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Giles was a reprehensible sod


Is it just me, or did Giles strike anyone as a louse? I lost a lot of respect for Jimi Mistry's character after he basically forgave Giles at the end of the film when, through circuitous conversation, Giles admitted to *beep* around. I had to force myself to not turn off the film when it was first showed Giles in bed with the olympian. Disgusting. I am a gay man, and I am sickened by the promiscuity and aloof indifference that is unfortunately attributed (and is sadly often true) to gay men in movies.

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I didn't like the fact that he cheated either...but overall I loved the movie. I guess things aren't always perfect and humans do some pretty stupid things sometimes, and I guess in the end it is about forgiveness and love.

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Yes, it was a bit unfair that he cheated while Alim was having some family problems.

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Yeah it was messed up that he had cheated when Alim was in his most vulnerable state. However, it is not that uncommon for people gay or straight to seek out affection and self gratification when a relationship is hanging by a thread. I think whether you are gay or straight relationships and all the turmoil associated with it can bring out selfish qualities in us that we are not very proud of. Giles did what alot of people in his situation would have. It didn't change how he felt for Alim. Iknow some will not agree, but sometimes one thing has nothing to do with another.

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Not that I'm condoning what Giles did, however, did you ntoice how Alim treated him throughout the entire film? I thought that Giles was insanely patient and understanding. He was kicked out of his bed, made to be some "roomie" or complete stranger as the mother put it, and was blatantly disregarded as a human being several times in the presence of his boyfriend and the mother. I would not put up with that. I understand why some couples break up when only one person wants to be out of the closet. It's really hard. The fact that Giles really charmed Alim's mom shows how much he truly cares about Alim. The bad accent and semi-2D relationship aside. (I mean, that anniversary scene in the beginning is soooo lame and deflated - if that's how a London gaybar is - bleeeech). :)

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> did you ntoice how Alim treated him throughout the entire film?

Well, that it is exactly. Alim was treating Giles as "just a roommate," so it was perfectly fair that Giles acted like an unattached, single, roommate.

Alim was the screwed-up character and he is the one who should suffer any unfortunate consequences. Giles tried everything he could think of, within the boundaries that Alim gave hime and nothing worked.

Giles couldn't take it anymore and he screwed around. Sorry, but that was Alim's fault. Alim accidentally forgave Giles and that was fortunate.

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I had to force myself to not turn off the film when it...showed Giles in bed with the olympian. Disgusting. I am a gay man and I am sickened by the promiscuity and aloof indifference that is unfortunately attributed (and is sadly often true) to gay men in movies.


Promiscuity and "aloof indifference" [to what?] are infinitely preferable to the smarmy self-righteousness of the new holy gays. If you want to be a faithful Francis and "marry" one soulmate and all that jazz, do it and leave others to do what they otherwise please.

You nauseate me just a much as the homophobes who arrogate to themselves the faculty of determining what my behaviour ought to be. Who are you?




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"I had to force myself to not turn off the film when it...showed Giles in bed with the olympian. Disgusting. I am a gay man and I am sickened"

What? There is one "fictional" gay charactor in a film as a cheater and that sicken you???
>In reality, there are tons of cheaters around, straight or gay.....so in order not to offend you or you would threaten to turn it off, all films and tv shows will not have any "cheating gay-charactor"??? Then where is reality? Where is the drama?
>OP, you are so lame, does it mean all gays are lame {in accordence to your theory } ?
>Ok, so you don't cheat, but do you even have a boyfriend?

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he didn't cheat tho, they were split up when Giles slept with the other guy.

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Was he reprehensible?
Or was he hurting:
-- because his boyfriend jumped back into the closet when his mother came for a surprise visit?
-- because boyfriend's mother was treating him two degrees lower than dirt?
-- at the Mother's constant criticism of the man he loved? Absolutely NOTHING about Alim was good enough for her. His job, his house, his roommate, his cooking, even his cookware was unacceptable.
-- because his boyfriend's backbone suddenly evaporated? Alim was so completely subservient to all of Mummy Dearest's criticism he did everything but kneel and touch his head to the floor.

That sleazy cousin was my notion of reprehensible. However, that seemed to be okay with Cousin's mother as long as he brought in lots and lots of money - and eventually gave her a grandchild.

Remember, too: In forgiving Giles, Alim admitted his own shortcomings having had a part in it as well.

I don't think this instance of infidelity was part of the promiscuity portrayed in so many cheap-shot all-gays-are-like-that movies.

I think they will weather this storm and their partnership will be the stronger for it. -- And now they can get married in the UK.

While neither of us cheated, there was a great lot of stuff my guy and I did survive over 37 years of richer-and-poorer, sickness-and-health, drama-and-comedy, closeted-(in the southeast)-and-out-(in California).

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