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This Film is Strangely Offensive


I first want to clarify that I have no issue with light entertainment for the sake of light entertainment--and I can appreciate how a more "insubstantial" film could appeal to those looking for a pleasant two hours at the movies. However, I recently saw "The Perfect Man" and was at amazed at how while the movie tries superficially to be as sweet as possible (the mother is even an expert cake-maker), it's really unintentionally dark, mean-spirited, and unusually offensive.

First of all, the fictionalized man Duff's character creates for her mother is a remarkably cruel lie (and just because it's "well-intentioned" doesn't make it less nasty). The scene where Duff sets off a sprinkler system just to perpetuate that lie by preventing the mother from meeting "Ben" is uncalled for. Obviously, it was a sloppy plot device to make sure the two characters didn't meet; however, the film attempts to present such destructive behavior as acceptable and not stepping way over the boundaries--it's handled like some perfectly inconsequential and necessary action. Why doesn't anything come of this--surely major charges would be brought against the girl? And there would most certainly be thousands of dollars in water damage to the restaurant.

Secondly (and even more offensive) was the terribly cliché gay character (played flamboyantly by the most notable of the "Queer Eye for the Straight Guy" cast). It's disturbing how offensively one-dimensional and superficial he is (the character isn't presented as a realistic relatable gay male, but instead exists solely for the audience to laugh at his flamboyantly gay tendencies--he's purely an object to mock). His dialogue is terribly cliché:

"Wait, what could be more important than the perfect man? Oh, duh--the perfect shoes."

His character is so marginalized that he's treated like a commodity--popping in when necessary with his superficially witty gay humor. It gets even worse when he attempts to woo the construction workers from across the street as the movie assumes that just because they're a group of sweaty men, the gay guy must immediately be attracted to them (and don't forget the "Jets" "West Side Story" joke because this guy, since apparently gays have no pop culture knowledge of sports, must immediately draw upon his love for musicals). And finally the last scene at the football game where the macho straight guys stand up with their beers and the gay character pulls out a glass of red wine (and then comments that he hopes the Jets make it to the World Series) is absurdly offensive.

What bothered me the most (and, considering this is aimed directly at Duff's young audience, one must consider the "message" the film presents) is that these very nasty actions and offensive clichés are completely sugarcoated under the guise of a cutesy Hilary Duff romantic comedy. I have to think the hilariously contrived "happy ending" (Duff gets guy, Locklear gets guy, they stay in NYC, younger sister wins spelling bee, Locklear wins cake contest, and gay guy gets straight football friends) was just the writers' consolation for such a narrow and mean-spirited film--as though putting a big gaudy bow on at the end would cancel out the rest of the movie.

Not a single moment in this film felt authentic and, for such a PG family film, it presents a very muddled message.

Michael

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Ok...that reveiw was...creepy...

Another post I'll probably regret posting.

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I guess Michael is a bit angry at life. Dude, it's a movie...I feel for your wife or girlfriend. LOL

Wahhhhh it's muddled LOL...

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But the movie is not just "muddled." The reason "The Perfect Man" stands out to me among other bland pop teen movies is because I was weirdly annoyed by the offensive undercurrents of the story, which tries to mask it by being superficially sweet and sugarcoated.

Michael

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.It's just a movie for Entertainment and Fictional purposes. You are taken this movie to heart.Like those Feminists who have seen Sin City.

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"Sin City" is definitely misogynistic but it is entirely within the context of the 50s noir (the movie is clearly stylized). The issue I have with "The Perfect Man" is that it has such dark and offensive undercurrents while being marketed as a family-friendly and sweet movie.

To say that "It's just a movie for Entertainment and Fictional purposes" doesn't justify portraying (and perpetuating) a VERY offensive homosexual stereotype. With that logic, you're saying that the flamboyantly gay character could be replaced with a black man whose sole purpose in the film is for us to laugh at his stereotypical eating of fried chicken and watermelon and, since it is fictional and for entertainment, that would be entirely acceptable (even though it blatantly perpetuates an unfair and untrue cultural stereotype).

Michael

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I have nothing against gays alright.In my opinion it's just a movie for Entertainment purposes. I was never trying to make you feel like you weren't entitled to your opinion at all.But Ia m entitled to mine too and I feel like it is just movie for Entertainment Purposes and nothing to take to heart...

Why did you bother to see it if you think it is offensive? Just a question.

Now I'm going to go because I'm sorry I started posting at The Perfect man board again.

Adieu

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I never claimed you were "trash talking" my opinion. And it wasn't until AFTER I saw the movie that I appreciated how offensive it is (as you don't really get that impression from the film's marketing). Again, I'm sure the writers didn't blatantly attempt to present an offensive gay character (I'm sure they had the best of intentions and included him solely to up the humor); however, the way the film presents homosexuality is remarkably stereotypical.

Think of it this way: it's okay to have a gay character when he's on the sideline and included just to be laughed at. But imagine if Hilary Duff's character were a lesbian and developed as a multi-dimensional human (obviously, not going to happen in a film marketed for younger audiences because there would no doubt be a huge public backlash).

Michael

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I know you weren't claiming that.I just thought by reading your reply that you felt like I was and that's why I had said that.

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Uh..isn't the Queer Eye Guy really gay though? How is it offensive to you if he's not even offended himself? If he was offended then he wouldn't have taken the part. Obviously he didn't mind the so called stereotype & I don't know why you would be.

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Dude whats ur problem its just a movie chill!!!
the resturant wasnt really the first thing that the viewer thinks of :S and plus insurence!!! :) plus the gay guy is only really init to make us laugh he basically just takes the piss outta himself i thought he was a little funny he wasnt "offensive" look at it this way its only a film man dont take it so seriously!!! lmao

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umm... what's wrong with a movie in which a black man eats fried chicken and watermelon for comic relief??

I certainly wouldn't consider it offensive...

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Don't you think you're taking it....abit to serious? There are plently of movies out there with worse things in them. You just had to pick a romantic comedy with Hillary Duff to vent your frustration? Yes, it's your oppinion, but it's just alittle harsh.

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Dude, Carson always talks about shoes and clothes and stuff like that. It is his J.O.B. He does fashion on QE. It's only funnier that he does it as a guy named Lance.
(My uncle was hit on by a guy named Lance when he was a busboy)

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I agree. I love this movie because it's so bad! Especially the part when she ran into the wedding to interrupt it because she thought she knew "the perfect man" from the few conversations they've had.

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Unfourtunately, we live in a stereotypical world. There was plenty of time in the commericals of the gay guy saying stereotypical comments. And, for you being offended by him saying that he hoped the Jets make it to the World Series, when I watched the movie, I didnt catch it until my sister told me it.

You're just looking WAAAY too into the movie. Its made for entertainment purposes, not to offend the gay community, or anyone else for that matter.

Clearly you missed the theme of the movie... You shouldn't run from your problems. You have to face them.

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Michael,

I completely agree. You put it much better than I ever could have.

The fire sprinklers at the restaurant were completely ignored, the damage and illegality of it all glossed over.

The cliched lines (I could see them coming a mile away), the stereotypical gay man, the inconsiderate acts that go without discipline. Very painful, indeed.

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I haven't even seen this movie, but there's one thing about it that offends me already. And I'm sure you all know what that is.
If you don't, go to the top of the page for this movie. Read who's in the cast. Read five names down.
He does NOT deserve this. I am offended.

If you can read this, congrats!

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Michael, I agree too. Nice work.

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Actually I agree with you. This is one of those movies that seem nice and sweet but once it's picked apart, there are elements that are pretty creepy. The whole plot revolves around Holly making her mom believe she has a secret admirer right? Well if you get down to it, Holly's romancing her mother. Yeah her intentions are good, but still, ew. I think they should have played the whole thing as a dark comedy.

I heard somewhere that the girl this movie was based on did get into some trouble with the law. They should have gone the dark comedy route.
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i like it

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If you look at the movie from that point of view, than you could apply that ideal to just about any movie. Princess Diaries was critized for taking a girl with curly hair, calling her ugly, and making her hair straight and then she was beautiful. Hell, I could go back to St. Elmo's Fire and the characterization of "the rock star" played by Rob Lowe, or even Demi Moore's character. If you pick about movies like you did, then most everything would be considered offensive in some form or fashion.

Carson is like that a lot in real life, if you watch Queer Eye enough. If you took it as a stereotype, then maybe look at it from the point of maybe he was just really being himself.

Yes, that is a gay stereotype, BUT, some homosexuals do act that way and there's nothing wrong with that. Also, yes, in real-life, Hilary's character would have gotten into serious trouble for setting off the sprinklers, but it's a movie, and like the majority of the people that posted, I agree, the movie is for Entertainment value.

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"Princess Diaries" is hardly a work of art, but it offers what it promises without an undertone of cruelty. While Carson may be flamingly shallow in real life, one must realize that this is a film, he's an actor, and his role was written. Do we hold all actors up to this same standard that the only characters they play must be mirror reflections of their real-life selves?

And excuse me, but homosexuals are more than just witty bitches who add absurdly superficial quips at the perfect moments.

Michael

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Michael, you just said what was nagging me all night.

I watched it under duress since I was at a sleepover with friends. The cliches and so on didn't disturb me as much as the message that "To be a whingy self-absorbed teenager is great - actually no, it's admirable."

Hilary Duff's character, while obviously enduring a fair bit, had no real understanding of the sacrifices her mother made and the effort (however misguided) she put into parenting. Her brattish temper tantrums came off as completely selfish - but I got the impression that the audience was meant to applaud her for standing up for herself. What REALLY got me was when she managed to blame her mother for the conspiracy SHE MADE UP. It was stupid, insensitive, and badly done - yet she absolved herself of blame!!!!!!

What irritated me most of all was that I don't think the audience was meant to think this - yet it was so blatantly obvious. This was not just an average badly-acted teen rom com, it actually represented really questionable morals.

Aboslutely not a fan.

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I'm very glad you appreciated the unusually murky undertones of this superficial film.

Michael

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