My Story
One night while flipping through the movie channels, I came across "Mail Order Wife" and thought I'd watch a bit, thinking maybe this would help me better understand and connect with my dad's new wife (A Filipina). I started watching where she's with Andrew, and I stopped watching when she left Andrew, so I had no idea about Adrian, or the ending. I then set my DVR to record the next time so I could see the whole thing. I watched that today, and was really horrified at what this movie was. Then I came to IMDB in the middle of the movie (where I had seen these parts before) and discovered it was in fact a Mockumentary, and I was really wondering, and hoping so. But I do know that what Adrian brought her over for.. is in fact a big reason men bring over women to America. They want someone to cook, clean and take care of any carnal desires the man has as well. She is a servant, and its easy to make and keep a servant from another country because they learn to be that way in China, Burma, Philippines, etc.. they want so much to make you happy so you will keep them.
So on to my story of this... My mother passed away at the young age of 61. My father was 65. Within a months time he was meeting women off the internet, and he was having sexual relations with them (the proof was in his bathroom one day as we were visiting). I also know he was/is taking viagra. Anyway, soon after he was meeting women off the internet, he met a Filipina through a Filipina website for men looking for filipina women to marry. He was speaking with several women through email, webcam and microphone (he asked us to hook all this up or him at the time). He apparently found one he liked. He brought her over. They married. Myself and my siblings are all uncomfortable with this, always have been, and probably always will be. None of us can be sure she's not just using my father for a way into a "free" country. I also feel bad for her. She seems like a nice of girl, but we barely understand each other, she works like a dog around the house cleaning and cooking, and my dad watches tv. He also screams at her like I've never heard before. He never talked to my mother that way, she would have told him where to stick it. He yells at me too, but I'm used to it, and I don't let it get to me anymore like it used to, but I don't know if she can take care of herself. So far she seems to be holding her own. She's been here a year now. They married after about 2 months. They are now bringing over her 18 year old (bastard) son.. she was never married. Which confuses me because she's apparently very "catholic", always has been.. yet has a son? Anyway.. where I'm going with this is that its apparently a regular thing in this area anyway, where men "order" women. They tend to be a lot older than these women too. The difference between my father and his wife is a little more than 20 years. My oldest brother is in fact, her age. Its .. weird.
Anyway... I do have to accept this. This is what my father wants. I hope and pray that she isn't here to hurt him or take anything from him, but that she really does love him.
If you are an adult dealing with your fathers marriage to a "Mail order bride", I look forward to hearing from you. Please reply here, or PM me, and we can correspond. Maybe you have some tips on how to speed up the process of accepting whats going on.
I have been through several stages. Scared before she came, angry when she got here (but I hadn't met her yet) and angry again when she was telling me a lot of stuff that I really didn't want to know. I like her now, she's basically nice, but she still seems very odd to me. I can't trust her.
Look forward to hearing from you!