ok. I also do not think it is the womans fault, to be honest. Ok, I could not imagine putting myself and especially my unborn child through such a grotesque procedure (and then have the audacity to call it "exercising free will".) However, the women who do choose it are often doing what they are told is acceptable or even right, so we can't lay the blame on them and some are in tough situations. If they are being told that abortion is fine and that those who disagree are nutters who only want to infringe on their bodily rights. Or that their "potential" son/daughter is nothing and would be better off never being born anyway rarara... they're going to listen to what they want to hear.

I have the benefit of always knowing that abortion is wrong. From the first time I ever heard about it when I was about 6, I was horrified and that's how it has stayed. No, the person didn't tell me all the gory details or show images, they just said "it's getting rid of a pregnancy" and as I had been surrounded by pregnant women a lot of the time, felt the kicks, seen the pics and all that jazz, I knew what that would entail.


I do not think it is liberating to women in the slightest, that is a coined myth. It is more kicking them while they're down and then actually trying to make them feel grateful for it! The ultimate cheek.

But, back to the point, lol, they are wrong, they just don't know it. And it is of no use calling them stupid and telling them they shouldn't have had sex... better yet, offer help and kindness, even to those women for whom it is too late, because they will most likely need it.

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I think this comment is extremely gracious. Most of the comments I have read so far, on both sides of the argument, are highly agitated and exclamatory. Eventually each poster has becomed more concerned with the argument itself rather than the subject of the debate. In spite of such a heated comment previous to yours, you have maintained dignity and expressed kindness, calmness and honesty. While my own feelings on the subject are quite strong and my arguments, I would like to think, are reasonable and clear you have none the less caused me to stop and think a little longer about people who are in a position that I have not been in. My opinion of abortion itself has not changed however my disregard for those who partake of it has to be reconsidered, if only because love and consideration are the only ways that things could ever change - not shouting, lecturing or abusing eachother.

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A1nut, I can see your point in the case that you're discussing, and I'm not trying to start a heated debate, but what would you say of the daughter of the rich family Vera works for? It didn't seem to me she had much say in the matter of getting pregnant or not...

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Addy1: First off, I never said that I was against abortion. I said that it was very easy to avoid getting an abortion, by abstaining from sex. My personal thoughts are that abortion should be kept legal because of people like Vera Drake. I realize that no matter what the conditions are, women are going to seek out abortions, and I feel much more comfortable knowing that the abortion is being performed by a licensed doctor as opposed to someone like Vera Drake, who probably read about how to do it, and has no medical knowledge whatsoever.

I also know a woman who gave birth to 7 children, each to a different man. She had the 7th child while she was in prison on a drug charge! People like that should be sterilized.

As for your question, I think that an abortion should always be in the last resort of your options. In the case of a rape, I have no problem with an abortion. I would also like to add, however, that my cousin was conceived in a rape, my aunt kept the baby, and my cousin is a valued and loved member of the family.

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Sterilized?? That's just sick. What about my mother? She's had 7 (including me) by 4 fathers and I have my suspicions that she is pregnant again. She's been a drug addict and a prosie in her time.

I don't think abortion should be even a last resort, I think the government or whoever need to take care of women and children better so no one feels they need to take advantage of that "last resort". Recommending it should be avoided like the plague because it has devestating results and devalues the worth of children.

About the rape thing, my sympathy is far greater for those women, but I wouldn't accept someone killing a person because they were the product of a rape at any age.

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So a woman's body is purely for reproduction? I suppose you are a man? Only a man could think like that (or a really stupid woman).

Men should not be aloud to speak up on these issues.

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"Men should not be aloud to speak up on these issues."

Of course they should. Men contribute to pregnancies, which, of course, present the choice of whether to abort or not. This is a ridiculous, immature, and downright moronic thing to say. This is a moral issue which should be addressed and discussed by the entire community. Censoring input is NOT the way adult people go about these things. And frankly, people who make statements like yours really cheapen the quality of the exchanges that go on here. Please, make a thoughtful, reasoned statement or just stay away.

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I used to think in that sort of way: it's my child, I should have a say. And I can't think of something more tragic for me than if a woman I impregnated were to abort the child behind my back. There's nothing that I can think of as making me more happy than to have a child of my own, and nothing I can think of that could make me sadder than to have lost one merely because I had no say in the matter.

But I've been trying to broaden my perspective a bit, and it all gets very muddy. In a fair society, both parties should have equal say. But we don't live in a very fair society. We have issues like gender inequality muddling things up on top of the biological issue of the woman's body being the vessel for a child.

Another thing is the psychological aspect of carrying a child, especially when the woman is carrying the child of a father the mother doesn't love, or a father who seems unwilling to make a real commitment (I had a friend who aborted her child, at great grief, because the father could not make up his mind about marrying her or getting a job: he was apparently a bum boyfriend living in her flat off her salary). I don't understand any of it really, being a male, but apparently it's an extremely complicated, extremely confusing time for a woman. We simply can't empathize so much there: we see it as simple like, "We shot her full of semen, now she has to bear our child."

If a farmer plants a seed, we would normally say that the crop than grows belongs to him, yes? But what if the land wasn't his? I realize these are crude analogies, but I want to get us men thinking in a different kind of way.

So I try to imagine, what if it's exclusively the woman's choice? Then perhaps us men who are genuinely interested in having children would have a reason to be careful about what sort of women we take to bed, in the same way that discriminating women often have to be careful about what sort of men they take to bed.

Besides, without cooperation between the parents, only ugly things can come about. The law isn't going to change much there, it can only reflect what's just. But I think we oversimplify what's just in these issues. Us men simply can't understand. I don't understand either, I just know that I don't understand.

And in a twisted kind of way, that seems fair to me. It's her body, all I did was shoot semen in there. Let's be careful to just knock up the ones who seem like they will protect our interests. Let's communicate our interests (or lack thereof) in children upfront before we get all heated up in the moment. Things that make us hesitate and think twice and, most importantly, communicate more upfront is probably a good thing overall.

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What's so bloody funny?

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One can say this of any heinous thing. It's so nonsensical that it's amusing.

"Don't Like Genocide? You Don't Have to Participate!"

"Don't Like Embezzlement? No One Says You Have to Embezzle!"

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You don't actually believe abortion is genocide or else you're a complete coward for not trying to stop genocide occurring regularly in your country with all of your might.

Abortion clinic bombers would be as heroic to you in that case as people who fought against Hitler.

You know this is intrinsically wrong from your real sense of morality. You feel it is not right when I make a statement like this, because you know deep down inside that abortion is not genocide. All you have to do is stop lying to yourself and other people to understand it.

If I believed abortion was genocide, I would be obsessed with stopping it. It would be my duty to do anything I can about it, even use physical violence if there's no other choice. But I don't believe it's genocide, because I'm not a dishonest idiot. And I don't write that it's genocide, since I'm not a hypocrite.

Saying abortion is genocide is basically like religious thinking: operating on principles of faith (aka dishonesty and ignorance).

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OR you can use preventions? Condoms, pills, whatever you like, and still you can have sex! Shocking?

Seriously, why are so many clueless about prevention these days? The world is going freakin' backwards!

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people make mistakes up north girl, they always will, it's human nature... but how people deal with those mistakes is the important thing.

i think it was you who asked if i was a man... or a "stupid woman"? the answer is neither, i am a girl, an uneducated but not stupid one. i dont see the killing of the most defenseless of people as helpful, productive and certainly not right. nor do i see it as liberating for us (women). and i think you are completely out of order saying that the abortion issue doesn't concern men. outrageous.

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"but how people deal with those mistakes is the important thing"

Agreed. However, the "right thing to do" is determinded by ones own opinions and morals. In my family and peer group, the "moral" or right and responsible thing to do is assess the circumstances and perhaps as a result have a termination. To others things would be quite the opposite.

"and i think you are completely out of order saying that the abortion issue doesn't concern men. outrageous."

I totally agree. In the real, adult world, decisions such as this should be made by BOTH the man and the woman, as it concerns both.

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Tony Benn is an idiot or very naive - or both.

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Women are obviously too stupid to think of this solution on their own.

Mandatory castration of every male child entering puberty would also take care of the problem.

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you really don't want to worry about getting an abortion, DON'T HAVE SEX!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

give this person a medal, i cant believe no one thought of this earlier!!! sex=pregnancy?! i thought it was some stupid stork


have you ever heard of rape or incest?! or is that the woman's fault too?

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If you really don't want to worry about getting an abortion, DON'T HAVE SEX!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Sex=pregnancy=abortion

My, you are clever aren't you? Did you think that up all on your own. Who do you think you are, telling women not to have sex? Did you ever think of directing that advice at men? They are just as responsible for pregnancy, you know... or did your education not extend that far?

Bottom line, if you don't want to have an abortion, don't have sex.

Silliness. Women have sex because they enjoy it, not necessarily because they want to get pregnant. And I hate to shatter your illusions (well, not really), but I personally would have no problem with having an abortion if I accidentally got pregnant. No misplaced guilt here - the thought of possibly needing an abortion certainly wouldn't stop me from having sex (with protection, naturally).

She had the right to decide not to open her legs in the first place. She also has the right to keep her uneducated mouth shut about it until she knows all the facts.

I love how the misogyny always shines through with you people, no matter how you try to hide it. But you're right about one thing - women have the right to decide to have sex, or not to have sex. You apparently want to prevent them from exercising that right.

I also know a woman who gave birth to 7 children, each to a different man. She had the 7th child while she was in prison on a drug charge! People like that should be sterilized.

You know, generally speaking eugenics is considered to be a bad thing. You're a bit behind the times, aren't you?


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I know damn well that you and A1nut are both ignorant and certifiably insane. A bad mix...

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0. Respectable people don't put themselves there

Wrong again, my rabid little pro-lifer. Many respectable people get into that situation. Once again you're showing your irrational hatred of sex. I think there's some deeper issues here...

You goddamn ignorant piece of crap, how dare you say that. First of all, I didn't invent that comparison, I've heard it a billion times over.

That's painfully obvious. It's a particularly well-used piece of empty rhetoric.

And I guess b/c you support deranged dictators, you would support Hitler if this were 60 yrs ago. America shoud never b/c what you're suggesting.

Hon, if I supported deranged dictators, I'd be over there cheering for Bush right now . Does that get your knickers in a twist?

Murder is not a right. The original poster said it and I'll repeat: the right was whether or not to get f*ked in the first place. What about other murder and rape? Shoudln't we have the rights to those as well?

Murder is a legal concept. Abortion is not classed as murder. Hence, your post is factually inaccurate. Points for the illogical argument and use of a non-sequitor, though.


Make her have the kid

And how would you do that, exactly? Chain her to the wall for nine months? And you call us Nazis? *snort*

And life, no matter how crappy, is always better than death.

Very, very wrong. But putting that aside, the foetus will never know it was killed, it's not self-aware. No one living will miss it. So what's the issue?




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Abortion is America's Holocaust and that makes you a Nazi

Oh, sweetie. Don't you realise that you play right into our hands when you say stuff like that? I don't even need to say anything, I'll just let the craziness speak for itself.


Since it's something you pro-choice boneheads seem to have never realized, he/she was right to say it.

Wrong. Your opinion.

If you're talking rape but this is clearly concerning consensual.

My point still stands, though, doesn't it? The medieval moralising of the craziest sections of the anti-choice movement don't aim their "sex is wrong" comments at men quite so often, do they?

Speak for yourself. Not everyone is so hedonistic

Take some of your own advice please. Not everyone (in fact a majority I'd say) are so sexually immature and guilt-laden that they think sex is hedonistic. Most people enjoy it, and have it quite often if they can. You might want to try it sometime.

If you have any dignity at all, you'd never put yourself in that situation. Doing it makes you no better than those lowlife crack-whores. Do you really doubt your parenting ability?

I have dignity enough to see myself as rather more than merely a baby-making machine. Pity you don't feel the same. As for my parenting ability: kids hold no interest for me. Nor do pregnancy and childbirth. Why should they?

And the crack-whore comments are doing far more to help my case then they are yours. Keep it up!

This is not,and never has been, a male vs female thing. If I were like Arnold Schwarzenegger in Junior, I'd still be against abortion. If I did get pregnant foolishly, I'd face music and not p*ssy out like you're fickle ass.

Women are capable of misogynistic views. Women also have no more right than men to force other women to have children. You can be against abortion as much as you like. It has bugger all to do with me.



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You seriously fail to see how that connection can be made?

Yes, yes I do. Frankly, likening abortion to the Holocaust and pro-choicers to the Nazis is horribly offensive to the people who died in the Holocaust - Jews, gays, Gypsies and others. People who had lives, memories, hopes, ambitions, dreams, goals, aspirations, fears, wishes, love, hate, likes, dislikes, friends, family, a past and a future. Foetuses do not have these things. If you've ever killed a fly, you've killed something that is capable of experiencing more than a foetus.

A fact isn't an opinion. Its true that if you have sex, you can get pregnant. No way is that debatable

And that is not what we were debating, Eraser. The FACT is that sex and pregnancy do not automatically go together. The FACT is that we have sex for pleasure. That means that a lot of the time, if not most of the time, when we have sex it is for pleasure and not for the purposes of procreation. The FACT is that when most people decide to have sex, they are usually not thinking about getting pregnant, nor should they have to.

Easier said than done. This world is not the happy, carefree one you want it to be.

What is easier said than done, exactly? You getting laid? Or does that apply to anyone?

Then stay far, far away from intercourse if you're such an irresponsible coward.

Irresponsible coward, am I? For not being interested in kids? You do live a sheltered life, don't you? It seems to me that I've said this to you before, but you need to keep your outdated morals out of other people's decision-making. I have sex because I like it, not because I want to get pregnant. I don't know how many times I can say the same thing before it sinks in...

Um how? Abortion is not respectable, there's no way around it.

Ah, so you've gone from "women who have abortions are crack whores" to "abortion is not respectable"? Both ridiculously unfounded statements, both factually inaccurate. The cracks in your arguments are showing, Eraser, and they're large enough to steer a pregnant woman through.

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who seems to think the world was better off w/ Saddam in power.

Polls suggest the Iraqis were better off.

Secondly, since when is dictator elected by the people?

I'd be interested to know just what percent of the American people actually voted for Bush.

[/i]And just what do you mean by "over there"? Do you not live here either? Why didn't you say so before?[/i]

Where is here? This is an international board, don't assume that everyone is American. And why does it matter where I'm from?

Supreme Court f*ked up.

Because you disagree with them?

A mother willfully killing her child is not at all comparable to unintentional collaterl damage.

No, it's nowhere near as bad as collateral damage. But that's not really relevant, because abortion doesn't involve a mother killing her child. It involves a woman getting rid of a small clump of cells with no personality, no consciousness and no sentience. Not a terrible thing at all.

It'll scare people into being more responsible.

Nope. The need for abortion is a fact of life. Always has been, always will be.

I didn't think you were capable of being that stupid. Maybe the fact that they're both mass genocides has something to do w/ it?

People in glass houses, eraser... Abortion can not be described as genocide. Check your facts. As I've pointed out before, foetuses aren't people. They're a clump of cells undergoing gene expression and cell division. Nothing more.

What you're saying now barely relates to that at all. I think those equal signs went meant to be "leads to" or "can lead to". That way, it's w/o a doubt true.

I was disagreeing with the implicit suggestion that people shouldn't have sex until they want kids, because it's insane.


Right. It applies to anyone society has rejected for what they look like. You seem to be accepted so you have no idea what it's like on the other side.
Um, huh? I make no assumptions about your looks, don't make any about mine. If you're not having sex because of your looks, you can't claim to be nobly abstaining because you're "responsible", can you? And you can't make any demands of others to do the same.

Yes, failing to face any possible consequence of your actions is cowardice. You really ought to keep Murphy's Law in mind. Besides, not everything you do can result in pregnancy, like anal or using a dildo.

Women who have abortions do face the consequences of their actions, obviously. It's certainly not a form of denial. They deal with the consequences and they move on. Your mistake is to assume that each time a woman gets pregnant, she is under some unbreakable responsibility give up her own opinions on the subject and have the baby. Not so.

Gone from? They're practically saying the same thing. It's not respectable so it only makes sense that those who aren't respectable have them.

They're not the same thing, that was my point. "Not respecable" does not equal "crack whore". "Woman who has an abortion" also does not equal "crack whore". And it is purely your opinion that having an abortion makes a woman "not respectable". I disagree, so what's your response? More name-calling, no doubt.

Why are we still fighting? B/c they have not surrendered.

Let's hope they never do. The sooner America is taught a painful lesson by being driven out of Iraq, the better.

We "chose" them b/c they invaded Kuwait.

Gullibility is not flattering, eraser. Maybe you should work on that.

It's the penalties that keep us from hurting others.

Ah, so the only reason you abstain from hurting other people is because you might get into trouble for it? That suggests you are a frighteningly compassionless person. That explains a lot, actually.

I answered this a while back you idiot: 0. None. Zip.

You have no way to know for sure. Everyone has secrets. Any woman who knows you is not going to tell you she's had an abortion.




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For example, I learned from rinoa that prostitution is legal in England. It's not here. Very hypocritical.
It's legal here too. Why is it hypocritical? I don't understand your use of that word...

Not just me but Roe herself now, the reason for the whole thing.
So two of you disagree with it now? Still doesn't mean they were wrong.

Oh bulllsh*t. This is a recent thing from the mid 20th century on
ROFL!!! Oh eraser, seriously, crack a book, LEARN something. Abortion has been practiced since ancient times. Poisonous herbal concoctions, abdominal pressure, sharp sticks... it's a fact of human civilisation.

Even if fetuses aren't people, there is no doubt that they will shortly become that way. And this is not dissolving cells, these are truly grotesque acts of mutilation. Are you in favor of partial birth too?
So what if they will (maybe) become so? What does that matter? Why should a future that hasn't occurred yet be more important than the will of the woman in the here and now? I say again, the foetus is not a person and will never know the difference. It doesn't yet have any of the qualities that make individual people. And most abortion is not partial birth, it usually occurs around the 6-week mark. It's not mutilation. But I support the woman's right to choose regardless.

I think what they meant was that if you do have sex and get pregnant, don't be too surprised.
Well I would be, cos I'd have been using protection. But I'd go and get an abortion and I wouldn't be feeling guilty about it.

My assumption would be that they're good. That isn't something to be insulted by.
They're not, actually, but that hasn't stopped me from having a sex life when I've felt like it. And I won't be listening to anyone who presumes to tell me I shouldn't have sex just because I have a uterus.

I said this before and I'll say it again: if I got a girl pregnant, I'd own up to and face the consequences.
But her consequences are far heavier than yours, eraser. She is the one being pregnant, so you can't tell her what to do. I'll ask again, how would you stop her from getting one? Chain her to the wall for nine months?

How? They're just getting a quick fix instead of facing the full weight of their decisions.
I don't understand you. You think a child should be brought into the world simply to teach someone a lesson? Presumably you think "facing the full weight of their decisions" will somehow have a positive effect, but it won't. It'll just screw things up more. It's a nonsensical argument.

Turn them around and they do
The first one, maybe. The second one, not at all. That is purely a matter of opinion because YOU think abortion isn't respectable, so YOU think women who have them aren't either. Purely subjective.

Why? You really want terrorists to win? Shouldn't really be surprised you support them tho.
I do indeed, their country was invaded and they are fighting against an occupying force. It's pretty clear-cut really, I'd do the same thing if someone invaded my country and I dare say, so would you.

WTF? That is what triggered the Gulf War
It's not what triggered the current invasion.

W/o laws, we'd all kill each other. Humans are evil by nature. For more, see Lord of the Flies.
Oh my giddy aunt. Well, it seems that you did crack a book, just the wrong one. Are you seriously trying to use a work of fiction as proof of the evilness of human nature?? Have you EVER gone to school??

Humans are not evil by nature, far from it. If they were, the laws would not have been developed in the first place. Bush would not have needed to come up with humanitarian reasons for invading Iraq, he could have told the truth and everyone would have agreed with him. You wouldn't have seen the massive outpouring of solidarity and aid that followed the Boxing Day tsunami. Anyone who thinks humans are inherently evil are walking around with their eyes closed.

No one I know is that stupid.
I find that hard to believe. But in any case, intelligence has nothing to do with it. Someday you might understand that.



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Not having sex as a solution to abortion? Not an option. Good luck with that though, keep on dreamin'.

To avoid more abortions, support birth control distribution and proper sex education. Support morning-after pill distribution.

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Where's here? It's hypocritical b/c it's also a body choice issue

You're still not making yourself clear, eraser. Why is it hypocritical because it's a body choice issue? It's legal, which means people have the right to sell their bodies for money. Where's the hypocrisy?

Do you even know who she is?

I'm sorry, I thought you were referring to "Jane Roe", the alias of the woman who brought the original lawsuit. Did you mean someone else?

It doesn't matter that she is against it now (after converting to Christianity, I might add). She's still just one person who has no right to make decisions for others. In any case, Roe vs Wade was more in the nature of a class action so ultimately it concerned more people than just her.

So why was this never an issue or legal in that era?

In ancient times it doesn't seem to have been illegal, although it wasn't universally accepted. Around the 1200-1400s, it was accepted prior to quickening and punished after it, although not as murder - it clearly was recognised as a lesser crime. It wasn't until the 1800s that all abortion began to be outlawed in the US and Europe, and began to be made legal again under limited circumstances in the 20th century, starting with post-revolution Russia.

No duh most isn't. So 6 weeks is the cutoff point for you?

So why do you bring up partial birth? Where I'm from the legal cutoff is 12 wks I think, although late term abortions can be performed when there are complications. I've stated before though that my only position is that it is the individual woman's choice, not mine and not anyone else's.

Unprotected.

Firstly, it wouldn't happen. I'm not stupid. Secondly, I'd get an abortion in any case. No kids for me.

Wrong, if you shouldn't have it, it's b/c you're recklessly irresponsible. And bad looks not stopping you from having a sex life is a huge example of the cultural differences I speak of. Here, they sure do.

Eraser... what is it going to take to get over your outmoded attitude to sex? Stop seeing it as a bad thing!! It's a very good thing, and with the proper precautions the consequences can be avoided, unless you're very unlucky. And not being good-looking might narrow your choices as far as partners are concerned, I've found that the way you act is more important than the way you look. Can I give you some advice, one homely person to another? It's more likely to be your attitudes that are hindering you, not your looks. Particularly your attitude to women, which is especially misogynistic. Your extremely negative attitude to sex also wouldn't help.

Agree to raise it. Duh.

Do you really think it's that simple? It would be good if you DID know someone who had had an abortion, you might be able to get a more realistic view of the issue. Your girlfriend might wish to abort for other reasons, in which case your offer to raise it wouldn't be much use. I realise it would be tragic for you, with your highly emotional views on foetuses, but until someone comes up with a way to carry a child to term without the use of the mother's body I'm afraid that's just the way it is. Her uterus, her choice. When it's your uterus, you can choose.

Paying the price isn't supposed to have a positive effect.

Wtf is it for then? Is it punishment? You're suggesting using pregnancy, childbirth and the very life of a child as punishment? That's sick, and it's pointless. A life sentence is way out of proportion to the mistake. And why should they pay the price in the first place? Can you come up with a reason that doesn't involve your own highly personal moral code?

So you're just on the side of wherever its fought?

Um, yes? Because if country A invades country B, the people of country B have every right to fight back. It's pretty simple, it really is. Why on earth would I support the invaders? The day I support USA is the day they prove to me that they're doing something out of genuine concern for ordinary people (and to quote a very very funny man, on that day Satan will be skating to work).

I'm talking about what started our conflict w/ them in the first place.

Lots of countries invade other countries. The US does it (obviously). Israel comes to mind. The invasion of Kuwait was not a motivation for the 2003 invasion of Iraq.

Total total total crap. Many past philosophers have come to the same conclusion.

Brimming over with wrongness . If human nature is evil, why do we see so many acts of kindness and compassion? What's your evidence for the evil nature of humans? Who are these philosophers and why are they in possession of ultimate truth? All philosophers do is give their own opinions .

That's b/c you keep referencing things that concern America, like the Iraq war.

It should be blindingly obvious that the Iraq war doesn't only concern America. Quite apart from the fact that troops from other countries are taking part (like my own, unfortunately), unbridled American aggression is everyone's concern.


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You noticed that too, Fynn?

I'm perceptive that way...

Modern America was built on holocaust!

Excellent point. And not acknowledged nearly enough (same in my country).

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That's the thing, it's NOT legal. Where is it you're from?

Perhaps because America is uptight about sex? I'm from Australia, and it's legal here.

I did mean her. I can't quite put my finger on it but when the biggest supporter turns against it, that's saying something.

But she wasn't "the biggest supporter". She was the woman who challenged the unfair legal system at the time, so the decision is in her (assumed) name. But that doesn't make her the biggest supporter, she's ultimately just one of millions of people who are pro-choice. She didn't feel any more strongly about it than any other woman who wanted an abortion but wasn't allowed one, she just made the decision to stand up for herself.

To see if you were OK w/ it. Is that a yes?

If it's not my uterus, it's not my call. That's my final answer.

What you're saying is what I was saying. I'm not v. Its just that I got the impression that you didn't want people to take precautions.

No! People who don't use protection should be smacked in the head (not literally). There's only one excuse I can think of, and that's a lack of money. I've heard that some countries in Africa run out of their supply of condoms, and this is where the AIDS crisis is happening. Ideally, contraceptives should be free, or at least very very cheap. People need to understand that abstinence of a general level isn't going to happen.

The child should be brought into the world period

Why, though? At the time most foetuses are aborted, they don't have anything in common with a child except genetic material. They don't have a functioning brain or nervous system, they can't think or feel. They're really not people. They'll never know. They're not capable of knowing anything. Why is it so important that they be "brought into the world" when their parents don't want them?

odd way of thinking but w/e works for you.

Why is it odd? People have the right to defend themselves and their homes, don't they? You're the one with the strict moral code, you figure it out. How can you be against abortion but in favour of war??

B/c, to put it simply, they know their sh*t. Tommy Hobbes would be a good example

No they don't. Such thinking is entirely subjective and not borne out by the evidence.


You know, I really hate you stupid foreigners who make fun of our government
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By that logic, all people who are in comas should be killed.

You're not paying attention. A person in a coma is not equivalent to a foetus. They are a fully developed, autonomous, individual person, with a unique past and mind and character and personality, who does not depend on the body of anothe person for his/her every need. Keeping them alive doesn't violate anyone else's rights to control their body. In contrast, a foetus is not fully developed. It's not that there's something wrong with their brain/nervous system, it's that it's not even there yet. It's not fully developed, it has no consciousness, no individuality except in the genetic sense, no past or mind or character or personality, no free will, and it's dependent on the body of another person who does have free will. Stop putting up straw men.

This is about the 4th time I've explained this. If you bring this point up again, I'll have to assume that you are not capable of understanding the difference.

Even if the genetic parents don't want them, an awful lot of others do

No they don't. No one else even knows about it, except possibly for some friends and family. As the foetus has no individual character, how could someone who's not the genetic parents specifically want it? They may generally want a baby, but that's no reason to override a woman's choice.

Just b/c the army is fighting on enemy territory doesn't put them in the wrong. If the situation was reversed (being fought in the US), would your support change?

It does, because they invaded. And if the US was invaded, I'd support the right of Americans to fight back just like the Iraqis have a right to do.

And that second part is all too easy. Abortion kills innocents who have done nothing. War is what removes the evil in this world. Do you really think Hitler or Saddam could have been stopped any other way? Now, how can you be for abortion but against war/death penalty?

You are terribly, terribly naive. Firstly, innocence is the wrong word to use to describe foetuses. Would you use that term to describe a fly you've just killed? Because that fly is more highly developed than a foetus during the first 6 months. They are not innocents, they are not anything.

Secondly, war doesn't remove evil. It kills people. War is fought entirely for selfish reasons, such as American economic and strategic interests (ie Iraq). Your president decides that a hundred thousand Iraqis will die and thousands of American troops for something that is designed to bring material benefits to the ruling class of your country. No good vs evil, that only happens in stories. You need a reality check. Do you believe in the Easter Bunny too?

Then why have they withstood the test of time? Why are we still learning and talking about them? They can and have disagreed but that doesn't invalidate their work.

They're philosophers. What they say is not "true" in a scientific sense. I've yet to see any evidence that a) human nature is inherently evil and b) that there is even any such thing as evil. Most philosophers would seem to disagree with that.

Reread the second part of that sentence.

Don't play games, Eraser. I have no idea what you're on about. Either point out what was wrong with the sentence (apart from grammatical inaccuracies) or answer the question. Why do you swallow everything your president tells you? Don't you even see it's like listening to a used car salesman?

The more this debate goes on the more glad I am that I live in Australia. The Christian Right aren't trying to take over the country here and they'd be laughed out of office if they did, and most of us have a healthy distrust and dislike of our politicians.


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It sure as sh*t will. There's no doubting that.

So what? Doesn't matter what it may or may not be in the future. Point is, it isn't now. As far as we're concerned, you know, there's no difference between one foetus and the next, you know. You can't know what a person's like before they exist. Whatever the foetus could possibly turn out to be in the future, that future has not happened. We are talking about a clump of cells, nothing more.

They don't have to but they should. Very kind and selfless act.

Wrong, your opinion again. They "should" do whatever is right for them, you can't demand that people perform "kind and selfless acts" without knowing what they're going through, and you can't ever really know that until you're them.

Wrong idiot. We don't need a democracy, they do.

Oh, where do I start? Firstly, you don't have a democracy. Think about the true meaning of the word, then look at the American electoral system. Secondly, have a think about the idea of "democracy by invasion". There's an absurdity in there, I'm sure you'll find it if you think hard enough. Thirdly, try and explain to yourself why Iraqis should organise themselves how the Americans want them to and, even if they do, why they would need America's help, then go and look up the phrase "white man's burden". You might find it illuminating. Finally, try and uncover some proof that the US administration has a goal of creating a truly free and democratic Iraq, and whether they ever had that as a motivation to start with. Hint: you can't use anything George Bush or his cronies says publicly as proof. This comes back to the used-car salesman principle.

And it does kill people: bad people.

Ok, I didn't realise I was arguing with a six-yr-old. Anyone older than that would not be so simple as to think that war only kills bad people. You desperately need to come out of your bubble and get some life experience, eraser. While you're at it, try thinking for yourself once in a while.

So there, its pathetic to hear your bitching when you don't even live here. Stick to your own goddamn leaders.

I do bitch about my own leaders, thank you very much. I'm also well within my rights to bitch about yours, because Bush isn't content with screwing up his own country, he has to take it to the rest of the world as well. That makes his murderous policies a matter of global concern. If you don't want the rest of the world condemning your president, vote in someone who will stay the hell inside your own borders.
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Well, I haven't been. Dissolving cells is perfectly understandable but some of the pictures I've seen are anything but that.

Presumably you are talking about so-called "partial birth abortion". Not pretty but a necessary last resort for some women, and legally recognised as such. They account for a tiny percentage (1-2%) of all abortions so they are hardly representative of the issue.

Of course it's my opinion. There's no other way to take that.

Which means that it's not a reasonable strategy to combat the problem of unplanned pregnancy.

It is a democracy moron. People get to choose their leaders.

Wrong, moron . What percentage of Americans actually voted for Bush? And what were their choices? Effectively, a choice between one rich war-mongering self-serving *beep* and another. The vote does not a democracy make, there's a lot more to it than that.

OK stop me if I'm wrong: it's b/c of the US that they're having their first elections since God knows when.

Elections that the US control, candidates that the ordinary people have no say over and aren't represented by. See above re: the vote not equalling democracy.

Terrorist groups don't want that and will try to stop them by any means neccesary. Should these terrorists not be blown to Hell?

The resistance is fighting to drive out the US, not against the idea of democracy. And they are supported by a majority of Iraqis.

"W/ great power comes great responsibility."

Get off your moral high horse and take a look at the real world. What America has is great military strength and the necessary heartlessness and cruelty to use it for their own gain without regard for the lives of others. That's all. No noble superheros here.


Well of course our soldiers sacrifice themselves so not everybody killed is bad.

Uh-huh... and of course all the Iraqis killed are bad. If, say, an Iraqi family were killed because their home was destroyed in an American missile attack, they were bad. Of course they were! The Americans killed them, so they must have been bad, because Americans would never kill good people! Really!

... clearly I've overestimated your mental age. You actually have the intellectual capacity of a toddler. An idiot in the true sense of the word.

But do you hear people from US doing it? I don't think so.

Do you ever see my country invade another country and treat it like our own personal foozeball table, with the local people as the ball? I don't think so. We're not as universally hated as you are, for very good reason.

No, there's really no reason for you to give a damn. The only countries being attacked are terrorist strongholds. You proved my point w/ the last sentence: we get to vote, not you. Your opinion doesn't mean sh*t.

There's good reason to give a damn, because George Bush poses more of a global threat than Saddam Hussein ever did. His policies make him a global concern. And my opinion all on its lonesome may not be worth much, but the opinions of everyone around the world are. Public opinion is the one enemy Bush can't drop bombs on, and he knows it. Why do you think he works so hard to come up with emotionally charged lies for Americans to swallow?

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We kicked their ass b/c we could, we had the power to do so, and they needed it kicked.

Aha!! So by your logic, because we can perform abortions, because we have the power to do so, we should!! Excellent. I'm glad you finally see it my way. I will now consider this debate won (by me)

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No no, you can't backtrack on this now. You specifically said "We kicked Iraq's ass because we could". Therefore, by your own admission, anything that we can do is automatically justified by the fact that we can do it.

So either you admit that invading Iraq was wrong (because people are dying - REAL people, not undeveloped ones), or you admit that abortion is right. Otherwise, you're caught in a logical inconsistency.

Btw, I thought we couldn't swear on these boards?? ...piss..

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I also said that they needed it kicked, just as 1940s Germany and Japan did. So neither is being admitted. We can also urinate all over our neighbor's lawn but should we do that?

Your first, and therefore primary reason was "because we could". So clearly, at least on some level you believe that having the most powerful military in the world gives you the right to use it however you want. If you apply that logic to Iraq you must apply it to everything else or be inconsistant. It invalidates your whole argument that abortion is wrong. Guess what? Killing thousands of Iraqis is worse. You've exposed your real opinions, and you can't claim to have the moral high ground any more, since you obviously sanction mass murder if it suits you. You've well and truly dug yourself into a hole here.

I might also point out that Iraqis did not, in fact, need their arses kicked, and that if any nation in the world does, it's the US. And like it or not, it's going to happen one day. Your administration has overextended itself. You may think that the opinions of the rest of the world don't matter, but it may come as a shock to you that there are far more of us then there are of you.

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It was to describe the saying. He wanted to make a difference b/c he had the power to do so. The US had the military muscle to make a difference and did so

Sorry, you can't wriggle out of it that easily. You're still saying the fact that the US had military muscle to impose their will on another country means that they could and they should. Therefore, because a woman and her doctor have the means to effect an abortion, they can and they should. If you want to retract your ridiculous statement, then we'll talk.

You know why I don't like abortion? B/c it violates sheer common sense. The idiots do not deserve our help. Let them suffer.

No, your position violates common sense. No way to enforce it without treating women like slaves. If you think that's ok, you're misogynistic. And what do you mean, they don't deserve YOUR help?? Are you the one giving people abortion?? I thought I'd seen the extent of your arrogance, but here's a new height!

So for them to pretend that they care now is sickening.

If that were actually the case, it would show more than anything that Americans have no business running and ruining other people's lives. However, I suspect it isn't true at all. I think what you're saying is actually a reflection of your own total indifference to the lives of people who are not you. Something like a Freudian slip? You're exposing your true self more and more with each post, it's amusing in a disturbing kind of way.

You're most likely guilty of this too. Can you honestly say that if your and another country were at war, your thoughts wouldn't be better them than me?

You thundering moron, my country IS at war. We sent troops to Afghanistan AND Iraq. And guess what? I still want the coalition to lose. Including our troops. Why? Because it would be shallow and hypocritical in the extreme for me to reverse my political position on the invasion of a sovereign country just because some of the soldiers involved happen to come from the same country as myself.

Oh yes they most certainly did. How else would you get rid of Saddam. And don't forget that they had a million chances to vindicate themselves. They wanted a fight and thats what we gave them.

Have you considered educating yourself about current affairs at all? Or watching something other than the Fox News channel, perhaps? Getting rid of Saddam was only a goal for the US because he was in the way of them taking over the country and exploiting it for their own ends. Not because he was mean to Iraqis. And you seem to be suffering from the delusion that Iraqis are some homogenous mass that all think the same and act the same as Saddam. They don't, many of them didn't support him, most didn't want war with the US and a staggering 82% now want the US gone. The Iraqis in general are not responsible for Saddam's actions, but they are the ones paying for them. The people dying are civilians, you idiot. Iraq was not a nation of terrorists until the US turned the whole country over and shook it until it's bled.

What a joke. Like they all think its a bad thing that the world is becoming rid of terrorism. And most wouldn't dare; they need us a lot more than we need them

Um. Could you possibly be unaware of the fact that so many people around the world hate and distrust the US? Do you also not know that American economic dominance of the world is slipping, and that China is rapidly becoming a significant power? That is a situation that cannot continue indefinitely, no matter what you may think. And the US administration knows it; they're more afraid of China than anything else.
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"In contrast, a foetus is not fully developed. It's not that there's something wrong with their brain/nervous system, it's that it's not even there yet. It's not fully developed, it has no consciousness, no individuality except in the genetic sense, no past or mind or character or personality, no free will, and it's dependent on the body of another person who does have free will. Stop putting up straw men"

"It sure as sh*t will. There's no doubting that. "

"it sure as *beep* will?", what a pathetic argument. im curious, do you loose sleep knowing that you kill millions of potential babies every time you masturbate? I mean, you place so much value on a foetus which is essentialy a clump of cells, whats the difference?

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"My, you are clever aren't you? Did you think that up all on your own. Who do you think you are, telling women not to have sex? Did you ever think of directing that advice at men? They are just as responsible for pregnancy, you know... or did your education not extend that far? "


THANK GOODNESS somebody pointed that out. Unfortunately my fellow sisters, it may be the 21st century but we still have 14th century thinkers out there. Pity.

The fact is the men I have encountered in those situations supported the women's choice or they came to the decision together.

Wait! Maybe we should all be like they do in radical countries and STONE a girl for getting raped! That way killing the gooey embryo, and the sluty girl at the same time! Wow and the little gooey is never aborted. How sacred and life preserving!

And those stupid women who go and flop their legs open, as others so gently described as what happens preveiously, maybe we should send them straight to the electric chair! Darn and that woman would have gone on to find a cure for cancer or something great but oh well - that cold-hearted demoness is dead!

And to all of you who say oh you stupid women use birth control. Yeah? We do and sometimes it fails? But it's our sluty faults right?


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"Darn and that woman would have gone on to find a cure for cancer or something great"

So could the unborn baby.


"And to all of you who say oh you stupid women use birth control. Yeah? We do and sometimes it fails? But it's our sluty faults right?"

Sue the companies, has someone successfully done that?



Number 1, I order you to go take a number 2.

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the whole point of this topic is a fact we all know. there is no point in displaying a fact we all know, sex can lead to pregnancy. get over it now (the language used to is not helping)
and a note to the original statement about women keeping their legs together, so should men. it takes 2 to make a baby, just remember that

Can you stop chucking biscuits Sarah? I'm not the one going away with Norman to East Grinstead!

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