Was Ursula attracted to him in a emotional relationship way or did she really have sexual feelings for the boy? Did she want to make love to him? Didn't she have some pretty erotic dreams of her and the boy? I assume she never married and perhaps never had a physical relationship with a man. She tells her sister that it's not fair that the sister had a man and she never did.
shareI think that she DID have sexual feelings for him, but they were feelings that were very strongly controlled and inhibited by her age, her sense of responsibility and her common sense.
I think that part of her deep sadness was the recognition that all the wonderful things that could happen in a relationship were never going to happen to her.
He was the boy of her dreams! When she imagined herself with him, she didn't think of him with her the way that she was in the present. That would have been quite improper. She saw herself as she was when she was young.
Absolutely agree, Mandyjam. I too think that in her untouched heart she was kind of frozen in time and still had a deep longing for romance and intimacy. I don't think it helped that she lived with her sister in a remote house just doing regular things like laundry and gardening...knitting etc. When this strange young man drifted onto the beach it must have struck her as being akin to something out of a romance novel and made her imagination run away with her. In her imagination she had dark hair so was picturing herself as younger but she showed a poignant restraint in my opinion. Had it been an older man and a beautiful young girl I don't think the same "appropriate" restraint would have been shown!
"These days you have to boil someone before you can sleep with them"
Andrea made Ursula feel things she hadn't felt in years, but he also reminded her just how much time had passed by. She's no longer a young woman, and she realised what she's missed out on and will never experience. He represented lost youth.
ROCK STARS HAVE KIDNAPPED MY SON
Yes, she did. But at that time a relationship with a much younger man and her would have not been approved of and she knew this. Also, she knew the young man did not have the mind set necessary for a relationship with her. He clearly still found things in common with others his own age and still found those of the opposite sex of his own age attractive. Most young people who want a relationship with someone older does so because they feel they have less in common with those of the opposite sex who are of the same age. The younger person is of a more mature mind and identifies more with the feelings and activities of older ones. Ursula also knew that due to his circumstances, he was to some extent in a state of confusion and uncertainty-about his life and his career. He was not in any position to even consider any feelings for her.
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